Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
I’m currently about 4 weeks and 2 days, so it’s still very early. I just went in to the lab this morning for my blood test and will have results tomorrow. I’ve only told my husband and best friend so far.
I’m concerned that my family (mostly my mom) will be upset if they find out that I didn’t tell them earlier. I’d like to wait to tell them until at least after I see the doctor, or at the very least, until my sister is home from college for the weekend late next week so that I can tell my family all together.
When did you tell your family? If you waited, what was their reaction?
Post # 3
@moniquaa: We told our parents at around 8 weeks. We actually thought we were 10 weeks at the time we told them but I ovulate later than I thought. We told the rest of the families and our friends and facebook at 12 weeks.
Post # 4
I told my mom the day after I found out. We told the rest of our parents and my sisters within a week or two of finding out. Then we told my aunts / uncles / grandparents at Xmas when we were 7 weeks. We wanted to wait until 12 weeks to tell the rest of the family but they were all going on a cruise and I knew my mom would let it slip 🙂
Post # 5
We didn’t tell anyone until 12 weeks.
Post # 6
We told my parents the day we found out because we just didn’t know what to do. I was also afraid of my mom’s reaction if we waited to tell her so we jsut stopped over after the dr appointment and let the know. I was 4w6d.
We told his mom a couple weekends ago. Part of me wished we waited but it’s nice to have them to talk about baby stuff with before we tell everyone else. We also have that support if anything were to happen.
Post # 7
We told my family around 6 weeks. So pretty much right away. I wish we’d waited longer or made sure they knew not to tell anyone else D: Because they did and we weren’t ready to discuss it with people we barely knew. :/ Do what you’re comfortable with- that’s my advice. As a new parent you’ll be pulled every which way by people who know what’s ‘best’ for your baby and you! I feel it’s important to remain in control of how that information gets out and if you even want it to so early. Some people do, others don’t. There’s nothing wrong with waiting, either! It’s your baby and if your man and you want to keep that to yourselves for a while to savor it, that’s totally fine. 🙂
Post # 8
We told our immediate families the day we found out, but we’re waiting to tell close friends and family til after my first appointment at 10 weeks, and everyone else at 12 weeks.
Post # 9
We plan on waiting until 12 weeks to tell everyone. If god forbid something goes wrong, it’s a lot easier to tell them that you were pregnant and lost it rather than break their hearts right along with yours – they have to ‘untell’ anyone they’ve told…etc.
Plus it keeps away all the unsolicited advice for a while. 🙂
Our families will have no problem with the fact that we waited until we felt confident that things were well and we could celebrate.
Post # 10
I was 3 weeks when I told my dad and siblings only…with instructions to not tell anyone yet. We told DH’s family about 4 or 5 weeks in, but they couldn’t tell anyone either. We were very excited, and we were lucky that the pregnancy has been great so far.
My sister in law had a MC at 10 weeks, and we all knew, so it was sad. But you just have to be positive and hope for a healthy pregnancy or sticky like some call it.
Post # 11
Congratulations on your exciting news!!! We told our parents at 6 weeks and we absolutely regretted that. All of the parents immediately started giving us guilt trips for not letting them share the news with other people until 12 weeks. We were also continually asked if or when they could tell people (dh’s mom asked this at least twice a week until the 12 weeks was up). We were glad they were so supportive & excited but they really caused A LOT of stress for us before the 12 week mark.
If you wait until 12 weeks they will not be mad at all because they will be so focused on the excitement of a new baby on the way!
Post # 12
If/when DH and I begin TTC again, I plan on waiting until I’m 12 weeks before telling anyone in my family. I told my mom last time when I was 5 weeks, and she proceeded to tell EVERYONE in our family; when I MCed at 6 weeks, it was humiliating and I made her tell everyone about it since she is the reason they knew anything at all to begin with.
Post # 13
I wasn’t quite 5 weeks when I told my parents and sister, SIL and BIL, I was 8 weeks when we told MIL & FIL. I was 13 weeks when we called some close family members to tell them and after that I just announced it on facebook so I didn’t have to individually contact everyone else.
I was planning on waiting a little longer to tell everyone (like 8 weeks for my parents and 10 or so for ILS) but both sides of the family planned events that would make it apparent I wasn’t drinking so instead of ruining the surprise we just told them. We thought why not since we would definitely tell him if we experienced a loss.
Post # 14
I will let you know the middle of March when I tell at 13 weeks. We are telling both our families in person that week. My sister is the only family member who knows. Oh, and congrats!
Post # 15
I think you really have to make the decision based on what you’re comfortable with, not on what people normally do or what people give you advice to do, just like everything with this process. We told our families right away because we were super excited, and some of them even gave us advice about how we didn’t tell them at the time that they would have preferred!
Post # 16
I told my parents right away, but I’m very close to them and if there had been a miscarriage I would’ve wanted them to know and had their support.