Post # 1
I was just a bridesmaid in my friends wedding and the other bridesmaids and I went in on all a larger gift together for the shower. I also got a smaller gift off the registry for the shower from just me, and gave a card with cash from my fiancee (then bf) and I for the wedding. I was just wondering if bridesmaids normally buy gifts? Did yours go in on a bigger gift together for your shower? Did they get you a wedding gift as well? I sort of let my younger sister know I would LOVE one of the Dyson animals (my 2 dogs shed so much) today because I have 8 bridesmaids so I figured it wouldn’t be very much per person between them… But now I’m wondering if bridesmaids even get gifts normally because I’ve recently read that in some weddings they sometimes don’t because being in a wedding is expensive enough (and trust me I know). I’m just wondering what other girls have experienced.
Post # 3
we havent had our wedding yet but my 3 bridesmaids gave us really nice shower gifts!
Post # 4
When I was a BM we gave the bride a group gift (we each purchased a place setting) for her shower and then I gave her a gift at the wedding. I don’t care what my BMs plan to do but as far as I know, everyone I know does this and gifts seperate gifts for each occassion regardless of being int he wedding or not…
Post # 5
Every wedding I’ve been in, I’ve gifted as if I was a guest both for the shower and wedding (registry item for the shower and a monetary gift for the wedding).
My bridesmaids gave us gifts even though I specficially told them not to. They didn’t go in on anything, they just gifted us with what they felt was appropriate which was beyond what I ever expected. They were all very generous.
Post # 6
I am interested to see the results….
When I was a BM – 2 of the weddings we gave a big group gift, and the last one I gave an individual gift. BUT, I told my BM’s not to get me anything….they are already coming, not to mention throwing me a shower and b-party……which is MORE than enough!
Post # 7
For my shower by BMs all went in on a big gift, (our KitchenAid Mixer). Then they all gave individual gifts for the wedding.
I’ve also always gifted for the shower and the weddign when I was a BM.
Post # 9
I was a bridesmaid A few month ago and I didn’t give a wedding gift only because of how much it had cost me to be a bridesmaid, I just couldn’t afford it I still feel quite bad that I didn’t give a gift. But the dress alone was $400.
Post # 10
I’m not getting married until June, but I have been a bridesmaid four times. I have given a gift each time. In two of the weddings, they were group gifts. However, with all of the weddings…I did factor in how much I had to spend on the wedding. I know it sounds horrible, but at that point I had just started my career and didn’t have a ton of expendable income. I think you do what you can.
Post # 11
@Telsey: OMG! I can’t imagine asking someone to spend $400 on a dress that they most likely will never wear again (and will probably need altered) You are a saint! The dresses I like are Bill Levkoff (well, I love!) but I want my BMs to order on HOBs super in advance because they are $100-$150 less than at the bridal salons, and pretty much the only complaint from the website is they come in late when you order them 4-6 months from the wedding, so I figure if we order nearly a 8-10 months in advance all should be well.
Post # 12
I was MOH in my friend’s wedding last year and one of the other bridesmaids and I bought a whole bunch of the small things off of her registry and gave them to her as a joint gift. We were both students, so we could not afford much after our dresses, but it was nice to still give something. I would have felt weird about not giving anything. The third bridesmaid was the brides’ FSIL so we didn’t meet her until the wedding day. I don’t know if she gave a gift. I know the bride registered for a lot of small (under $5) items which let us feel like we were giving a lot without spending more than we could. It was a small, casual, quickly planned wedding. We gave gifts for both the shower (which we did not throw because the FMIL insisted on throwing and prevented us from really helping set up/help with) and the wedding. They had a large backyard reception 6 months later which I did not attend (I was out of state for the summer) and I don’t know if the other BMs gave gifts for that.
Post # 13
We didn’t have a shower, but each of our attendants gave us a gift. Then again, we also made sure that the wedding was as inexpensive as possible for them. They wore clothes they already owned, and we covered their accommodations and food.
Post # 14
My bridemaids & MOH already spent a lot of money being in the wedding party and paying for the bachelorette party so they didn’t get me a gift.
Post # 15
I was only in one wedding and I did give the bride a gift both and her shower and the day of her wedding. I didn’t get her anything off of her registry but, instead had custom items made for each gift and she loved them. I felt the custom made gift was more personal and not something should would expect since she didn’t register for it.
Post # 16
For the shower, I’ve done group and individual gifts before. And for the wedding, always an individual (or with SO) gift, but not a group gift.