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I think that he should go. However, there will be boobs everywhere.
My husband is coming to breastfeeding class with me, so I voted yay.
We haven't went to ours yet, but we asked the education coordinator at the hospital if it would be okay if DH came to our class and she said they encourage husbands to attend. Basically, two people listening are better than one (he can help you remember stuff you may forget...esp. at three in the morning when the baby is crying). Also, it helps him feel involved and he can know what is going on with his wife and child.
DH refused to go basically for the same reason...he thought there would be boobs everywhere, but that could not be farther from the truth. Instead my mom attended with me because I wanted someone to go with me. Besides myself there was one other women flying solo. It was really awkward for me being the only person whose husband did not come. I had to really stress that I was married and DH was working because the consultant teaching the class kept saying "...fathers and grandmothers..." and looked right at me each time. He should have been there without a doubt.
i'm so glad you posted this! we're scheduled for a bf class this saturday and my husband is SO reluctant to go. he definitely thinks there will be live demos and bare breasts everywhere. i can't imagine that being the case! plus, i feel like it's important for us to BOTH be knowledgeable and invested in the feeding and care of our baby. it really pisses me off when he makes comments like he shouldn't be going! as of now he is, and regardless i'm making him come lol.
we didn't go to a class beforehand, but DH watched all the videos with me. I've heard it's good to have your partner know what a good latch is and to listen for swallowing as he can move around to look and listen. there have been a few husbands to come to the local la leche league meeting too (with their wives and infant).
At our hospital, they have two classes. One for before the birth when husband's are welcome and the only boobs are on videos, and one after when women do pull out the boobs and men are not allowed.
My husband came with me to the first one, there was only one other guy there. He was very obviously just doing it to make me happy, but then after the class started he loved it. After the first 5 minutes he turned to me and whispered "this is so neat!" Our baby isn't here yet, but I'm pretty sure it's going to be helpful that he was there b/c I'll have a lot going on so I won't remember all of the tips and tricks they told us, so hopefully he will be able to help.
We didn't go to a breastfeeding class but I think it would be helpful for your husband to go. I think my husband has been a bit surprised at the amount of time feeding takes up and since I did most of the reading he's really defering to me on when to introduce bottles of expressed milk and when to feed and any other issue. I think he would have felt a bit more empowered if he had thought about the information a bit more on his own instead of just listening to my opinions after reading (not that he couldn't have read on his own, he just didn't).
We didnt do a breastfeeding class. But one of the reasons I would vote YES is so he gets an idea of how mentally and physically exhausting nursing is in the beginning. Even if baby latches and you have a good supply it is overwhelming. My husband had a really hard time understanding how overwhelming being the only food source for your baby is.
I vote nay. I would not have wanted my fiance there. Some things are special between a mom and baby, and that includes breastfeeding. I can't imagine why it would be necessary for a man to be there. I mean he can't breastfeed and he won't breastfeed so it seems rather silly. However, if that is what you choose to do, then go for it, I'm sure there will be other husbands as well.
My husband attended the breastfeeding class with me that was a part of our childbirth/child care course series. We were actually the only ones at our class, so it was just us and the instructor, but I think it was helpful for him to attend. We both learned a lot, and he was very helpful/sympathetic for the short time I breastfed.
We both went. There was no booby flashing at all. I do have to say, though, that we really didn't enjoy our class and didn't learn much from it, and the lady ran over like 45 minutes...I was quite the grumpy, hungry pregnant lady since it was dinner time!
I haven't gone to mine yet, it's next week. I hadn't intended on bringing him, I assumed he'd be way to uncomfortable. I'm not sure what to even expect there, but maybe it would be good to have him join me? I really like to include him on everything we possibly can, and he loves being included. Hmmm, I'm gonna text him now and see what he thinks about it!
We both went. There was a prop to show proper holding and to feel what ducts feel like, etc but other than that, no worries on the uncomfortableness for my husband. I thought it was very helpful that he attended so he had an idea of what I was going to be dealing with and could therefore, be in a better position to support me both mentally and physically. Sometimes he remembered things from the class I had forgotten and he helped remind me of suggestions.
My husband is going to the La Leche League meeting with me next month for the Dads' meeting. Granted, we haven't had our baby yet, but I'm more uncomfortable with seeing a woman breastfeed than he is. Even though it shouldn't, breastfeeding totally weirds me out, yet I believe that a mother should be able to feed her baby where ever her baby gets hungry. Yes, I'm weird and rambling.
Mine didn't, but I was okay with it. It was a 2 hour class that was mostly watching videos and learning about latches and feeding positions. Interesting but I'm glad it was free!
I went to a class with about 12 pregnant ladies - half brought their husbands. I did not because I thought it didn't make sense for him to go (and was more $$).
There were parts of the class I was happy he wasn't there for because he would have been a little uncomfortable (pre-baby, after baby none of this would have bothered him!!). But overall I think it would have been better for him to be there so that in those first few overwhelming days, he could have the knowledge to help out. He was there when the lactation consultant came by in the hospital, and was then able to be helpful.
My husband went. I'm glad he did because it helped him understand that it's natural but doesn't come naturally. So he was very helpful once I started nursing because he understood that it may cause me some pain and that baby might have trouble latching. He was very encouraging.
I think husbands/partners are typically encouraged to go to BF-ing classes designed for moms-to-be. I can't really imagine why they'd have you whip out boobs before you have a baby to go on them- I just don't think it would be useful. Ours was mainly videos (with lots of boobs in them). Probably 3/4 of the women in my class came with partners. DH came and asked tons of questions. I agree with previous posters that I was really glad he came- BFing can be so hard, and emotionally draining, and physically tiring/uncomfortable, that it was really nice to have DH have a better understanding of it beforehand.
@camrie:that it's natural but doesn't come naturally
i wish more people understood this!
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My husband and I are on the fence about whether he should join me for our breastfeeding class tomorrow night. He envisions women pulling out their boobies and would thus prefer not to go; I say no booby-flashing and maybe it would be good for him to hear the same things I do.
What say you all? We decided to crowdsource our decision. :)