Did you take your husband's last name?

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: Did you take your husband's last name?
    Yes : (115 votes)
    70 %
    No : (42 votes)
    26 %
    I hyphenated it with my last name (ex. Smith-Jones) : (7 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    He’s taking my last name.

    Post # 5
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Miss Wellies:  My husband is too! Well, at least that’s the plan when we have a kid. For now, we just kept our own names. Have you told his family yet? Did you get flack? My inlaws have been very understanding about me keeping my last name but we haven’t told them he’s going to take mine whenwe have a kid.

    Post # 6
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2000


    It’s not as unheard of as you’d think. When I lived in Germany, two of my male colleagues took their wives’ surnames. It was a really refreshing feeling, having to retrain yourself with a guy’s new name for once!

    I stuck with my own. It’s my name. We know we’re married. (This isn’t to say I feel everyone should share my opinion, it’s just something we’re both comfortable with)

    Post # 7
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    @JenGirl:  *high fives!* We haven’t told anyone yet, although we plan to announce it after we get married. If we do get flack, we’ll just say it’s important to both of us to continue my family name, since I only have one male cousin who might pass it on.

    Post # 8
    44 posts
    • Wedding: June 2014 - White Horse Inn

    His name just sounds way sweeter with my first name! Plus it’s shorder to write out 😉

    Post # 9
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Ah, well good luck! If the reactions to me not changing are any indication, I think peoplea re becoming more open to non-traditional naming options after marriage.

    Post # 10
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Haha wow, very rarely am I the traditionalist in any group.  But I did take my husband’s last name, and I moved my maiden name to a middle name.  But I love my original middle name and kept it as well, so now I have two middle names.  

    Firstname Middlename Maidenname Lastname.

    Kinda goofy, but it’s not like I”m going around demanding that people call me by my 4-name legal name  🙂

    Post # 11
    1154 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I can’t wait to drop my last name, so I’ll be taking his (or we’ll both be taking a new name if I can talk him into it, but he’s not thrilled with that idea so I’ll probably just be taking his) 🙂

    Post # 12
    6455 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I did. I honestly didn’t even have to think twice about it. 

    Post # 13
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @lolot:  I’ve thought about this too. I do plan to take his last name because that’s just what you do when married (IMO anyway). But I don’t particularly like his last name! 

    Post # 14
    1929 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I didn’t take his name.  I get asked why all the time.  Honestly, I just didn’t want to change my name, so I didn’t.  I’ve considered it, it’s just a lot of paperwork, and EVERYTHING is in my name: my degrees, my emails, my cards, my IDs… It’s just… A lot.

    Plus, I’m a feminist.  So there’s that.

    Post # 15
    236 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m a bit torn. I have a very standard (common) last name in north america, which makes me happy to get something a bit more unique.  Although that being said, I’ve been working as a professional for 5 years and all my degrees are in my maiden name. I don’t want to lose out on any networking/ recognition in that respect. 

    I’m thinking hyphenate professionally and just change personally. 

    It’s been an interesting conversation though, his friends and family have felt it’s their place to tell me they think hyphenated names are annoying which really irks me.  It’s all men saying this, and I point out no one is asking them to change their names in their life time, so they really cannot comment (all very traditional and married women who took their last  names, no hypen ect). Makes me want to keep my name on principal!

    Post # 16
    3994 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I took my husband’s, but I wanted to. If I hadn’t, I wouldn’t have done it. I really like his last name. It was/still is an odd feeling to be called by it. I think it’s hearing the “Mrs.” that is like Whoa…when did that happen? Well…I know when it happened, but whatever. I actually just finished the entire name change process today. I had to take a personal day in order to go from place to place changing information and opening new bank accounts at his bank (his bank is better than mine).

    I think it’s awesome that Bees have SOs who will be taking their last name. Very nice!

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