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I am super curious as the whether you all would wait or not-
(I think there have been threads like this before, but what the heck ;)
We are waiting a few years to try, but I think we would both want to know as soon as possible :) Patience is a virtue that I never learned.
I know a lot of people would disagree, but I like the idea of a surprise!! :)
I couldn't wait when I had my son. I do, however, love the idea I read the other day about having the doctor/ultrasound tech write the sex down in an enveope and seal it. You then would give it to the cake decorator that's doind your baby shower and have them color the inside of the cake pink or blue. When you cut into it at the shower, you would know the sex of the baby!
My mom chose to wait for the surprise with all three of her pregnancies. Everyone desperately wanted me to be a boy but well... :p
I am a Type-A over-planner so I would HAVE to find out the sex of the baby or I would drive myself crazy. I would probably create two entirely different nurseries so I could be prepared in either case, haha.
I think it would be sooo exciting to have them yell "It's a _____!" in the moment, I just don't know if I would be able to hold out!
I always thought I would want to wait and be surprised, but when we found out I was pregnant DH asked if we were going to find out the sex. I said I wanted to wait and he said he'd rather find out so we "get the right stuff". He had a valid point...a few months later we found out we are having a boy!
BTW I didn't need to be an ultrasound tech to tell it was a boy! I could tell as soon as she started the ultrasound that there was a little man in there. Some things are just obvious sometimes, if you know what I mean. :)
@pansyshell: lol. True. The tech told us it was a boy, but never got a pic and I never saw it, as my little one was all over the place. I actually paid to get another one so I could be sure! :)
No way, Jose! I am a planner and I will NEED to know what we're having.
I like the thought, but would not be able to wait until delivery!! I love the idea of having the doctor write the sex down and come up with a creative way to reveal it in front of family or friends, but I think I would still be too impatient for this. If we had the gender color baked in the cake, I would be poking it on the car ride to the shower!
I know that there's a 50/50 shot for either sex, but there hasn't been a girl born into my husband's family in 76 years, so I'm not holding my breath for a girl. That said, on the off-chance that we might have a girl (TTC now), I'd want to know as soon as humanly possible. I couldn't stand the anticipation of not knowing.
@srearley: Oh wow! I had my first u/s kinda late so we were able to tell then (we didn't get a picture of his "stuff" since it was an u/s for dating purposes, but umm you could so tell). We go next week for my 20 week (well 21) u/s so we will get to see again if he's still a boy! lol Hopefully we get some more pictures.
I've been thinking about this more and more. And I think I really like the idea of a surprise. I understand why people want to know, not everyone likes the surprise of it. But, I don't see why people feel like they have to know. I think it's easy to be prepared for whichever. Pick some boy names, pick some girl names. And I personally don't want to be surrounded in pink everything if I am having a girl. I kind of hate that stuff has to be one color or the other. Who knows what I'll want when I am actually pregnant...but there aren't many surprises in life and it just seems like a fun thing to find out in the moment.
We just went for my 19 week ultrasound, but didn't find out. I'm excited for the surprise and don't really feel like I need to know now. As the tech walked us out, she did say "I know the baby's sex if you change your mind." It's tempting, but I think it'll be worth the wait.
I would want to know asap! I like to know things and I really like to know things that help me plan, so there is no way I'd way for a whole 9 months without finding out!!
I would want to know right away, personally. I like the idea of being prepared for everything - names, clothes, colors, etc.
Also, I worked at a high-end 'baby' store when I was in high school and I cannot even tell you how ANNOYING it was when people would register for all yellow or green items and then come back and return everything for pink or blue once they had the baby. Please don't do that, it's REALLY annoying. Grr.
I have two children, a boy and a girl. My boy was born first, and we found out what we were having. I had no intentions of not knowing, in my mind it was like, why the heck wouldn't you find out??? So i knew I was having a boy and I got all the nursery figured out and I bought tons of clothes. And then 2.5 yrs later I became pregnant again, and this time we decided not to find out. (i just knew it would be a girl tho!) 9 months later my angel was born, and the moment when I found out (at last!!) what she was, is something I can't even describe. I will never forget that moment for the rest of my life. I wish I wouldn't have found out the first time around, after having that experience. Definetly worth all the unisex clothes I bought and the 9 months of wondering!
DH and I have discussed this and we both would wanna know as soon as possible.
I voted I would have to know ASAP. When I was pregnant I had two ultrasounds but the baby was kicking so much that they couldn't tell for sure. However they were pretty sure it was boy. There hasn't been a boy in the family for a while so we were extremely excited. Months of planning and dreaming of a little boy.
Finally the big day comes for me to meet my little man. I'm excited, waiting for the doctor to say it's a boy so when the doctor said "It's a girl!" I yelled back "It's NOT a girl?!" and he repeated "It's a girl!", and again I yelled back at him if it was not a girl. I guess he was exasperated with me and finally said "It's not a boy!" I don't know why but all of us (my mom and sis were in the delivery room) just burst out in tears!!! So she was definitely a delivery surprise! :)
@srearley: I read about someone doing that once. It ended up being a girl. lol It's a fun idea though.
