- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I am already showing at 5 weeks and 2 days today and have pretty much the same symptoms as I have had before my missed period: extremely tired, slight cramping, frequent urination, breast tenderness (actually let’s say they feel like they are on fiyah!!!), nausea, ocassional headaches, and now some lower back pain.
My husband is truly a man among men, and I love him dearly. I don’t expect him to baby me for the next 8 months and dote on my every need, but sometimes I think he feels that just because I am not in the bathroom puking my guts out that I am just fine.
For instance, I can barely make it through work with my eyes open somedays. My husband gets up at 6 (he’s a public relations employee for a coal mine during the summer and a choir teacher during the school year). We have a 4 month old St. Bernard, so our plan has always been (until apparently late last week) he wakes up, let’s the dog out (we kennel him), and then leaves for work. And by that time I am up. The reason he gets up and lets the dog out is because if the dog hears him get up he will cry in his kennel. Plus it is about time he gets let out to go potty anyway. Lately he has been leaving the dog in his kennel because “he doesn’t want to disturb the dog if he is sleeping.” Well, 5 minutes after going upstairs, the dog starts whining and scratching. So there I am, hauling my tired butt out of bed, walking all the way up the steps and taking the dog out (while the dog bites my feet and legs the whole way).
My husband doesn’t understand that my nights are rough, even at this stage. I wake up almost every 2 hours to pee and I go to bed with extreme nausea, making it hard to go to sleep. It is like he doesn’t think about that stuff. He doesn’t want to disturb the dog if he’s sleeping in the morning but to hell with my sleep? I am carrying our baby for goodness sake! My body is doing things to me I don’t even understand.
He has done some other things, but this was just kind of the icing on the cake this morning. It is the least he could do because honestly I feed the dog all of his meals (including at noon. I come home on my lunch break to let the dog out, feed him, play with him, and eat my lunch at work because I don’t have time after I get done with the dog) and give him his pills.
I am not really looking for any advice on how to handle my situation, BUT I DO want to know when your husbands started understanding that you were pregnant? When did they start doing things for you and really taking on a paternal instinct?