Post # 1
When you did your registries? My mother wants to do EVERYTHING with me it seems like. She wants to come with me and my fiance to register at Bed Bath and Beyond…but I just feel this is something that is usually made for just the bride and the groom.
Anyones elses mom went with them?
Post # 3
My mom was the opposite – I had to beg her to come to anything with me! 😛 But yeah, you probably should leave Mom at home for the registry part. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
This should be something you and Fiance do on your own. You are choosing what you will use for TA very long time. Your mother is not going to use these things.
My mom did not go and if she had wanted to, I would’ve told her she couldn’t.
Post # 5
Neither of our moms came with us.. I think it is something you two should do on your own.
Post # 7
my mom went with me for a lot of stuff, but not to register. it was just my huband and i. but i did ask my mom’s opinion on stuff i wasn’t sure about (like what brand of pots/pans to register for). i think there was one day when my mom and i happened to be in the mall and we stopped in at macy’s because i needed to add a few things, but that was it.
Post # 8
I did my registries online because I didn’t want to go alone. My husband was deployed and my mother lives 1,200 miles away.
Post # 9
I didn’t. I had way too much fun going with Fiance. Besides, my mom and I do not have the same style at all! I say to tell her no on this one. She may just pressure you to add something you don’t want. Plus, it’ll take longer, and believe me it takes a lot of time!
Post # 10
My Fiance is in the military so my mom went with me to Bed Bath and Beyond. Fiance went with me to Crate and Barrel. I personally would not care if people thought it was weird or not. However, if Fiance is going with you and you don’t want/need her there I would tell her nicely.
Post # 11
My mom was there in the department store with us, but left to look at clothes and stuff. The three of us were doing wedding stuff for the weekend in a city that none of us live in.
Post # 12
I think that would be kind of weird and would ask mom to stay at home. Picture how you’d feel trying to pick out sheets and china and towels and such with your Mother-In-Law following you around saying what she liked and encouraging your Fiance to pick the stuff that matched her taste…super awkward, right? Your and FI’s stuff, it should be things that match your guys’ taste, not your mom’s. And if her and your Fiance disagree about stuff it’s going to be even more awkward, he’s not going to want to disagree or put down her choices in front of her, and I don’t think it’s right to put him in that position.
Post # 13
My mom and I went to look at China patterns together and ended up starting a registry that day and putting some basics on it. After that, Fiance and I went together to pick out china and we mostly registered for things onliny. He wasn’t very interested in it, and since he’ll rarely use any of the things we got directly he just let me go at it. I did try and make sure I included gifts on it that were “just for him” like some beer mugs, and a dyson since he does all the vacumming!
Post # 14
I went with my mom and sister. Fiance had no interest in going. The only things he wanted to make sure we registered for were an espresso machine and beer mugs. My mom ended up buying them for him a week later.
Post # 15
@DancingDiva: Nope my Mom will not come with me to do the registry…this is something for me and my fiance to do together and I really dont want her trying to bud in and tell us what we should and shouldnt buy (we dont always see eye to eye)
Post # 16
and just to add a helpful piece of advice if your mom does come with you. Don’t fight with her about adding things to it – if she suggests something (and is overbearing like my mom and basically won’t take no for an answer), just simply press delete after she hears the little ding that it has been added! Or, just go home and delete it all online after! THat’s what I did – it saved me a huge headache!
It was a bit helpful for her to be there to tell me what all the “good” brands are and what kind of stuff I might need even though I don’t think I do – and then she’d explain what all the gadgets were that I had no idea how to use! Some of those things that I thought I’d never need are my most favorite items now!