(Closed) Did you write your own vows?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

i cant help but its a great question. I would love to hear what other bees wrote.

Post # 5
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I did a lot of google searching for samples of vows.  The first part of mine were bascially things I love about him “You make me feel more loved than I ever thought possible.  I love how you always hold my hand.  You tell me I’m beautiful when I’m in sweatpants and fuzzy socks.  Etc”

And the second part was a list of things I promised to him.  “I promise to be a friend, to respect and support you, and to share life with you throughout the years.”   With some humor thrown in throughout the whole thing  “I promise to give you head scratches, to let you watch the Giants playoffs on the big TV, and to try to keep the house clean.”

I’d be willing to email you the whole thing if you’d like.

Post # 6
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We wrote our entire ceremony.

Our vows themselves were very personal and intimate and we both just wrote what we felt.

For the ceremony we just found a whole bunch of phrases we liked using online resources and put it together and changed it to make it our own:

Here is our entire ceremony (Sorry it’s long):


Good afternoon. We gather here today to witness and celebrate an act of deep love. FMM and Mr. M, in their devotion, respect, and love for each other wish to unite in the bond of marriage, and to dedicate themselves to each other’s happiness and well‑being as life mates and partners.  On behalf of them, I welcome you all.

Although this is their day, it is also a tribute to all of you. For knowing and interacting with you has helped to make our Bride and Groom who they needed to be to find each other. They would like to thank you all for that.


It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round. However without doubt, it is friendship, which keeps our spinning existence on an even keel. True friendship provides so many of the essentials for a happy life.  It is the foundation on which to build an enduring relationship, it is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony, and it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside seems cold and chaotic. True friendship holds a mirror to our foibles and failings, without destroying our sense of worthiness. True friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments, and encourages us to grow to our best potential. FMM and Mr.M came together as friends. Today, they pledge to each other not only their love, but also the strength, warmth and, most importantly, the fun of true friendship.

Parental Honouring:

FMM and Mr.M want to acknowledge their parents on this occasion; MOB, FOB, MOG and FOG, FMM and Mr.M offer their profound gratitude to their parents for all the love and care they showed in raising them. The unconditional gifts of love and support that you have continually offered have inspired them to become who they are today, and they thank you, from the bottom of their hearts, for guiding them to this celebration of love here today. Without you, this day would not be possible. 



You are my Everything.  We’ve shared so many great memories together, and I look forward to many more.

My Promise to you is:

To be honourable and true

To always show compassion and sincerity

To be the first to forgive and the last to judge

I will be your pillar of support and your net when you fall

I will be your killer of spiders and your protector from moths

I swear:

To make you laugh and to wipe away your tears

To cherish you and our time together

To love you with every ounce of myself

I will be your best friend, your other half and your one true love


I FMM, choose you Mr.M, to be my best friend and my one and only love for life. 7 years ago I fell in love with you for your openness, your caring heart, your brilliant mind, your sense of humour and your love of adventure. You are my rock, the love and support you have given me throughout the past 7 years has kept me strong and has allowed me to follow my dreams. I promise to give you equal love and support so that you can follow your dreams. I promise to always be there when you need me, to pick you up when you are down, to listen to you when you need to talk, to laugh with you when you are being goofy and to love you forever. You are my best friend and I promise to love and respect you Always!

The Hands Ceremony:

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy. These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children. These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Ring Ceremony:

And so we come FMM and Mr.M, to the presentation of rings by which you symbolize and bind your love.

Your rings are circles: the symbol of unity, of wholeness, and of perfection; of the sun, the earth, and the universe.  They are without beginning or end and have no point of weakness. Let the seamless circle of these rings become the symbol of your endless love and unending faithfulness.  Your wedding rings are most special because they say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bonded, to allow the presence of another human being to enhance who you are.  Your rings carry a potent double message: We are individuals and yet we belong; we are not alone.  As you wear them through time, they will reflect not only who you are but also the glorious union that you are now creating.

FMM place the ring on Mr.M’s finger and repeat after me:  “This ring is my promise to honour you, to be faithful to you, and to share my love and my life with you in every way, always.”

Mr.M, place the ring on FMM’s finger and repeat after me: “This ring is my promise to honour you, to be faithful to you, and to share my love and my life with you in every way, always.”

