Post # 1
My FH will not divulge any information about his upcoming bachelor party. He will not say which hotel they are staying at or what their plans are. I know it’s a 4-day affair but that is all. I would never go show up at a big hotel/casino looking for him but I do want to know where he is just in case. He loves to “torture” me with the fact that I do not know and intentionally tries to throw me off because he thinks it’s funny. I don’t. Did you all know the details of your FH’s bachelor party? Or, were you left in the dark like me?
Post # 3
I didn’t know any details but I didn’t mind. It seems to be a guy thing, they just can’t tell you what they’re up to for their bachelor party, even if its harmless. After the fact he was all about details, turns out he and his friends didn’t do anything scandalous- phew!
If he’s messing with you, pretend with all your might that it doesn’t bother you! He’ll give up the game.
Post # 4
I knew basic details.. camping on a party island (it’s like a summer boating destination place) All the guys were staying in one tent, bringing lots of alcohol.
I heard most stories afterwards – but they were all pretty tame.
Post # 5
I know all the details of FI bachelor party but that was because I had to tell my brother all the details so he could fly home in time for it!
But they are just going to a football game and then going to a bar afterwards and it’s more of a family affair with my brother, my dad, his dad, his brother, his uncle and a bunch of his friends!
Post # 6
As hard as it is, try to pretend you couldn’t care less. Since he seems to think it’s funny to hold the info over your head…take the joy out of that for him! I know it must be hard though, especially since it is a four day event!
I knew what my husband was up to because his best man wanted HIM in the dark and needed my help to pack for him. It was just a camping trip–that could be all your FI is up to. Can’t get into too much trouble in the middle of the woods.
Post # 7
Yeah, I had the added bonus that my now hubby’s friends all love me, and know that we are good together. Not a single one of them would let him mess that up.
So, not that he needed it, but there were people looking out for him at the same time.
Post # 8
I do know the details due to the fact that FI knows I am a fatalistic worrier, and if he doesn’t respond for a while and I can’t reach him I will just assume he got in some sort of accident (then again, with his friends…)
Mind you, those are very basic details (dates, guest list, hotel, potential activities), because they like to go with the flow and have no idea what they are doing yet. All I told his best friend is all the bruises/cuts (you’d think they are going to be hiking… but no, just boating and drinking) better be on FI’s body and not his face because it is 2 weeks before the wedding!
Post # 9
Ehhhh, it’s so a guy thing to think they’re “getting away” with something in terms of the bach party. I knew where my husband was going and that was it. He was told to have no cell phone contact with me, and I probably would have called my sister’s fiance (who was there) in case of any sort of extreme emergency.
Act like you don’t care. He’s obviously just getting a kick out of teasing you. Post-bachelor party, I asked if he had any pictures. He made this big show of “what happens at XXXX stays at XXXX mwahahhahaha” I happen to know they just gambled and got drunk and nothing scandalous happened ;o)
Post # 10
Honestly, that would piss me off. I don’t care what my FI does, but I think it is common courtesy to tell someone your general plans and the hotel… especially if they are going to be gone for 4 days.
Post # 11
I knew things like location, hotel, dates, guest list, potential activities, etc (then I got all the fun stories last night when he got home). It’s just common courtesy to know where your FI is going to be if he’s going to be gone for 4 days. You don’t have to know everything but you SHOULD know the basics.
Post # 12
I know all the details of the bachelor party. My FI is just doing a one night thing at the strippers, and then coming to meet up with me and the girls our last half hour to hour of the night. But if your FI is gone for 4 days, you should know at least what hotel he is in!
Post # 13
Yup I knew every last detail. My brother attended DH’s bachelor party, so there was no way to keep any secrets from me, lol! He was my secret (ok, not so secret) spy.
Post # 14
I know where they’re going and who is going, but that’s about it. I’m sure they’ll be going to bars, clubs, strip clubs, etc…I don’t feel the need to hear all the gory details of their planning, lol.
Post # 15
Beforehand, I knew the basics – day cruise & spending the nights before and after at a hotel. My husband kept me in the loop as far as the general plan and the guest list. I didn’t need the details. They came back the day before the wedding; my husband and I went to lunch with the best man & they told some stories about it.
I think your FI is being assy and immature. Sorry. It’s not like you’re demanding a minute-by-minute itinerary. If he’s going to be gone four days he shouldn’t be giving you a hard time about wanting to know the basics.
Post # 16
I know where they’re going, when they’re going and what hotel they’re staying at. Just the basics. I don’t feel I need to know the details, it’s his party with his buddies and he’s entitled to his guy time. I know it will involve a strip club only because my guy thinks that bachelor parties and strip clubs must go hand in hand but it doesn’t bother me much because it’s one night, not like he frequents them often. If you really want to know what hotel he’s staying at at least, maybe preface it like you want to have a surprise waiting for him in his room. I plan on having a bucket of Heineken lights and an envelope with some gambling cash waiting for my man.