(Closed) Did you take it personally when people couldn’t come?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

The only one that made me really disappointed was my FMIL not coming.  I know some brides would find this a blessing, but it kind of hurt.  She said it was because she couldn’t get along with my husband’s dad’s side of the family – it was too much after the divorce 16 years ago to be around them.  However, I kind of have my doubts now.  The first time I saw her since the wedding was Friday night when she watched our kids for my work party and when we got home she took off before I could even say hi or thanks or anything.  Is it me?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m having a DW so I definitely can’t take it personally.  I have some friends that i’d be sad if they didn’t come though, and i hope that all my Yes RVSPs stay that way.

Post # 5
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was personally disappointed with only 1 no-show. It was from my good friend from high school. She was the only one I noticed wasn’t there because I was so looking forward to seeing her. At the time, I was a little upset that I received no word from her but by the time I got home I checked an email that had her explanation. From what she said, it was a totally valid reason not to come. I guess I just expected a phone call or text…

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sigh, I’m going to have this problem. My very best friends are all in GA, but we’ll be getting married in Lexington so I expect that alot of my friends won’t be able to come. Here’s hoping they’ll make the trip anyway, but I know alot of my parents friends won’t be able to and since they’re practically my family, it will be hard on all of us that they won’t be coming.

Post # 7
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I probably won’t take it personally but I’ll be so disappointed.  There are such a small amount of people that I don’t want to come.  But, if people that are close to me don’t have valid reasons for showing (not that they really owe a reason but it’d be nice to say why), then we have a problem!

Post # 8
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have been very good friends with a couple from my church since I was like 10, she’s seen me grow up, she loves my FI and she was so excited when we told her we were getting married. She is coming to the ceremony and not the reception, and it hurts so bad.

There are a couple other’s I was disappointed about not coming, but it wasn’t too hard to get over.

One other thing is a woman I used to work with just told me last night she’s not coming, she’s like my second mom, that hurt a lot too, still trying to work through that one.

It’s so weird you think it would be ok good, now I don’t have to shell out the cash, but it’s actually hard since they are invited for a reason

Post # 9
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1205 posts
Bumble bee

I know I will feel like that.  The reason we invite people is because we want them there!

Post # 10
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273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I knew we would be getting quite a few declines, as we had a destination wedding for almost everyone… (my FI and I met in London, UK, and our families and friends are all over the world…) but it was really difficult to still not be disappointed…

The ones that really hurt were some declines from couples / very good friends of ours, in which we had made a lot of effort to be at their weddings just the year before and two years prior.  (Flown across oceans, hotels, thousands of dollars, etc.)  I know that circumstances change, but sometimes, you just really think that when you are there for people, that they will be there for you one day, you know?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I know I will feel like that.  The reason we invite people is because we want them there!

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