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We're planning to spend the night together. A lot of my friends haven't.
I said to my mum that we were going to and she had a moment of being "shocked" before remembering that she and my dad spent the night before their wedding together!
We stayed together at our house the night before, there was never any question that we wouldn't, even though my mom is now convinced we'll get divorced solely because of this. :p We'd woken up together every morning for the last year and a half so we thought not waking up together on our wedding day seemed kind of odd.
We did not. DH is a bit more traditional, so he went home and spent the night with his sister (Best Woman) and I stayed at my great-aunt's, where I was getting ready and taking family pictures on the big day.
I found it very surprising that it was our friends who were against the idea. Our families didn't question it. We stayed next door to our venue and the room was over $250 for that night. We live over 45 minutes away and our ceremony was at 11:30 am.
We woke up around 6 am, and he went to the buffet and brought us both breakfast. We ate together and than he went to his parents room. The women all came and got ready in our room and the men in his parents. He kept finding excuses to come up for something and I kept yelled at him to go away.
We did. We had a destination wedding and it was just easier. But I liked waking up next to him on the day of the wedding. In fact, we hung out together until I had my hair and makeup appointments at 3.
We are not. We're having a destination wedding, and the night before the wedding, I am staying in a room with my sister. I want the first time we see each other on our wedding day day to be when I walk down the aisle to him.
LOL, My FI does not want to spend the night before the wedding together! I don't mind, but he has his mind set on not seing eachother at least a few days before the wedding day. It makes me all giddy thinking about being away from him, especially for the wedding. I
I have also been jokingly saying that we can even make it two weeks in not seing eachother. That idea was not that fun according to FI. LoL.
we stayed in seperate hotels. I was with my Bridesmaids and he was with the groomsmen
We will be sharing a room in the villa and my parents and his will be there as well. If tradition held, then it would be good luck, smooth sailing and no divorce for couples who do not see each other before the wedding but that is not always reality. Well, I say if you want to tradition go ahead and do it, but I fail to see the bad luck in seeing the groom the night and morning of. As long as you are happy with your decision, go ahead and enjoy your big day!
I'll see him at our rehearsal dinner and welcome cocktail reception...then we'll retreat to our own hotel rooms for that night and I won't see him until our "first look" about an hour or two before our wedding...even if I saw him beforehand, I'm not superstitious about it.
We will. I ended up booking the night before in our hotel to make sure we had a room in time for makeup appts. My thought is, we're both paying for it, so we should both enjoy it. :)
We will be since we're not having the traditional wedding anymore.
ETA: We originally booked separate rooms at the inn we were going to get married at. We were both pretty stoked about it. He surprised me with not wanting to spend the night with me and waiting to see the dress.
We slept in separate bedrooms and parted ways at midnight. We both were still trying to finish up last miniute things for the wedding and I was out f hte house hours before he even woke up so there would not have been a romantic waking up together.
We spent the night together and never seriously considered doing otherwise.
I've said it before, but waking up with him and spending a quiet morning together before all the hustle and bustle started is one of my most cherished wedding day memories.
it's funny because im not doing a first look or anything, so the first time we'll see eachother is on the aisle, but i totally want to spend the night before with him!
i want to spend it at home, with him in our bed. i'm trying to get the best nights sleep possible, and i think this is the way to do it.
i doubt it will actually happen, though.... sigh.
My husband and I not only slept together the night before, he drove his sister and me to the church to get ready. That's one tradition that's not for me!
It doesn't matter to me if we do or we don't... I'd like to so I sleep better but I don't think we will because I'll have things to finish up with my bridesmaids and we'll all be staying together. =/
We plan on sleeping in separate places, although he thinks is kinda funky to do so. I plan on taking that evening to center myself and really spend time with my mama and my "fairy godmothers" (her 3 closest friends) who are all very close to me. He plans on having a good night out with the boys the night before.
I'm also adamant that he NOT see me in my dress until I'm walking towards him in it, even if he knows which dress I may have bought. Call me old fashioined... I like the romance of it.
I am spending the night before the wedding in the honeymoon suite with my bridesmaids. FI will be welcome to have his groomsmen (and their wives who aren't my bridesmaids) over to our house the night before to keep his nerves down. 1-2 of the guys will be coming from out of town, so, logistically, it makes sense for them to all get ready in one place. All three of my bridesmaids are from out of state, so they'd have to stay in the hotel anyway, this way I save them some $$ and we get to have fun. I'm thinking of bringing bubble bath for the enormous hotel bathtub, mimosas, and swimsuits.
We slept separately, but we also didn't live together before we were married either.
