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Received a Card and Gift from 3/4 BMs, 3/3 GM (even my little brother who is in college and has no job managed to scrounge up $100)
My wedding hasn't happened yet...but I would hope they gave me a card.
When I am a bm I do give a gift and a card.
Haven't had the wedding yet, but didn't really think about my MOH giving me a gift. She got gifts for both showers, and her being the type of person she is, I'm not expecting a wedding gift from her.
As I'm the first to get married out of my group of friends, I haven't been in a bridal party, but I would probably give a gift of some sort. I'm pretty sure anyone I've known to be in a bridal party has given a wedding gift. I know FI has...
Only my MOH gave us a gift and card out of 9 BMs and GMs. She also had to travel the farthest, and spent the most on her dress (voluntarily). The other girlshad no responsibility other than to get a dress and be there on time. Did not help the day of the wedding and I didn't have a shower.... I was less than impressed. I would have liked cards from everyone for memories.
Yes and Yes. But my MOH is a really really good friend, 2 bridesmaids are SIL.
Best Man and 1 groomsman are BILs and 3rd groomsman is really good friend aka husband of MOH.
They were all super super generous at shower and at the wedding. We refused to accept the wedding gift from MOH and her husband aka GM. It was too much. But they ended up showing up at our house a couple weeks after the wedding buying something else off our registry that they knew we wanted. Which was crazy and over the top as well!
We are very lucky to have such great family and friends.
Our main of honor gave us a nice gift it was very nice grill/toaster oven which has been so useful to us. And one of the groomsmen gave a gift of $100. we ddint get any other gifts from any of them, but I wasnt expecting any. My BMs were up very early that morning and they helped me decorate the entire reception hall. It was hard work. they paid for their own dress, hair and shoes and some of them had to ttake time of work to be there. I really wasnt expecting a gift and actually told my MOH not to buy a gift
Asked my bridal party to not get us anything. Their love and support was all we needed. Although my MOH and her FI did get us a gift. We got it when we returned home from our honeymoon.
Yes, all gave cards with $$ in them. And I do the same for every wedding I've been a bridesmaid (or will be) in.
@Gerbera: that's so sweet! ha, i hope i didn't imply that i didn't have great friends - my friends are the best! I was just a little confused/surprised by the lack of cards especially (moreso than gifts)
also, i did pay for pretty much everything - their only expense was the dress, which was very cheap for a bm dress!
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: wow, i'm kind of speechless! and i can't imagine how much you must have spent on 9 bm and gm.
@esqbee: sorry, I should clarify. I had six BMs and three GMs. So, in total nine people. We bought gifts for twelve, but three GMs dropped out the day before.
Oh, absolutely not! You did not make it sound like your friends aren't great!
I'm just also of the camp that I would not have expected anything yet they did and it was still over the top. So I really appreciated it.
The girls bought their dresses. I requested nothing else special and paid for their hair & makeup. The guys we only asked them to be in black suits they could wear old ones or buy new ones if they wanted. MOH & husband aka GM drove down with us and paid for one night of hotel the other nights they crashed at my bro's house with us. Best Man also drove down with us and paid for couple nights at hotel. As did other BIL who had to fly in from GA.
And also the girls threw me an awesome bridal shower, no bach party per my request. And the guys took my husband out for a super awesome bach party weekend at cabin.
So they were all completely freaking awesome! I'm just bummed my MOH chose to have a small intimate wedding and I couldn't throw her an awesome shower!!! But I did get her a pretty freaking awesome wedding gift. ;)
I had 4 BMs, two of them siblings, one best friend, and one SIL. I got gifts from all but SIL. I also got shower gifts from all but SIL (she threw shower with MIL, who didn't give an actual gift for the shower either - fiy, they are welloff)).
That being said, BIL did not give a gift either.
I think it depends, and in this case, I don't think his family felt that the siblings (though both over 18, but under 24) had to give gifts, whereas in my family, you give something, even if it's small.
I didn't expect my best friend to give anything, but she did. I even told her not to!
Every one of our BP gave us gifts except my own sisters... not even a card from them and it isn't like they couldn't afford it. They didn't have to lift a finger or a penny for anything. A simple card would have been nice. One of our GM even got us this really expensive and fancy Kurregg we wanted! It was so unexpected and completely awesome.
We had 5 BM and 6 GM. We received gifts from all but 2 GM (both not financially stable). I have to be honest I was not bothered that neither of them got us a card I guess because they are guys.
I would be bothered if I were you. Each time I have been in a wedding I have gotten a card and gift for the new couple. Weddings are expensive so I could see not affording a gift but IMO there is no excuse not to get someone a congratulatory card.
@jboltz19: yea see that's exactly how i feel!
it definitely helps to see that while most of the votes were for "card and gift", there were others in my position as well. Kinda just seems weird that i'll be sending thank yous to everyone except the bridal party, haha!
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: sorry, that sounds even WORSE, that 3 dropped out last minute! sorry i misunderstood :)
For us, it was mixed. A few people gave us cards, a few cards & gift, and a few nothing. I really could not care less, though. I was super excited to have my favorite people stand up with us as we exchanged vows!
I'm not married yet but I hope they give me something. When I am in a wedding I always give both!
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First, let me say this is not intended to start some debate over gift giving, as i know it is a touchy subject... and i'm not trying to sound ungrateful. I was just surprised by my closest friends at my wedding and was wondering if this is common practice that i wasn't aware of. I generally take extra time picking out a card and give an even more generous gift when i'm in a wedding, so i'm just a bit thrown off guard here! Not a single one of my bridesmaids got me a card, let alone a gift. (i'm a huge card person, and i made them all personalized photo cards in addition to their very expensive bm gifts, so i have to admit i was a little thrown off not to at least receive a congratulatory card!) i was planning on putting all our beautiful and sweet wedding cards in a keepsake album, but am now reconsidering since there are none from any of my closest friends!
So, i was just wondering, did you receive a card or gift from your bridal party?