Did you share dress shopping with your mom/other relatives and friends?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you share dress shopping (as in physical, going to the store shopping) with others?
    Yes, with my mom : (58 votes)
    40 %
    Yes, with my friends : (12 votes)
    8 %
    Yes, with my FI : (5 votes)
    3 %
    Yes, with various friends and relatives : (47 votes)
    33 %
    No, shopped on my own : (14 votes)
    10 %
    No, shopped online : (8 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    8388 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Creiddylad:  Well considering that everytime I’ve seen my mom she tells me I’m fat, I felt like she wasn’t the best person to take with.  My groom helped me pick out my dress and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

    Post # 4
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Creiddylad:  i didnt want to go with anyone because i always try to make others happy and if i had taken some other family members/friends i know i wouldnt have the dress i fell in love with- the only reason i took my mom was because she said “im buying it i have to go, ill sit down and shut up and you pick it” 

    Post # 5
    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Creiddylad:  I went with my mom the first time, which was nice. After that she wanted me do fly up to visit her and go dress shopping with a few aunts I don’t get along with, my grandmother, my moms bff, ect.  I was willing to go with my grandmother, but I didn’t want it to turn into a spectacle (especially since one of those aunts never has anything nice to say EVER). It turned into a huge fight between me and my mom because she said i was being selfish since i’m the only niece/granddaughter…so I just bought my dress then so i wouldn’t need to fight with her over it. LOL (Granted, I already knew i had THE dress, so i didn’t buy it just to buy it)

    Post # 6
    20 posts
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @Creiddylad:  I went with a bridesmaid to a Brides against breast cancer used dress sale. (perfect option IMO, good variety and no pressure to purchase.) Then I took my mom and my side of wedding party to David’s Bridal and bought a dress that trip. 

    Their reaction to each dress is really what helped me make my decision.

    Post # 7
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I went a few times with friends to get a feel for what styles I like.  Then, I went with my mom, grandmother and sisters to find “the dress”.

    Post # 8
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I went with my Mom and sisters!

    Post # 9
    473 posts
    Helper bee

    Even though I’m a people-pleaser,  I would never be able to go alone. I have done almost all my clothes shopping with my mom, so it was a no brainer that she come. And I invited FMIL along as well. I felt a little silly not having any bridesmaids/younger people there, but they both knew what I wanted and knew what looked good on me. They helped me keep it classy. ;D

    Post # 10
    2051 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I planned a few appointments with my mum and my grandma a little while in advance since I needed Saturdays. Before they came around, I ended up going the first time with two of my bridesmaids. My mum wanted to buy my dress, so shopping with friends first was actually a great idea because I was able to try on all sorts of styles without feeling like I was seriously looking. I also tried on some very expensive dresses for the fun of it! That meant that when I did go shopping with my mum and grandma I already had an idea of what styles I liked and we could focus on finding “the one”. 


    My advice would be to go with whoever you feel most comfortable with, but not more than 2 or 3 people at once. 2 opinions at a time was plenty for me!

    Post # 11
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

    I went with MIL and SIL. All my family lives across the country, or I would have taken my mom and sisters. 

    Post # 12
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I went with both of our mothers and my MOH (and flower girl) 

    Post # 13
    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Just my mom and I were there the day I got the dress. We did facetime my sister for approval though. LOL

    Post # 14
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I was very tempted to make it a grand affair because I am very close with my 3 aunts and grandmother, as well as my FSIL (who is 17 and dying of excitement to finally have a sister). However, the place that I went to had a 4 person max, so I ended up only bringing my mom, grandmother and MOH. Let me tell you, thank GOD I kept it “small” because I’m not sure how I would have handled my super loud, super excitable family. As it is, I am not at all an attention-seeking type, so I think having so many people around to tell me “OH MY GAWWWD HOW GAWWWGGGEEOUUUSSS ARE YOU” or “weeelllllll you knnnnoooowww I’m not craaaazy about the tuuuullllleee” would have probably given me a heart attack. I think less is definitely more so that the bride’s judgement doesn’t get clouded by so many positve (or negative) reactions. As it was I could feel myself beginning to get swayed by their opinions. Lucky for me, they all loved the dress I loved, so it worked out and helped me commit.

    Post # 15
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I shopped on my own, then showed Mr. Lk, my Mom, and teen Lk the dress for their sake before actually buying it. I really wasn’t interested in anyone’s opinion other than Mr. Lk, but my mom would have thrown a fit if I didn’t let her see it first. It was easier to say, Mom here is the dress I am buying, but at least let her feel like she had input than to completely exclude her from the process and have her throw a hissy fit. Ultimately it worked out for the best. She felt included, and I got the dress that I wanted. win! 

    Post # 16
    3777 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I went with my friends first, then just with my mom when I found “the dress.”

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