Post # 1
Working on my invitations, and on the fence about stating attire…. I feel like I’ve seen lots without. I also feel like most people can figure out what to wear to a wedding based on location, time of day, etc…. but don’t want to regret omitting it, haha.
What did you do?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s my place to tell anyone what to wear.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You only need to mention attire if the average guest wouldn’t assume correctly.
We had a wedding on the beach, but we needed our guests to know it was still a semi-formal event, so we researched a lot for the best wording, and found on either Real Simple of Martha Stewart, the term “beach formal” which is kind of like resort casual. We put it in small letters on the bottom corner of the invitaiton. We were planning not to say anything, but guests had already asked my husband if they could wear shorts… and, um, NO, so we realized that beach wedding in Florida might give people the wrong idea.
Post # 5
We wrote “formal attire requested”
Post # 6
@Almost Mrs.P: We specified “Cocktail Attire” in the bottom right corner of the invitation. Our venue has the word “Cafe” in the name, so we were worried that people might think it was a casual event. When we announced where we were getting married, SO’s great-uncle announced he would we wearing a Hawaiian shirt. Um, no.
Post # 7
yes i wrote smart casual , no jueans as this is glof club house rules.x
Post # 8
We didn’t write anything and assumed that the time of day, the venue, and the formality level of the invitations would communicate the level of formality of (and thus appropriate attire for) our wedding. It worked well for us; I don’t remember seeing anyone who was dressed inappropriately.
Post # 9
I don’t care what people wear, as long as it isn’t a bathing suit or sweatpants.
The people I invited are all people I love and will have a good time with, so they can wear a dress or jeans, it doesn’t matter 🙂
Post # 10
@Birdee106: +1. Why do we agree on everything?! We are all adults and don’t need to be told how to dress. I would not lilke to see this on an invitation. I’ve heard brides go so far as to specify the type and colour of clothing that “must” be worn. Give me a break.
Post # 11
Nope. I put something on the website, but our wedding is pretty casual.
Post # 12
We indicated “formal attire requested” at the bottom of the invitation. On our wedding website we indicated suggestions and a request for no jeans/khakis etc.
Post # 13
From Traditional Etiquette POV it is improper to put a Dress Code onto the Wedding Invite… it is usually only seen on the Invitation to the Reception, and then in a discreet way (ie lower right-hand corner)
And then it should never appear as an Order / Directive… but just simply put.
So… Black Tie would be correct
BUT … Black Tie Preferred would not be
Today this sort of info … is something that is most often relegated to the Wedding Website… and one of the Info Pages which is fine.
Lol, as I have admitted many times on WBee… I happen to know ALL the Rules, but am not above breaking them on occasion (or more correctly evaluating the risk when making a choice… which is what every Bride should do)
Our Own Back Home Reception Party was very casual… as were our Invites. So we had a bit of the “theme” for the party… and I put that info on the backside of the Invite Card. As in “Feel free to get in the festive mood, and dress accordingly”
Hope this helps,
Post # 14
@mrsSonthebeach: Yeah, the beach thing definitely makes it harder if you want people to be more dressed up!
@LittleRiver: Lol on the Hawaiian shirt!
@Gemstone: This is kind of what I’m hoping for.
@This Time Round: Whew, thanks for the overview!
Thanks for all the feedback, ladies! I am kind of hoping that the formality of our invitations will convey the feel. FI and the groomsmen will be in tuxes, but I certainly don’t expect all of our guests to be that dressed up. Definitely dressy, though. I think we may skip putting anything in the invites, but include something on the website.
Post # 15
We didn’t state attire on our invitations, we just included a note with our save-the-dates to check out our wedding website for pertanant information like directions to and from the church and reception venue, registry links, and infromation about attire (ours was somewhere between casual and semi-formal).
Post # 16
I also do not find it acceptable to tell grown adults what to wear to my wedding. I could care less what they wear as long as they are there and supporting us!