Post # 1
Ok – so we’re only on day 16 of married life. Still in the newlywed phase for sure.
During the engagement he was excited to get married (not excited about the wedding as he wanted to elope) but he was always kind of anxious about our 60 person wedding and how much our parents were spending on it. I think it truly kept him from enjoying being engaged. Getting him to find a wedding band was like pulling teeth and when he finally found one he seemed kind of luke warm on it. It came to be that a few weeks before the wedding I thought “jeeze, is he ok? is this cold feet on his part?”
Well as soon as the vows were done he turned into a completely different person. He was thrilled! He was finally able to let go and enjoy the night. Now he’s on cloud 9, loves his ring, won’t stop talking about how much he loves being married. I’m not complaining but I had no idea how much of a turn he would take after the wedding. I’m pretty much the same as I was before. I’ve heard that often men really do like and enjoy being married once all the hallaballoo of wedding anxiety has passed.
Anyone experience this post-wedding?
Post # 3
nothing really changed for us. but he is making one amazing husband.
Post # 4
We were both happier to have the wedding over with.
Your husband sounds like me. I had about 3 months of elation where i was like HOLY CRAP i’m not planning a wedding anymore!! And FYI i wanted to elope due to anxiety.
Post # 5
We had our fair share of problems with wedding planning, but my husband became more relaxed and happier overall. Nothing changed, except for the stress disappearing 😛
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church Ceremony & Restaurant/Bed & Breakfast Reception
This is a really good thread…my FI is naturally anxious so the engagement has been a true test! Good to hear so many other people watched their now DH go through these struggles prior to the big day!
Post # 7
@FleeSircus: DH didnt go through anything like that. He was excited to get married, nervous about the ceremony though. But that didnt change how he acted up until that morning. Right after the ceremony we were both able to just chill and start partying!
Post # 8
Hmm. I would say we were both happier and had a sense of relief. The wedding put a big strain on me beforehand, which in turn put a strain on him. On the actual day it was amazing though, and we had the best time. We definitely had a wedding “high” and talked about it a lot.
And now that it isn’t brand new and fresh, we both realize how happy we are being married. It’s been a struggle with my international move and lots of adjustment, but we’re so happy to be where we are.
Post # 9
Is it weird that I read this post and I was like “MAN, I totally hope this happens to me!!”
I feel like I’m in the fog, and I’m just not sure when it will lift! I hope after the vows – that would be awesome!!!
I am also one of those “prefer to elope” people.
FH is super freaking excited to get married and likes to stare longingly at his ring whenever we take it out of the safe. Haha – there is no fog for him!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
I did all of the wedding planning stuff, so he hasn’t changed at all. He’s always been awesome and continues to be awesome.
Post # 11
oh it was major stress before the big day…. I can’t say it was an enjoyable process for me…. but we both look back on the day and see how truly wonderful it was… I love my hubby more and more every day because I get to see the true essence of who he is and who he was created it be…. I am learning even to celebrate his little flaws because they make up who he is. There have been some challenges because it always is when you are trying to merge two people into one…. but it is so worth it and I wouldnt trade it for the world.
Post # 12
@FleeSircus: My DH was pretty similar. He wanted to get married but kind of dreaded the wedding and the whole planning process. His lack of enthusiasm for the wedding definetly freaked me out a bit and made me worried he didnt’ really want to get married.
He enjoyed the wedding, but now that it’s over he’s just happy to be married and to have that done.