(Closed) Did your fiance's family help pay for the wedding? How much?

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did his family help pay for the wedding?
    $100-$1000 : (10 votes)
    5 %
    $1000-$3000 : (23 votes)
    11 %
    $3000-$5000 : (26 votes)
    12 %
    $5000-$10000 : (26 votes)
    12 %
    $10,000-$20,000 : (17 votes)
    8 %
    $20,000+ : (9 votes)
    4 %
    My family paid for it all : (25 votes)
    12 %
    His family paid for it all : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Fiance and I paid for our entire wedding by ourselves : (40 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Paying for it all ourselves.

    My aunt asked to help direct the rehearsal dinner though we fully intend to pay.  And to be honest that has escalated quickly.  She emails me several times a day…a million billion questions.  I wish we hadn’t said she could help, it’s so much more work and stress and she keeps pushing us to go in different directions then where we had said we wanted…then we acquiece and then a few emails later she’s asking us whether we want our old choice or this new choice…and it’s like going in circles.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We didn’t ask and they didn’t offer. They aren’t exactly in the best place to do so.

    Maybe you can explain to them that this is what we can afford, so this is what we’re doing. I think its best to be honest…

     

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    8580 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    His side hasn’t offered, and we haven’t asked.

    My mom is giving us a little bit [about $900] for the open bar, otherwise it’s all us.

    Post # 6
    Member
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We paid for it all ourselves, but the rehersal dinner.  If it’s FI’s parents insisting on the upgrades then shouldnt FI talk to them about how much they are contributing?  I would really caution against YOU asking them how much they are kicking in, and let him handle his family.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1477 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    His parents paid for 1/4, my parents paid for 1/4, DH and I paid for the rest.

    Post # 9
    Member
    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My FI’s parents kicked in $5000, and I’m sure they picked up a little something here or there, so I voted $5000-10000 since there was overlap right at $5000.

    Post # 10
    Member
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My Mom is paying for most of the wedding, my Dad covered all of the DP ‘s on our venue, and FI and I are chipping in as well. FI’s family is not able to really contribute, but they did offer to pay for the rehearsal dinner, which was really great of them.

    Your situation is different though, and I would say that you should not ask – but if they continue to push certian upgrades, you and your FI need to be clear that what you’re doing is within your budget. If they then decide to say “well, we’ll up your budget by XX.XX), then there you go.

    Post # 11
    Member
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    No, whe are from differents countries.. His family it´s paying for they aeroplane tickets, hotel, (that it´s always expensive) to comme to the wedding, And my family it´s helping us with the wedding…My mom give me my dress , my dad 70 % of the wedding. They help us because i´m finishing the university and and my boyfriend it´s paying for our house.

    Post # 12
    Member
    34 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We’re paying it ourselves. We didn’t ask either of our parents, although they + other uncles and aunts offered.

    Post # 13
    Member
    14305 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    His parents paid for the rehersal dinner which was probably aobut 1500.  My parents paid for the reception which ended up to be about half.  My mom also pushed for more food and appetizers, which I didn’t really want to do, but gave in since she didn’t mind the extra cost so it was easier than arguing with her to save money.  If they are pushing for something, and say they will help pay, I would get cash in hand before setting anything stone.  It’s just too risky imo to go over what you are comfortable with without having the money for it.

    Post # 14
    Member
    4049 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    My family is paying the bulk, though I believe my FI and I will chip in a couple thousand. His family isn’t paying even though they have the means, and that is for several reasons – for one, they are already flying 5,000 miles to attend the event. Secondly, they have said they will help us out financially when I move over there and help pitch in with furniture and moving costs. Overall I’m a happy camper.

    Post # 15
    Member
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    His parent aren’t giving us money per se but they have volunteered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, the tuxes, and the bridal party hair. which I assume will come to around 1000-1500

     

    Post # 16
    Member
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    They gave us $5000 which we’re putting towards our honeymoon.

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