(Closed) Did you tell your family when you decided to TTC?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not telling anyone when we start to TTC….I’d feel really weird telling my parents that our sex will  now be unprotected.

Post # 4
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House

I couldn’t help it. We didn’t want to tell anyone, but it was such a big desicion I really wanted my mom to weigh in and I had work/baby woman-centric questions. So… she knows. Then I say things that are so obvious to other people… it’s weird not drinking around friends… so, yeah. I haven’t told Mr. T I’ve told anyone, but… I’ve told people “it’s on the table/we’ve talked about it/I ovulated yesterday” I have a big mouth πŸ™‚

Post # 5
4355 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Only BIL & SIL because SIL is a nurse and has 2 babies (one very new) and I know I’ll be wanting to ask questions about pregnancy and such but no one else. We don’t want the “so, pregnant yet?” questions and we’d like to surprise people with the news as well so if they know we are TTC, everytime I refuse a glass of wine or something people will assume I’m pregnant and if we are having trouble it will make it worse.

Post # 6
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@moniquaa:  ooh yes. I’m with you 100%. We’re waiting to be in the clear as well to tell people, even my family. My mom and best friend know but other than that it’s just a wonderful secret between the two of us. πŸ™‚ I don’t think we’ll tell anyone else if I test positive but rather spend that first week or so enjoying the news alone before we make it public. 

Post # 7
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my ILs know more than my family. Its nice to be able to be open about it with them,and they are aware of our problems TTC (my PCOS) My Mother-In-Law has been the best,she is extremely suppportive and encouraging and great at listening when Im having a crappy time or struggling with things. She also cant wait for a grandbaby!! lol. When people worry about not wanting to have that pressure or people on their backs,it doesnt bother me. We will have a baby when we have a baby,but then,no one really badgers us too much because theyre (family anyway) are aware of the situation were in.  Its nice to have someone there when Im feeling down about it,or just want to vent my feelings and worries out,I cant unload on Darling Husband all the time!

Obviously complete strangers or people we dont know that well get told to mind their own business!

Post # 8
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We have not told anyone! I’ve told the Bees lol but thats just so i can ask questiins and vent. My family isnt interested in my life per say. My SO wants to surpruse his dad and step mom πŸ™‚  He has mentioned to his cousins that we would like to have a baby in the next year or two. My family is all out of state, dads in MI where im from and grandma/aunt are all in FL.. SO dad/cousins live in CA/AS and were in Illinois lol i guess I just anticipate issues with pregnancy and dont want the questuons or feeling sorry for me. Since everyine has kids and never had any problems..   πŸ™‚

Post # 9
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We did not tell anyone we were TTC.  In fact, I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant until I was past the first trimester since you’re most likely to miscarry in that time frame.

Post # 10
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m going to say that we won’t, because it’s none of anyone’s business. I just feel like it would be really awkward to say, “Hey, we’re having lots of sex right now so that we can get pregnant!” No thanks.

Post # 11
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@vorpalette:  +1

I think it’s awkward to talk about TTC, especially with parents. I don’t want them thinking about my sex life. 

Post # 12
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

not that I’m even TTC, but I wouldn’t tell anybody about it at all. That’s just awkward!

Post # 13
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence

Most of our friends know our timeline, honestly. Mr. D sometimes tells sort of random people which is kinda weird, but hey, if it means he’s excited, good! But parents, no — unless the siblings we’ve told have spread the word. πŸ˜› They do know that it’s vaugely in the future.

Post # 14
7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would never tell anyone.  No added pressure needed!  I hope we have a happy accident so I don’t get too stressed if/ when we decide we’re okay with it.

Post # 15
14337 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No, I think telling people (that you know, no discussing on boards) that you are TTC is odd and pointless.  They dont care if you’re TRYING…. they want to know when  you ARE.

Post # 16
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We told people when they started asking the baby question right after our wedding that 1) we were not trying/it’s not the right time and 2) we do plan on having children. I don’t plan to go back and update anyone on the status. I don’t want to be inundated with questions such as “Well, any updates?”

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