Post # 1
Why must everyone ask me this when I’m sad?
Backstory: I’ve been on antidepressants since I was about 16, and I do struggle with depression
However, sad is a normal human emotion. I feel sad, and I feel clinically depressed. Those are two very different things. So why, every time I’m a bit down, does everyone just assume I skipped a few pills? It’s like I can’t just be sad, I must either be depressed or ok. It’s worst with family. When I’m sad or upset with them, they seem to view it as my problem and dismiss my feelings as part of my mental illness. Grr!
Post # 3
@Laurenplusalex: I get the same thing from family members etc but it’s “pregnancy hormones”, not antidepressants that get blamed. This past weekend, my mom and husband were ganging up on me and being rude so I called them out on it. And they laughed and were like “oohhh, those pregnancy hormones are acting up!” I was, of course, furious, because it’s really REALLY annoying to have your feelings dismissed as invalid because someone has decided there’s a scientific explanation for them that isn’t “I’m being an asshole and causing my wife to feel this way.” So, I hear ya.
Post # 4
@iarebridezilla: thanks for understanding. It does suck. Right now, I feel hurt and disappointed, for legitimate reasons. And yes, I took my pill.
Post # 5
Sigh yes. People think depression and anxiety pills just turn it off like magic.
I think they’re probably just concerned, and they don’t want to see you fall into depression again, but I hear you.. the comments are annoying.
Post # 6
@iarebridezilla: Oh God. Yes. I get the same thing, but for PMS. My mother is forever like “you’re so unreasonable right before your period” and basically tells my I’m boardelining on psychosis. Can’t be the fact that she’s being horribly rude, no, must be me.
Post # 7
lol clearly they don’t understand how antidepressants work…
a) skipping a few would mean nasty withdrawal effects, and the variable half-life means it would take a few days before skipping one would have an actual effect. Just… no.
b) antidepressants essentially raise your “baseline” or “neutral” mood, they don’t make you either completely flat or perpetually cheery (either one would be terrible!)
c) They don’t always work perfectly or 100%, and a lot of times there’s a careful balance and trade-off with the side effects. Less potent = less side effects, and vice versa, and it depends what you’re willing to live with.
I’m so sorry that people can be so ignorant. It’s so very frustrating. This is why I am careful who I tell about my bipolar illness (basically only people who have to live with me or who I trust as friends/family to keep me accountable and who help support me in various small ways.)
Post # 8
I hear you. I’m sorry your emotions and wellness are being doubted 🙁
Post # 9
@Laurenplusalex: I understand exactly how you feel. I started taking antidepressants when I was 16… and my dad was the worst toward me, about them. If I was ever, ene slightly upset, about something, he would throw “what’s wrong with you?? didn’t you take your pills today?” in my face. It was so hurtful and damaging to me.
This is probably why, today (age 28) I don’t feel like any of those pills actually help me. (I’ve tried 5 different ones,) because of his incredibly negative and hurtful comments.
My FI’s brother has called me “lazy,” before he knew what was wrong with me. After he found out, he never apologized.
It’s really hard to sit there and explain depression to people who aren’t TRYING to understand. If someone is genuinely interested and wants to learn/understand, I’m fine with talking to them about it… but if someone is being a snide little f*cker, I just walk away.