Engagement Ring Ceremony:

The engagement ring is a symbol of promise and intention. Now the intention is realized and the promise fulfilled. Please place your engagement ring on FMM’s finger over her wedding band to symbolize the love that brought you together will always protect and sustain your marriage.

Closing Words:

FMM and Mr.M, in this company of friends and family, you have joined yourselves together in matrimony. May the commitment and devotion that you feel for one another, grow stronger every day of your marriage. Love is the single greatest treasure that we have the ability to share with one another. Never take each other for granted and always enjoy one another’s company.

Introduction as Mr. & Mrs. Martin

Post # 8
1572 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not, just because I love the traditional vows, they say it in better words than I can, and they are all-encompasing and beautiful 🙂

Post # 9
7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I did!  I wrote them down, but ended up improvising in the moment.  It was really hard not to cry.  Darling Husband however improvised his and they were wonderful and he was very confident.

Post # 10
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We wrote our whole ceremony. I got inspiration (and borrowed a few lines) from some fellow bees but we came up with a great deal of it ourselves. It’s quick, sweet and gets the job done…

Our Wedding Ceremony:

Officiant: Welcome friends and family. Thank you for being here today to witness the love that Caitlyn and “FI” share for one another.


Officiant: Who gives this woman to be married to this man?

Dad: Her mother and I do!
(Dad kisses Cait and hugs “FI”; Dad is seated)

Officiant: This day has been many years in the making. Throughout the course of “FI” and Cait’s relationship they have loved, respected and cherished each other. Today we will bare witness as they vow to do so for the rest of their lives.


Officiant: Each of you has played a special part in their lives and your presence here today means the world to them. Their greatest wish is that you leave here with unforgettable memories of today and their love for one another.


Officiant: The unity of marriage means different things to different people. Some see it as just a piece of paper while others see it as much more. To “FI” and Cait, marriage means that you will always have someone in your corner, ready to defend you when life gets tough. Marriage means that there is always someone there who will love and honor you even when you’re being irrational. Marriage means that you’re vowing to spend the rest of your life with the one person who means more than anything.


Officiant: To make a marriage work it takes love above all else. The act loving each other, day in and day out, builds a foundation that won’t easily crack. Marriage also requires trust and patience. Trust that your partner only wants the absolute best for you and that they will do anything to see you succeed but be patient since good things take time. Trust that you will build a life and family together but be patient since things don’t always fall into place right away. Trust that no matter what happens, at the end of the day you’ve married your best friend but be patient, since sometimes even your best friend can really get on your nerves. 


Officiant: We now ask the mothers to come forward.
(Moms come up and stand between “FI” and Cait)

Officiant: “FI” and Cait have asked that their mothers come forward so that their last kiss as single people can be from the person who gave them their first kiss in life.
(Cait kisses mom and “FI” kisses Future Mother-In-Law. Moms are seated.)


Officiant: Caitlyn and “FI”, please join hands;

Officiant: “FI”, do you take Caitlyn to be your best friend and partner? Do you promise to love and respect her, to trust and grow with her and to be faithful to her all the days of your life?

“FI”: I do.

Officiant: Caitlyn, do you take “FI” to be your best friend and partner? Do you promise to love and respect him, to trust and grow with him and to be faithful to him all the days of your life?

Cait: I do.

Officiant: May I have the rings?
(RB hands the rings to Bridesmaid or Best Man. BM hands the rings to Officiant)

Officiant: Cait, place this ring on “FI’s” finger and repeat after me:

Officiant/Cait: I give you this ring as a symbol of my commitment to love you and be true to you, forever and always.

Officiant: “FI”, place this ring on Cait’s finger and repeat after me:

Officiant/“FI”: I give you this ring as a symbol of my commitment to love you and be true to you, forever and always.

Officiant: By the power vested in me by the world wide web, I am pleased to pronounce you husband and wife. “FI”, you may kiss your bride!

Post # 11
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We wrote our own vows as well as our own ceremony (I compiled stuff from various sources and wrote some myself).  For the vows we chose to make them the same format, and just say different things.  This seems fairly common if you want to make your vows sound similar in length and meaning.  We also wrote them together.  I understand some people like the romance of ‘surprise’ vows, but I just felt it would be weird if they didn’t match up.

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