Post # 1
I am having a destination wedding next year and am wondering if it is ok to ask the bridesmaids to contribute a little bit? I was planning a wedding here and would have got them to pay but now it is overseas and they have to pay for the cruise I a not sure if I should ask.
I was going to ask them to pay half for the bridesmaid dresses, however I also just found out that hair and make up will roughly cost $175 per bridesmaid and I was thinking of asking them to contribute like $30-$40 towards it but feel I am being rude for asking.
So just looking for some advise from people that may have been in similar situations.
Thank you 🙂
Post # 3
Nope. But to be fair, they are wearing shoes they already own and doing their own hair and make-up.
Post # 4
@MissAtoMrsV2014: The only thing I have my bridesmaids paying for is the normal stuff they pay for – hair, make-up (if they choose), nails (if they choose), dress and shoes. Other than that I am not asking them to contribute to the wedding. If they choose to contribute in any way, it will be their time for what they wanna do.
Post # 5
Thanks for your reply thats what I meant just normal stuff like hair/dress etc. I didn’t mean like paying for the reception or anything haha
Post # 6
We’re having a DW. I’m gonna make the girls foot jewlery for the beach ceremony, and I’m not gonna tell them that they *have* to get pro makeup/hair. I just want them to come and get a dress (and not an expensive one)
Post # 7
They should pay for their hair, makeup, dress, and bachelorette party (in my opinion.)
Sometimes the bridal party even hosts the shower.
But that’s it.
Post # 8
It’s rude to ask for money toward hair and makeup even if it was local. Either you should make it optional for them to use your MUA or else they can DIY or pay someone as they see fit.
As for the dresses, while that is typically the responsibility of the BMs, I would cover the cost. You are asking your BMs to give up a vacation of their own choosing , take time off from work and incur the cost of a cruise and transportation overseas!
Post # 9
@MissAtoMrsV2014: Whoa, $175 for hair and makeup?? I think either you should pay, or let them choose to do their own. Half of the bridesmaid dresses sounds fair (especially if they’re reasonable in price to start with), considering that the BM will be paying for the cruise, too.
Post # 10
My BMs paid for their dresses and professional hair and makeup. I gave them a choice about whether or not they wanted the hair and makeup, though. I would have been okay with it if they chose to do their own. They also split the cost of the bachelorette party.
My mom paid for and hosted the shower.
Post # 11
The girls are buying their own dresses and shoes, and wearing just their standard jewellery. They’re also putting in for the batchelorette party. All hair and makeup is free, done by a friend. 🙂
Post # 13
@MissAtoMrsV2014: Asking them to pay for half their dresses is perfectly acceptable IMO. honestly I think you could ask them to pay for the entire dress and be fine.
The hair and makeup cost is pretty high IMO, so I would tell them that you sourced this, realized its expensive and will pay X towards it for them, but they are responsible for the balance if they choose to use this professional.
I paid for the makeup for my girls, and the hair was optional so they paid if they wanted it ($75 for hair, $75 for makeup, Inc false eyelashes)
Just let them know NOW not later. That way they can save up for the expenses or let you know if its just too much for them and they need to be just a guest.
Post # 14
I’m not married yet, but I have been a bridesmaid in 2 DW’s. This is what I paid:
$1200 flights/accommodation for 1 week
Roughly $125 chip in for bachelorette party
Ocho Rios, Jamaica:(technically my mom paid.. But)
$1900 flights/accommodation for 1 week
I didnt chip for the bachelorette party because I was underage.
I am also having a destination wedding in Montego Bay, Jamaica and I expect my bridesmaids to pay for their flights, accommodations, custom dresses ($300- no additional cost for alterations). I expect them come out for my bachelorette party, but I’m okay with just taking a cab to a bar with me dressed up and getting wasted 🙂
2 of my bridesmaids are the brides mentioned above- my sisters, so no complaining from them so far haha
Post # 15
Also, I was originally planning on doing DIY updo’s! Pinterest is a wonderful thing 🙂 I know a bride who just did this at her wedding and she did her own hair and she looked amazing! But my wedding is still 18 months away so we’ll see 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I think it’s a regional thing who pays for BM stuff, but I don’t think you should force them to have their hair and make-up done for $175. That’s outrageous, and I’m from the northeast where shit’s expensive.
One rule of thumb is if you are MAKING them get their hair done, you pay for it. Or at least pay for their dress. Think of how much you are making them pay to travel to your wedding- flight, hotel, meals, time off work, hair, make-up, dress, using vacation days, etc. I would never ask my BMs to pay that much.