Post # 1
I just had my surprise shower yesterday and it was wonderful. It started at 1 (I showed up around 1:30) and I opened gifts in sessions, giving a break once for everyone to get food, and another break for cake, then opened the last few gifts. Many guests ended up leaving before I opened their gifts because they had to go somewhere else, or maybe because it was toooo hot (heat wave in NJ!).
However, my fiance has a rough work schedule (restaurant business) and got out of work later than he had hoped he would. By the time he arrived all the gifts were opened and packed in the car (people packed them up in waves, rather than all at once.) He was very bummed he got out late and felt bad he wasn’t there to see our families and help me (physically and emotionally).Granted, it was a very lady-like party (garden party in the yard!) and he would not have wanted to be there the whole time, but at least a half hour with the guests to say hello would have been nice. Plus, it would have taken some of the attention off me!
Just wondering how many other grooms went to the showers and if they did, when did they show up, or did you care?
Post # 3
Congrats on your shower!
yes, my hubby showed up at the end with roses and a card for me and to thank everyone for coming. It was important to me as it’s tradition in our family. I didn’t expect the roses though!
Post # 4
I didn’t vote because none of them apply. My Fi brought me to the shower, came in and said hello (especially because MANY of the guests were his family), and had a bite to eat, then left before gifts and games. 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve been to a lot of showers and the groom always shows up at the end. I expect FH to do the same when its my turn.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens
By the time FI arrived almost everyone had already left…so I voted but my choice wasn’t really up there.
Post # 7
Nope my DH, FI at the time was not at the shower nor did I want him at the shower. He went golfing with his dad, and brother since his dad was in town with his mom.
Post # 8
@Just_Squeeze: I’m jealous. That sounds lovely! What a sweetheart you have!
I’m just a little bummed because he always misses stuff because of work and his boss (also a groomsmen in our wedding and one of his best friends) was off yesterday and probably could have worked for him so he could be off and guarantee that he’d show up.
He doesn’t come to many family functions as it is because he’s always at work and I have to tell people that when they ask for him. He keeps apologizing today and feels bad about it, and I don’t want to be upset toward him because he already feels bad, but I can’t help but wish it turned out differently.
Post # 9
I highly doubt J comes unless it’s at the very end to help me pack up and transport gifts. I don’t recall any bridal showers that I’ve been to that the future hubby showed up or even stayed. Our family is traditional and it’s been strictly for women.
Post # 10
I’ve never been to a bridal shower where the groom shows up at the end. I’ve only heard about it online. I’m sure Mr. Tattoo will show up since my MOH is planning my bridal shower in my hometown (in another state) and we will probably wait until very close to the wedding so that his grandmother and step mom can attend.
Post # 11
Congrats on your shower! My FI happened to be there the entire time but originally he was just going to show up at the end to thank everyone. I don’t think you have anything to worry about since you had a surprise shower and it sounds like your groom would have been there if he could’ve.
Post # 12
One of our showers was a couples shower so he was there the whole time. For the other shower, he dropped me off and then came over when it was done. Most of the husbands/boyfriends came over when it was done and we just relaxed, had drinks and ate all of the leftover food. It was great 🙂
Post # 13
My shower is a “surprise” even though I know when it is. I made sure to mention the tradition to FI so he knows that he has to show up towards the end. I’d actually really like for him to be there to help me open the gifts but I don’t know if he’ll make it for that. I also may have mentioned that bringing me flowers would be nice but we’ll see if he remembers that part.:)