Post # 1
Im 23 and getting married next September, and i finish undergrad in May. I’ve definitely allowed the pounds to creep on in college. I’m 5’4″ and about 165. I would feel good at 145 (my lowest weight since high school and I felt really good about myself then) and great at 135. I have lots of muscle and curves so I don’t even know if I could get below that- at 135 I would be really thin. so long story short id like to lose 30 pounds.
My question is- should I wait to try on dresses until I lose at least some of the weight? Would it effect the type of dress I end up with? I am itching to try on dresses and my mom and FI’s mom ask me every weekend when we can go!! But I’m just hesitant to go not feeling comfortable in my skin.
What did you do?
Post # 3
@FutureMrsT1221: i went to try on dresses without trying to lose weight first. I figured weight loss takes a long time and i didnt want to wait to get my dress since it takes 7-12 months to order in the dress. I hope to get more fit but if i do, ill just get the dress altered so it fits me perfectly. I graduate in may too! and ill be getting married in june 🙂
Post # 4
@MrsBtoBe14: Aww congratulations!! Isn’t it so great to have so many positive life changes to look forward to?? I love it 🙂
Post # 5
@FutureMrsT1221: I was in the process of losing weight via a change to live a healthier life months before we even got engaged when I tried on dresses. I looked better than I had in years at that point, and was really really happy (and proud) to be able to try on all dresses I wanted (sample sizes can be the devil) at each bridal store I went too. I was SHOCKED to put on a mermaid-style gown and have it actually look good. Mind you, I still have a ton of insecurities, and those were the things I was MOST nervous about when it came to dress shopping (ie, not finding things I thought looked good on me.)
At the end of it all, my dress choice was not because of my ‘new body’ and what showed the hard work I had put into myself, but rather of what I had always envisioned myself wearing as a bride. I walked away with a ball gown, which for me, has been my ‘dream’ style! It definitely does not flaunt weight loss though…
And then, of course, when I got measured I was – at that point – between 2 sizes. The consultant told me that she rarely has a bride come back for fittings bigger than when she was sized (wedding stress, etc?). However, I did not want to put pressure on myself to get the smaller size, and lose more weight. So I went up, because dresses can be altered down.
Even if I lose 15 more lbs, or whatever, I do not think the way I feel about the dress I love so much will change. I loved it that day, and I will love it in 7 months from now!! Do not let weight dictate your choice, but rather, how you feel in the dress you choose!!
Post # 6
@OUgal0004: thanks for your input!! Congrats on your weight loss you’ve achieved already!
Post # 7
@FutureMrsT1221: I planned on going from 142 to 133 (my high school weight) for our wedding. I didn’t think I could even BE thinner than that (I’m a long distance runner, so I have lots of lean muscle)
I bought my dress 5 months before the wedding, when I weighed 130lbs, and wound up 122 at my thinnest! BUT–then my dress was too big! So I had to gain some back.
I would see what you can lose between now and December/January (about when you should order your dress). Then order it at the size you are then! So if you gain a little or lose a little, it can be altered.
Post # 8
honestly my plan was to lose some weight before i tried on dresses. but it never happened and i got antsy so i just went. i had some bad experiences of not being able to fit into samples, not liking the way things looked on. but i also had some GREAT experiences where i was really surprised with how great i looked. i knew if i loved a dress on me at that weight that it was the dress. yes, i am still planning on losing weight for the wedding and i’m hoping that i look EVEN better. but knowing that no matter what, i’ll still be happy, is a great feeling.
Post # 9
@FutureMrsT1221: Thanks for posting this — I’ve had the exact same question lately (and if my venue tour this weekend goes like I hope it does, we’re going to be date twins!). I think once we confirm the date for sure I’m going to start shopping. I was originally thinking of waiting until February so I could lose some weight first, but then I’d be worried the dress wouldn’t arrive and be fitted in time. So my vote is to go shopping now! The dress can always be taken in later 🙂
Post # 10
I didn’t wait. I went and tried them on right away. Between dress shopping and my wedding I lost about 30 pounds and they were able to alter my dress to fit me perfectly 🙂
Post # 11
@MrsBeck: yay! Go you! Since you were able to lose the amount of weight id really like to lose, would you mind telling me what you did? 🙂
Post # 12
@AmeBee: how exciting!!! It’s a beautiful time of year to get married 🙂 hope your venue tour goes well!!
Post # 13
listening in! I have a bunch of weight I’d like to lose and I had the same question.
Post # 14
I waited to lose 20 lbs and I am glad I did. All dresses looked awesome and it gave me motivation to jump start the weight loss. Good luck!
Post # 15
I just went this past weekend and plan on going a second time after I lose some more weight. My wedding is 6/30, so I’m really pushing it by waiting until like Dec or so, but I’m not stressed – I can buy a sample, have a replica made, or pay a rush fee if need be. I would really much rather make sure I’m buying a dress bc it looks good on me no matter what my weight, not bc it looks good on me while I’m “fat.” I think you have enough time to try to lose some weight in the next 2-3 months and then start shopping. You can always lose the “last 10” or so after that, bc that won’t make much of a difference in body shape.
Post # 16
I put off wedding dress shopping for the longest time, i kept telling my self ‘next month ill start to work out’ one more cheat meal..well that turned into a year.. Finally bit the bullet and went by myself to try on a certain dress i had been eyeing… My bridal consultant told me to order a size smaller than i am now, not the size i want to be at in 8 months. They they can always take in a dress, but it is really hard to let a dress out.