I found out as soon as I could. As soon as I saw the test read positive I wanted to know if it would be a boy or girl. My FI has a borther and a sister and I have 2 sisters. His brother just had a second girl and his sister and a girl. I'm the first one in my family to have any kids. I was wanting a boy so bad because there were already 2 girls in the family so he wouldn't be as special if he were a girl and right before we went in to find out his SIL found out she was pregnant but waited to tell everyone. Once she found out I was having a boy she got mad and anounced her pregnancy at the celebration dinner for us. I did what every other pregnant girl would do in my situation...I cursed her with a second girl! lol. actually I just wished really hard that it would be a girl and so did my FI and she had another girl at the end of September. It was great. lol. She can have a boy next though. I won't mind then! lol
@beekiss2: One of my co-workers and her husband wanted to wait to find out for their third child - they already had two girls, but really wanted a boy also. She went in for an ultrasound (by herself, b/c hubby couldn't make it) and the Doc accidentally let it slip that they were having a boy - she was SO excited, but she didn't want to ruin the surprise for her hubby. It was funny though because she basically told everyone but him/fam., so she got all 'boy' things at her baby shower and hubby was like "umm... they seem to think we're having a boy, huh? weird." It was great!
I think I would really want to know, but would try to keep it a surprise. It seems kind of nice that way, but the type A control freak will probably win out.
I'd wait. It would be a boy or girl either way, right? (I'd hope anyway!) The older I get and the more I see of pregnancy/families, the more I dislike the extreme focus on gender. I'd love the child just as much either way, and the sex isn't going to dictate their personality/interests or my experience raising them. I think if I waited, I would avoid much of the pink-frilly/boy-sports/gender quota silliness. Of course, waiting for the surprise is just more fun!
I've always said I'd never want to find out in advance - DH feels the same way. But now that we've found out we're having twins I'm tempted...although still probably won't find out...maybe 
I want to/have to know. I can't NOT know! i feel like i NEED to know what i'm having--but i really would like to steer towards more gender neutral stuff. I'm in love with orange stuff anyways =]
well i won't be getting pregnant for a few years, but when i do get pregnant, i would want to find out as soon as i could! i would know what to prepare for! it would KILL me not to know!!!
Both my husband and I want to be surprised. I can't wait for the moment, "It's a ____!!" I don't want an all pink or blue nursery or clothes so we'll just go with gender neutral colors and then after the baby is home we can get some pink or blue or whatever!
I can understand others wanting/having to know, but it is just not for us. :)
With my son I waited until he was born to find out the sex. I wouldn't have changed and was so happy that I waited to find out. However, on my next child I am undecided because if I have a daughter I really want to go all out on the girly room. I really want the gender specific room for my next child instead of the gender neutral room that I did last time.
I really reallly really want to wait at least for our first child. Most of the stuff we register for will be neutral so that we can use it for future kids anyways. I am not a "girly girl" so even if I knew it was a girl I would probably decorate a nursery in neutral colors.
I told DH that I'd want to know right away (I'm awful with surprises) but don't plan to tell the family what we're having until later, and won't share names.
I found out with both of my babies. It was like the first thing that poped out of my mouth during the ultrasounds! I just had to know if that little thing wiggling inside of me was a he or she.
I don't think I could survive the whole nine months and not know. I wish I could let it be a surprise. Then again I am the grown woman who will still peek underneath the wrapping paper during Christmas time to see if I can see my gift.... =/
As much as a surprise would be fun, the Type-A planner in me is going to HAVE to find out what we're having whenever DH and I get pregnant.
I'm crazy anal about organization and it would kill me to wait to find out. Plus, I'm not a fan of everything being gender neautral. I'm a very feminine woman and FI is very masculan and I see nothing wrong with gender roles and specific gender colors. If we were going to be having a girl everything would be pink and purple, butterflies and hearts! With a boy it would be green and blue, trucks and sports. lol.
Plus, FI is very impatient so I don't think he could handle the suspense!
Kudos to those of you who have the will power to wait!
I think DH and I might find out but tell everyone we are waiting to be surprised so people don't start going crazy buying us all blue or pink stuff or start weighing in on names.
We're not finding out for another 8-ish weeks when the baby gets here! Excited to know but a person can totally prepare the nursery, clothes, etc. without knowing (unless you want strict gender-themed stuff). While our ultrasound tech said that slightly more people are waiting to find out now, we had a birthing class last Saturday and we were the only couple (out of 10) who chose to wait.
We've talked about waiting, and I think it would be fun to wait (it's one of life's biggest surprises after all). When we talk about the nursery and such, we figure that it will be green and white, and when the baby comes, we will add either a blue or a purple stripe to the wall (similar to where a chair rail would be). The more I think about it, the more I want it to be a surprise!
I really wanted to know the gender, not just for planning purposes...for bonding too. We call the baby by her name-to-be and we imagine what it's like to raise a girl and the issues that might come up and how we will handle them. We didn't really decide on having kids until recently so it helps us with the transition. Lots of other surprises to come naturally, I'm absolutely positive.
Sidenote: I finally got a new avatar I really like and plan to keep--hooray!
@808bride: I am almost afraid to find out because I am too scared to bond and then loose the baby.
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