- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
@linnylou_88: When I bought my dress I was on steroids and NOT having a good time of it. So when I tried my dress on when it came in it was big and looked so different and I did NOT like it! I seriously cried because it was not wearable and looked terrible. I didn’t get to see how it would really look until about two weeks before the wedding, and I felt much better after I did. It ended up looking fabulous and I loved it!
Interesting post! My first fittin gis next week and I am freaked out. If it’s too small, I’ll beat myself up for not working out over the last few months. If it’s too big, I’ll worry that it will look terrible. Hopefully I can post here in a week that it looked great.
I got my dress over a year before my wedding, and I was not working out at the time. When I started crossfit my body changed so much. When I went to get it altered it looked awful – I didnt fill out the cups, the shape didn’t work. AH!
When I tried on the dress, the only sample they had was way too big on me. They clipped me in, and I could envision what it would look like, but then I would look back on the picture of me in the large sample and wonder. When my first fitting rolled around, I hadn’t lost as much weight as I’d hoped, but getting into a dress that was the right size with all the right undergarments really made a difference. My actual dress is pretty flattering, even though I’m still bigger than I’d thought I’d be by now.
Yes it affected my feelings, but I can’t say for sure that it was in a bad way. I knew I wasn’t at my ideal weight when I went shopping but due to timing I had no choice but to go shopping during that timeframe. I knew that none of the dresses would look AMAZING on me (I was hard on myself for no reason, I’ve been beautiful the entire time) so I just kinda picked one that looked halfway decent.
Had I been at my goal weight while shopping I would have been more picky and discerning which is both a good and bad thing. I kinda just stopped looking when I found one that was acceptable. I took some pics in the bridal salon and even now when I look at them I don’t see MY dress, I see a cute chubby girl wearing a larger version of my dress.
Mentally, that wasn’t the best space to be in BUT financially and logistically it kinda gave me an advantage. Maybe if I were shopping now, for example, I’d never find anything because I’d be doting over every detail trying to find a perfect dress for my perfect body. But when I was of the mindset that perfection wasn’t an option, I selected the 2nd dress I ever tried. I had to consciously put these thoughts out of my mind when it came time to order the actual dress. I was at my goal weight last year so it was easy to picture what it would look like when everything came together although that’s not what was in the mirror. I’m glad I didn’t trip. All that said, the dress STILL wound up being too big, lol. After all the trouble I went to I’ll still have to holla at some alterations.
I think this piece of advice might help you when your dress does come in. When you get your dress, please don’t make the mistake of thinking because it was measured to you that its going to look amazing. Keep in mind that it will probably have to be brought in places, taken out in others, and the bustle part takes a while for the seamstress to do (at least mine did, it was confusing bc of the dress). Just know that its the first fitting, things will change and on the day of its going to be beautiful!
When I went to go see my dress after it came in, I had gained 12 lbs due to a medication I was put on despite being an avid runner and working out 5x a week. I saw the before picture of when I bought the dress to the after picture when I tried it on again, I instantly started crying. I made my dr switch my medication and now 2 months later I’m down 3lbs and just had my first fitting. Guess what? It went really well and I was much happier! Even though I’m not down to my goal weight, which in 2 months I will not get down another 9lbs, I’m content with how I am feeling.
Try not to put too much emphasis on trying to reach a goal weight or toning up too much. Just get to a point where you are content. You picked your dress for a reason, once those alterations are done…you are going to look amazing and that dress will indeed be meant for you 🙂 try not to worry!
There are a few styles I really like, but I am just not sure they are going to look good on me. I don’t like my arms, and I am afraid if I pick a strapless gown that I will look like a stuffed sausage. Ideally, I would like to lose 30 pounds. I don’t know if I can do it or not. It’s sad.