Post # 1
How do you feel about changing your last name when you get married? Is it a big thing for you or your SO?
I’m not really sure I want to change mine – I like what it already is, don’t particulary like his, nor think it’s something you should really do anymore unless you want to, but it’s important to him for me to change it.
Post # 3
If I move back to my hometown, I may hyphenate. Otherwise, I’d take my SO’s name. I could take over the fam business and most recognize me as the female version of my dad so I think it’d be important for me to keep my maiden name somehow.
Post # 4
I am changing my name.
I think if I told Fiance that I didnt want to, he would be okay with it. Just because he likes to keep me happy.
But I know he’s excited for me to have his last name. And Im excited to take it! He’s been calling me MRS (last name) since we’ve been engaged. 😉 I am also kind of traditional when it comes to things like that.
Post # 5
I can’t wait to take my FI’s name 🙂
Post # 6
I was excited to take DH’s name! I thought for a minute about making my maiden name my other middle name, but I never liked that my mom did that, so I decided against it. Plus, I don’t know that Darling Husband would have liked his wife having a different name.
Post # 7
I’m not changing it this time. Fiance is a little disappointed, but he understands.
Post # 8
I love my maiden name. Its pretty awesome and unique. I was sad to get rid of it but i’m pretty traditional and wanted to take my husbands name. I have no regrets and i have brothers to carry on my awesome maiden name.
Post # 9
I’m more excited about taking his name than he is. 🙁 He says people mispronounce his name all the time and he isn’t close to his dad’s family. I just like the idea of us having one family name, but it saddens me that he doesn’t seem to want me to change my name.
Post # 10
I am changing my name but only after I finish my doctorate. I really want all my degrees in my name (sorry.. saw a friend marry twice and her degrees are all in her then husbands’ names-eek)!. I am thinking of hyphenating but my maiden name is so long already and I write so big that I fear I will NEVER find enough space on forms to write my name
Post # 11
I changed my last name and couldn’t wait to do so. I guess I’m kind of traditional in that regard.
Post # 12
I had a hard time with losing my maiden name… it’s been mine for so long!!! But I’m traditional I guess and so is he so it was going to happen. It was weird at frist, but it comes pretty natural now.
Post # 13
@totheislnds: I’m the same way. I adore my maiden name, but I too am traditional and took my husband’s name. I was sad about it, but I couldn’t imagine not having the same last name as my husband.
Plus, by changing my last name, my husband and I share all three initials — first, middle, and last initials are the same. And my husband thinks that’s just the coolest thing ever. 😉
Post # 14
I’m a pretty traditional bride, but taking his name has been an issue for me.
I love my last name, it’s awesome and everyone knows me by that name. I want to still be recognized as “Bunnydad”s daughter for business and banking… but I also love my fiance and know it’s important to him that our kids have his last name (a prominent name in his cultural comunity, he feels it’s very important).
I’ve decided, and he KINDA agrees, that I will hyphenate my name with his, and use his at our kid’s school, for travel, but be able to use my own when I want to, which is exactly what my mother did when she married my dad.
Post # 15
I kept my name, and it was never a problem for anyone. Not for my husband, not for his parents (which surprised me a little, actually, because they’re fairly traditional people – but they have been nothing but supportive/respectful).
I think that if it’s important to you to keep your name, you should talk to your husband. Listen to his concerns. Why does he want you to change it? Is it just because it’s what seems normal? Tell him that’s not a good enough reason for you to have to give up something so fundamental to who you are. Is it because he wants you all to have the same last name? Ask if he’d consider changing his. If he says no, ask why. Explain your reasons for not wanting to change it, and ask if he thinks it’s fair that you have to go through all the hassle and yes, loss, that comes with giving up the name you’ve always had, while he doesn’t.
Good luck!! Whatever you do, don’t feel pressured into a choice that’s wrong for you.
Post # 16
I didn’t change mine. Darling Husband was a little suprised, I don’t think it occured to him that I might Not be Mrs Hislastname, but it’s not a big deal. MY mom was actually kind of mad about it (and she’s been married 4 times and so had 5 different last names…)