Post # 1
So my FI is trying to arrange an afternoon when he and his three groom’s men can get together in a couple months to visit a store and rent some matching suits. We’d like the guys all in matching suits (none of them own anything close to similar) and thought it would be easiest for them to go to a convenient location where they could pick something they’d all be happy with.
When we explained the idea to two of the grooms-men, they were on-board, but the third is making a fuss and we’re not sure why. He says that at the previous wedding he was in, everyone just gave their measurements to the groom who went out and rented all the suits and that was way easier. He’s said this multiple times even though we react the same way each time (saying that we’re happy with our way) and we’re not sure why he’s persisting.
When FI brought it up again today, the grooms-man asked him to “explain his reasoning”. It can’t really be a convenience thing since the groom’s man lives in the city of the suit rental place and the wedding. I’m not sure that it’s a financial thing because suit rentals aren’t that expensive and since we’re on a budget, FI would never pick something that was over-priced. This is the grooms-man’s only expense so I’m not sure what’s going on here.
Is there something I’m missing? Is it really not customary at all for the guys to get together to get reasonably priced and coordinating apparel?
Post # 3
I don’t see anything wrong with what you’re trying to do, I think it’s weird the third groomsman is making a fuss over it.
It just worked out that my FI and his best man went together and picked everything out, and then had his other two groomsmen go and give measurements/put down deposits.
One of the groomsmen lives 2 1/2 hours away, so it was easier for my FI and his schedule to do it this way.
I say, to each their own.
Post # 4
I’ve never heard of the GMs going. DH has been in a few weddings and was just directed to send in measurements (or go in to get measured). If he doesn’t want to go than just have the guys go without them.
Post # 5
Ideally, yeah they all go together. I don’t think they all have to go at the same time, but I think the guy needs to go get fitted and deal with his own suit, not just give you his measurements. We did ours with Men’s Wearhouse, which made the process very simple. FI and I went in and got him measured and picked the type of suit. Then they created a ‘group number’ so that the groomsmen could go into any Men’s Wearhouse and get fitted, and they would automatically receive the suit we wanted them to get. They all went in separately, since they live in different places. I don’t know if they have Men’s Wearhouse or anything like it in Canada…
Post # 6
Most guys hate shopping. Maybe he thinks it’s a waste of time; thinking that it’ll take a good hour or two to pick a suit, and he’d rather get measured up in 5 minutes once they’ve chosen. If he doesn’t want to go, why force him?
At least one of my guys went: I went with the, and the best man was certainly there. I can’t remember if the one other groomsman was there or not.
Post # 7
DH and I picked out the tuxes and had each of the groomsmen and ushers call in their measurements. All the guys picked up their tuxes the day before the wedding.
Post # 8
My fiances groomsmen went together but the place we rented from (Men’s Wearhouse) provided a group code so really any of the guys could go on their own schedule. Perhaps ask the rental place if they could have the style info on file and give this groomsman the option to go on his own but maybe set a deadline date..
Post # 9
All of the groomsmen and DH and I went to pick out the suits together. Our best man lives in another city so we just got his measurements and ordered his the same day.
Post # 10
DH and two GM went. One had to work so he went a few days later.
Post # 11
I think it’s pretty standard to just send in measurements to the suit place. What I don’t understand is why this is a problem for you guys. If you ask me, it’s so much easier that way. One less opinion to have on hand.
Post # 12
I’m taking my best man – and the rest of them will wear whatever the two of us pick. (We’re making a full Bro afternoon of it: beer and pizza, tuxedo shopping, and then a movie where things explode.) Don’t worry about your leftover groomsman. A lack of interest in his attire does not necessarily equal a lack of interest in the event.
Post # 13
We tried to coordinate the guys all coming together, but two groomsmen live almost 3 hours away from the tux rental shop, and the best man was super busy at the time, so Mr. Dahling went on his own, told the consultant what he wanted to look like, and picked out what he wanted the groomsmen/Best Man to wear, and the consultant put that in his profile.
The other men went into the rental place gave Mr. Dahling’s name, and then got fitted when they had time. Simple. Not as fun, but it worked!
After planning our wedding I’ve realized you’re always gonna have one village crier, he can go on his own, or with the group and he can suck it up. This is YOUR wedding, and if this is what makes the majority happy then he has to put up or shut up.
Post # 14
Three of the guys went together, one went later by himself, and two called their measurements in
Post # 15
I guess the fuss he’s making is bothering me more than anything else. Besides showing up at the venue in a suit and standing near FI, we have literally asked nothing else of him. He’s FI’s bestfriend, he knows this is the way FI wants to have it done, and he’s fighting it over and over again. I suspect we’ll end up telling him he can go get fitted and pick up the pre-selected suit on his own time but I think it’s unfortunate that he’s making zero effort.
Post # 16
My FH and I went to Savvi to pick suits. They let him order 3( or maybe it was 2) styles and try them on in the store, and at that time his best man went with and put in his 2 cents,and then they choose tuxs. Now all the guys have to go in at some point and get measured. Savvi has our info on file so they just say my grooms name and they pull his file.
Its very possible the 3rd groomsman really hates shopping? idk. just let him stay home, he will ruin the expiernce for everyone else. then once they pick a tux send him to get measured