Post # 1
My boyfriend and I decided to go engagement ring shopping together because we are fairly non-traditional. I was appalled at the cost of engagement rings. I had thought I wanted a 0.5ct to 0.75ct solitaire in platinum, but after trying it on, it didn’t seem like it was worth the $3,000+ that they all cost, not to mention that I felt terrible given our financial situation asking him to shell out so much money for something lets be honest silly.
When he proposed, he proposed with a gorgeous eternity band that totals under 0.25cts for all the little diamonds (i think there are 25 total). Its crafted beautifully, it sparkles white. At the time I was super excited and happy to have it (and duh, excited to be engaged finally!). I typically don’t wear any jewelry on my hands, so the eternity band seemed significant enough.
Flash forward a year later that we’ve been engaged, I find myself looking at more “traditional” engagement rings. It makes me feel like a bad person for saying this, but I wished at times that I had a more traditional looking solitaire or a halo setting. He just didn’t have the money at the time and also felt that diamonds were they way to go (rather than moissanite or another stone). I guess I feel that this is my only “chance” to have a piece of jewelry like that, and I had always pictured myself with something more “ring-y” rather than minimal and flat. Later in life, it just seems stupid to spend money on rings when you have a house to buy and kids. I dont know.
Is it wrong to be having these feelings?
There are days that I love having something minimal because I am at the gym a lot, but then other days I want something more substantial.
How do I get over this? Thanks bees!
Post # 3
honestly if your not happy then maybe you could run it by your Fi and see if you can upgrade… I want something more traditional also and i just can’t bring it to my guy to tell him so I am personally just sucking it up…
Post # 4
I love the idea of an eternity band as an engagement ring, a symbol that this is the beginning of your eternity together. I also love that you chose your beautiful ring together and the reasons you chose it were personal to you, not only did it fit your budget but you don’t normally wear rings and it also fits with your lifestyle. This to me suggests that it was the right decision as it ticks every box Rather than just long long with the marketing ploys of and engagement ring NEEDING to be a solitaire. Lets face it, everyone has a budget and its better to have a good quality eternity band than a poor quality solitaire for the sake of having one. I also love love love the stacking of bands and this way you have the option of adding to your collection and having a really pretty stack of sparkle.
Post # 5
Can you make your current ring into your wedding band, and receive a more traditional engagement style ring at your wedding? Or even swop now, get the engagement ring you want, and put your current rinaside until the wedding. That way you’re keeping the original but also getting the ring you want.
Post # 6
I understand your feelings but why dont you just wait a little while and upgrade to a ring you really want when you can afford it?
Post # 7
Personally I’m not keen on the idea of upgrades as I’m quite sentimental but I do like the above posters idea of putting it away for a wedding banspans getting something else, if he can afford it.
Post # 8
I think eternity rings are definitely a classic style of engagement ring.
When I think classic styles, I think solitare first and foremost, and after that, 3-stone, and after that, eternity ring.
I don’t think of halos as classic. They were only popular during 2 periods, the 1920s and now. So, yours is much more of a classic than that.
Post # 9
I love the idea of an eternity ring as an e-ring also…however, if you still want the “traditional” ring…like another poster had mentioned why don’t you get that as your wedding ring? Get the solitaire/halo ring and use that as your wedding ring the day you get married…sounds like a good idea. Plus, if you go with moissanite their prices are reasonable.
Good luck on whatever you decide!
Post # 10
@wewhosee: I’m in the same boat, I also have an eternity band for an eband. I’m just sucking it up and I am going to get what I want for a wedding band. I’m thinking of a lovely 3 stone sapphire! Good luck!!
Post # 11
@wewhosee: You deserve to love your e-ring! It sounds like Moissanite might be perfect for you. I love my moissanite 1.25 center and the ring was only $800. What would your budget be for getting a traditional looking e-ring? Could your eternity ring be used as a w-band? Pic?
Post # 12
You girls are so sweet and supportive, thank you! It kinda made me tear up a bit haha:)
At this point, I’ve brought up the “possibility for an anniversary ring” talk but I haven’t discussed purchasing another ring before the wedding. Like some of you said though, it would be easy to just wear my current ring as a wedding band aka the permanent ring. The timeline budget wise might be close.
It does sound like moissanite would be the way to go. OR just waiting for a nice anniversary ring. I feel like that one will be 5 years away.
I do think whatever “next” ring I have though, it would break my fiance’s heart to hear that it was an ‘upgrade’ (it’d have to be the “extra” ring) because he worked his butt off to get this one. It’s endearing.
Lots to think about! But thank you all for making me feel better!
Post # 13
I actually wish i’d gotten an eternity band instead of my solitaire. Much more practical and more comfy to wear!
Post # 14
I agree with poppyrose, I would just switch it and swap my engagement ring for my wedding band and vice versa….at the end no one is gonna be asking when you bought which….
Post # 15
@PoppyRose: I was going to suggest this as well.
Post # 16
How about a traditional e-ring for a wedding band or anniversary ring?