Post # 1
My Mom and I are so close that I feel like I should tell her. Did you tell anyone when you were got off BC? I havent told a soul yet, except Hubby knows of course!
Part of me wants to surprise her but most of me wants to tell her! 🙂
Post # 3
Tell no one. There is noone other than your hubby who needs to know.
If you tell people , you will be hounded re if you are pregnant, when you are due etc etc etc.
Tell people after you have finished your first trimester.
Post # 4
You got a point there! Although I read in my book that you should know your Moms and/or familys pregnancy medical history…I dont have any sisters so she would be the next in line.
Post # 5
I’d just tell my husband. I’m really close to my mom too but for some reason I’d rather not tell her. Maybe because I’d rather totally suprise her and everyone else. If they know I’m off the pill they’re somewhat expecting an announcement!
Post # 6
@jennifer espos- I would love to surprise her, maybe Ill wait when the day comes. Im TTC next month.
Post # 7
We didn’t tell anyone when we were TTC. I just knew if we told anyone, they would constantly be asking if we were pregnant and would ruin the surprise in us telling them! It was so much more fun to surprise them and tell them we were having a baby instead of them asking all the time. Plus, the advice you get when you’re pregnant is crazy so I wouldn’t want anyone telling me what to do when I’m TTC.
Post # 8
my situation is a little backwards–we are not actively trying to concieve, but i just got off the pill (im using the sponge now).
i made it a point to tell my fiance NOT to mention it to anyone, and not to correct me if he heard me tell someone that i was still taking the pill. the reason we aren’t telling anyone is because we don’t want questions–are you wanting a baby now?, you know thats less effective, right?, what are you going to do if you get pregnant?, why don’t you just use condoms?, etc. and if i did get pregnant i don’t want people making stupid comments like ‘well you should have used a more effective method!”. my friends and i do openly talk about BC, so this isn’t as easy as it seems!
Post # 9
The more I read your replies, the more I want to wait and make it a surprise!!! 🙂 Thanx Bee’s
Post # 10
I also am close to my mom but I’m waiting to tell her anything until we’re solidly pregnant (I guess 3 months). My dad’s a doctor and I know that the two of them will become overly concerned (out of love). I want to keep the first few months of pregnancy as something that is just between my future (26 days) husband and me.
Congrats and good luck with TTC!
Post # 11
nope, she didn’t know we were TTC until I announced I was pregnant! It was a fabulous way to surprise our parents 🙂
Post # 12
Ain’t no ones business besides my husbands 🙂
Post # 13
We are giving some people a vague idea if it comes up in discussion but not bringing it up. I don’t offer up the info or give any great specifics like 1 month is go time! Timelines stress me out, well any hard and fast rules stress me out so we talk about it very loosely. And I’m more careful with my mom because she has an awesome ability to stress me out and not know when to stop asking questions and questions and questions and questions…… but if she didn’t do that I’d probably offer up more information to her.
I donno, I’m pretty secure and realize hey it might not even work, so that part doesn’t stress me out, so I don’t mind offering up some info on our thinking about babies if it comes up. And for people who ask me too many questions (well other than my mom) I’m pretty good at figuring out how to change the subject or not say more than I feel is necessary.
Oh but I’m not on the pill, I guess for me it’s just talking about TTC, no ones business but I dont’ mind talking about it.
Post # 14
I told my mom and my sister only because I knew I’d need the emotional support. Both of them took a year to get pregnant with their first kids and I knew it was likely that I would as well. Because they could sympathize when I brought it up, I told them a few months into TTC. They knew better than to ask every month though. If you do tell, make sure they understand that you are the one to bring it up if you want to talk.
Post # 15
I certainly AM NOT going to tell my mom when I go off BC! Mainly because I am going off it after this pack, but not to TTC. Just for more personal reasons. But I know that if I even MENTIONED to her that I wasn’t on hormonal BC anymore, she would automatically assume we were trying to get pregnant, and I wouldn’t be able to convince her otherwise. I just don’t want that kind of stress and drama (which my mom is actually very good at creating!)
Post # 16
I did, but mostly bc I started having horrible health issues after I quit.