Post # 1
I’m wondering who else wrote their own ceremony script? Or did you go more traditional? We aren’t very religious so I came up with a ceremony script that was meaningful to us. It includes a part to recognize our parents and thank them for the roles they’ve played in making us who we are. There is a part that thanks friends and the rest of our family for supporting us and encourages them to continue to support us through good times and bad. There’s a bit of marriage advice from the officiant. The vows I also customized so they have a traditional feel but aren’t exactly traditional words. I did keep the “you may now kiss the bride” just because I’ve imagined that in my head since I was a little girl. Overall very heartwarming and special, in my own opinion, but pretty short, sweet, and to the point.
Anyway, when I mentioned to a friend the other day that I wrote the whole ceremony script she was almost shocked. She couldn’t believe I had written it myself, but not reacting in an “I’m so impressed” kind of way. It was like, “You’re not allowed to write it yourself” kind of reaction. Am I totally off base for thinking it’s OK to write your own ceremony??
Post # 4
can you share your ceremony script please?
Post # 5
I voted something else.
I wrote mine out, and am currently working on it with the preacher. We are getting married in a church, but ceremonies that go on and on and on and on about God and where every other word is God are just very uncomfortable to me. A lot of them do not pertain to what I feel love is, therefore, I wrote out my ceremony the way I would be comfortable with. My preacher is good with it, but wanted to add more personal touches (he was my childhood preacher and wants to talk about how I’ve changed from a child to a woman, and that sort of thing). He understands that we still want a religious ceremony… but you don’t have to mention God every other word for it to be religious. We’ve included about 3-4 scriptures, plus one reading.
When I say ceremony, I mean the entire thing too. From the greeting, to the homily, to what is said during the unity sand ceremony to the blessing. The only thing I didn’t write out was the prayer. Together, my preacher and I are working on the exact wording, but we’ve got about 2 1/2 months to finalize it, so I’m not in a rush.
Post # 6
I voted “something else.” We were given a packet of options from our officiants, basically just going through and chosing bits and pieces from each section to make our own secular-with-a-Pagan/Celtic-sauce handfasting ceremony.
Post # 7
@RiverBride13: I wrote my own. Its your wedding, why should you have to have some cookie cutter ceremony?
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I wrote ours from start to finish. I am paid for my writing skills, so I couldn’t imagine allowing someone else to write something so important to me. I knew I could do a way better job than anyone else could at writing a ceremony that fit us perfectly. It was, hands down, my absolute favorite wedding DIY project.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I would love to read some of these!! We are writing our own and I’m a little intimidated to start it.