Post # 1
FI and I recently met a whole slew of photographers and picked our favorite, but now we’re not sure if we should tell the other photogs that we chose someone else. Did any of you do this? What did you say? We canceled a meeting with one because we were so set on the photographer we chose, and she wrote back asking who we chose! I was kind of taken aback so I didn’t respond….
Post # 3
We didn’t. But we did choose one but have to back away because our budget tightened quite a bit. In a scenario kinda like that, where you tell one you choose them but decide to go with another that’s usually when you do the “break up letter”. But just speaking with them and doing consolations the break up letter isn’t really necessary.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House
We only met 2 photographers and booked the second one. But we had been in touch with the 1st one for a while longer. So.. I wrote her an email and she was very professional and understanding.
But, because I felt so bad, and she had been emailing me and trying to work a deal I couldn’t refuse before I met the 2nd photographer, I actually had the balls to ask the 2nd one her opinion on how to “break up” with the 1st one. It was an awkward question, but she said that usually, they just don’t hear from someone if they don’t want to book them, or very occasionally they get a short little email.
I think it’s weird that she asked you who you booked. You don’t need to respond, but if it will help you feel better than write a note to any you felt a possible connection with or who are following up with you.