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Did your parents & your fi's parents sit together at the wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
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    AnnieAAA    October 25, 2009   Dallas, TX

    Just a random question I thought of! We are going to have escort cards (assigning tables) but no placecards.....but I was thinking, are our parents supposed to sit at the same table? My FI's dad was really rude to my parents at one point, so although my parents are totally over it, I would prefer for them to just sit at different tables with the rest of their families. Is that weird?

     
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    mrsleopard    November 22, 2008   Los Angeles

    It's not weird at all! 

    Ours didn't.  There were too many friends and other family members they hadn't seen in a while. 

     
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    honeylove26    February 1, 2014   Illinois

    I think it is pretty standard for the bride & groom's parents to sit separately, each presiding over their own table of their closest family members. that's how we did it, and it worked perfectly.

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    Our parents each hosted their own table at the reception.  I think it worked out well because we got to include more "special" guests at the head tables. 

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    Our parents sat at different tables at the reception--my parents with grandparents and immediate family, and his parents with grandparents and immediate family. 

    His family especially never gets to see eachother so I wanted them to have some time for fellowship during the wedding.  Our parents did sit next to eachother at the rehearsal dinner though!

     
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    nybride09    9/19/09   New York, NY

    it depends on how big your wedding is and if you're having a sweetheart table/ not. if it's a big party, each can preside over their own

     
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    IronMaiden    5/9/09   Boston

    Our parents sat at seperate tables - since they had only met twice before the wedding (once was at the rehearsal dinner!) it made sense for them each to sit with people they felt comfortable with. 

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    Our wedding was pretty small (only had 10 tables plus the head table), so we sat our parents and grandparents together.  It worked out well for us and split all the other tables up well. 

    I think you can do whatever works best.  If you think that the evening will go more smoothly with them sitting separately, then go for it.

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Not weird! We're doing that too, partially because my parents are divorced. My mom has remarried, but totally freaks out about the idea of my dad dating anyone. I'd like him to be able to bring a date, so I want them on opposite sides of the room. ;) And no reason why one set of my parents/step-parents/SOs should sit with the in-laws and not the other, so we're just putting them all with the people they want to sit with.

     
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    Noelle-a-Belle    October 16 2009   Southern CA

    Ya like everyone said, it just depends.  at my sister's wedding the tables were huge so her FILs and our parents sat together, but I think it's pretty standard to have them host their own tables as well. 

     
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    AnnieAAA    October 25, 2009   Dallas, TX

    Thanks ladies, I'm glad to know it won't be weird to have them sitting at different tables :) I think all in all, both my parents & his would be more comfortable sitting with their own families.

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    Um, I couldn't even imagine our families sitting together, so no, I don't think it's weird at all!

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    Ours will not, and they are very friendly, but you want them to be able to spend them with their own friends. Everyone understands that.

     
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    sjbee    6/20/2009   Los Angeles/ SF Bay Area

    We had his parents "host" one table, my Mom host another, and my Dad had a third (My parents are divorced.) None of them sat with us, and I think it worked out fine.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Ours did. They play nice together and we actually had 10 immediate family members (grandparents, parents) and our tables sat 10. Perfect for us, but I haven't always seen tables meshed like that,.

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    In all the weddings I've been to (a lot!), I've never seen the parents sitting at the same table.  Usually it's the parents with their own family or close friends.  The tables are usually closest to the bride/groom.

    I don't think it would be strange at all to have them seated at different tables! 

     
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    Stacy Marie    July 24, 2010  

    I'm so glad someone posted this, I've been wondering!

     
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    Khadijathediva    February 20th, 2009   New York, New York

    We are doing that!

     
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    2dBride    October 6, 2009   Washington, DC.

    At my first wedding, we did not have a large bp (just a MOH and a BM).  We therefore had both immediate families sitting at the head table.

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    I've never seen parents sitting at the same table.  Most commonly, they each host their own table, with their own family/friends.

     
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    Mrs2theDr    April 16, 2010   Chicago, IL

    Great question, never thought about it until now, thanks for posting!

     

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