Post # 1
My SO has commited himself to a timeline by which he has said that he will propose (his 31st birthday) September 2013. Im curious to know if your SO stuck to their timelines?……….
….was it you that set the timeline or with a little nudging did he do it?
Post # 3
I wad nudging him to set the time line and he did. And he proposed 3 months before the timeline was up
Post # 4
We both knew we were right for each other from the beginning of our relationship, so no nudging or timeline was ever necessary. He proposed six months after we met (in July 2011), and we’ll have been married for two months on Thanksgiving day.
Post # 5
He had promised last NYE to propose within the year. Later it became a ‘summer’ish. And then we ordered a diamond end of August and the ring took a while to be made. So yes and no haha
Post # 6
There never was need of a timeline. If I wanted to get engaged before he asked, I would have proposed to him. We talked about the future “if we get married”, which eventually turned into “when we get married”. Not long after that, he asked me.It was almost a year and a half after we started dating at that point.
I’m not trying to judge at all, but I’m curious as to the whole idea of a timeline. If you know it’s coming (or that he has a ring, etc), why not just be engaged and set the timeline as when you’ll start planning the wedding? Again, I’m not trying to judge or be snarky, just curious.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I told him when I would ideally like to be engaged and I knew he had taken that in, but we didn’t have a set “timeline” per se. He proposed before the time I had told him.
Post # 8
He didn’t have a strict timeline, but I was definitely a bit fussy/impatient about the topic during the last couple years before he proposed. If we were going to bother with a big wedding day (and not elope) then I wanted to do it sooner rather than later because I’m not getting any younger over here lol.
Post # 9
I was never really “waiting,” but we had discussed that we would get engaged either six months before or after his sister’s wedding in October 2012 so as to not interfere with her spotlight, and that six months before would be better because we need to get married by August 2013 for health insurance purposes. He proposed on our 4th dating anniversary in April.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
He proposed for my birthday. He was 5 days late with the proposal because the ring didn’t end up coming until after my birthdya, but he didn’t tell me he was going to propose, so I didn’t know that he was late until after the fact.
Post # 11
We got together in early March, and he proposed in September, so I never had to institute the timeline. But I did still consider myself “waiting” for a couple of months while I knew he had the ring and before he asked. I was getting kind of antsy by the end, but I don’t think I’d have left him if he had taken an abnormally long time to propose, because I knew by the fact that he bought it that he was serious about me.
Post # 12
We never had a timeline. We had talked about marriage before and knew it was what we both with each other so there was no rush needed. He proposed within a year of that talk. We had been dating pretty seriously for 6 years and the commitment was already there so we didn’t discuss timelines.
Post # 13
Sounds like we have very similar stories! We got engaged 6 months after meeting as well 🙂
Post # 14
@HeathenSwan: Sure, I understand where you’re coming from. Every couple is different, sometimes it happens easily, sometimes a bit of nudging has to occur.
I’m three years into the relationship and I’m 30, my other half is so incredibly laid back that he probably wouldn’t see the need to propose until the 5 year mark. I’m not waiting around for that long in ‘girlfriend land’, I’ve been there and done that. I want to move forward in our relationship. Theres been talk of a proposal over the past year and a half and nothing has materialised. He has told me in no uncertain terms that he is the one to propose.
The problem with us is that I’ve had no assurances of a ring, we’ve never looked at that together, I had no clue at all and that was what was driving me crazy inside. I needed to know roughly what the plan was as there are two of us in the relationship.
The not knowing whether it was going to happen in the next year or the next three years was awful, but now I know I feel relieved and can sit back and enjoy without constantly wondering.
I hope that makes sense….
Post # 15
Mine was early! In October 2011 I asked for a timeline and he told me it would happen by the end of summer 2012. Well, he proposed in February 2012 so he was several months early 😀 It was kind of awesome because I wasn’t really expecting it, so it was a nice surprise.
Post # 16
According to him, yes, because he wanted to do it for Christmas. I knew it was coming because we picked out the ring. However, I was convinced it’d happen on NYE, but it was a nice surprise to get it early!
Up above, I read someone say something along the lines of a girl proposing.. That’s exactly what I said to a friend of mine last night! She said she was literally going to tell him to not bother with her after NYE if he doesn’t have a ring for her… and to call her when he’s ready to propose… So if you want it that bad, DO IT YOURSELF! LOL!