We didn't. It was kind of nice, because I got to stay in a hotel room with my sister (MOH) and we stayed up late giggling, just like when we were little girls. My parents and aunt, uncle, and cousin were all across the hallway...so we all had a nice evening to chat and a fun morning together of running around. It was especially important for me that we do this, as I hadn't seen any of my family in over a year and a half (moved out of state, flew back home for the wedding), so it gave me a bit of time with them before we left on our honeymoon. My DH got to stay with one of the groomsmen and play video games until the wee hours of the morning like old times, too! It made it kind of exciting, not seeing each other after the rehearsal the night before. :)
I stayed by myself and it was the best choice that I ever made. After the RD I went back to the hotel room I planned to get ready in the next day. I was able to calm down and relax. Reflect on what was coming the next day and prepare. I got into bed around midnight or so and slept until 8am. I was afraid I wouldn't have been able to sleep, as I've heard other brides mention, but being alone made getting rest much easier. I woke up that morning and went and got myself breakfast and a coffee and enjoyed the time to myself before the girls showed up and started going crazy. I was amazingly relaxed and ready (not my type A personality at all). It made the day so much more enjoyable for me.
I'm not planning on it... besides it taking away from the whole wedding feeling our wedding is in my hometown. I plan on staying at my parents house. My boy is big and takes up a lot of my old full sided bed... and snores... and with the big day coming up and all I WANT MY SLEEP!
Yup. We slept in our own bed and it was perfect. Nobody seemed surprised; my mother briefly asked if my bridesmaids and I would be having a sleepover at the hotel but when I told her I was just staying at the apartment she just went, "Oh," and that was the end of it. I mean, we had already lived together for a year and a half, spending that one night symbolically apart seemed a bit silly.
Besides, if I'd tried to sleep anywhere else I would have been up all night. I hate sleeping in strange beds. Going to bed in my own home and cuddling with DH was relaxing and natural for me, I had probably one of the best sleeps of my life.
I'm surprised to see so many bees spending the night before with their FI's. We are definitely not...it wasn't even a question.
My FH and I live together, but we still want that old school excitement! We are actually intending on spending the whole WEEK before the wedding apart, or at least a few days! We will obviously see each other at the rehearsal dinner, but in public where we'll be mostly distracted with our guests. After that, we'll split off and he can go bro out and us ladies will tackle a ridiculous tower of wine.
I dont think you HAVE to do it, but I definitely think it adds to the excitement of the day.
We live together, but will be spending the night before the wedding apart. He's staying at one of the groomsmen's places where they are getting ready the next day and I am staying at my parents's place where my bridesmaids and I are getting ready the next day. We are doing it because we like the tradition, but also because we offered our apartment up for FI's family to stay at so it would be too crowded!
We are staying in separate rooms. We are doing a destination wedding and while we are at the same small inn, we do not want to see each other the day of the wedding until I walk down the aisle. We live together so a night apart will be different for us, but I think it will be nice to hang out with friends the night before and miss each other a bit before getting married!
We have every intention of staying together the night before.
When we get married next January, we'll have not seen each other in person for a little over a year. I think that's plenty of nights apart. :)
We did. But we also got married just to the two of us in a private little ceremony while on vacation in New York. I think it's just a personal choice that varies by the couple, but I know that being married felt totally different, so it didn't really matter we slept in the same bed the night before (and every night for several years beforehand.)
Do what feels right for you.
I was planning on it, but when I was discussing going out the night before he was like well we can't go together because I can't see you on the wedding day. I was like well - I don't think seeing me at 2 am will really hurt anything (since we have lived together for 3+ years) I was planning on him just leaving in the AM since our wedding isn't til 430 so there is plenty of time to get ready after. Guess we'll see though. :)
I told my SO about this and that I've decided to go the trraditional route and stay at my parents place. He said he'd never heard of this before and asked me where he's supposed to stay that night? I said ''I don't know, that's up to you. You can stay anywhere but at my parents'' ;)
I thought it was kinds cute that he seemed a little dissapointed that we wouldn't spend the night before the wedding together. Then I realized why people do this. I think it builds a little anticipation of seeing eachother again. I know that when we meet eyes for the first time on our wedding day as I'm walking down the isle to join him, it will feel intense.
I'm not saying that you will only have an "intense'' feeling if you spend the night before appart, but for me I know this will make that feeling uniqely different. A kind of marker of our new life together. A moment that I'm hoping we can both cheerish forever.
To each their own I guess.... :)
DH and I had some "fun" together after our rehearsal festivities. But then we stayed in separate hotel rooms for the night and didn't see each other until our first look the next day.
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I've seen a few posts on here and was wondering- is spending the night before your wedding with your fiance uncommon? I always assumed I would... I guess I thought that not sleeping together the night before was an old school thing. Or maybe that to be brides just had their friends over for the night? I have my girlfriends, but we are not sleep over people at all.
Did you/would you/ do you plan to?