Post # 1
so i found out today that my parents are wanting to get me a ‘wedding gift’ of a diamond ring. we talked about them helping my FI and out with the wedding before as they said ‘we didn’t have much money for our wedding so we know it’ll be tough and so we’ll help out’ (I LOVE MY PARENTS!)… my parents are not rich, they’re comfortable, but definitely not rich. so i’m not sure if i should suggest to them that my ‘wedding gift’ (i.e. the amount they were going to spend on a ring) should just go towards our wedding, or be a little spoilt and accept a lovely ring from them!
did anyone else’s parents give them a wedding gift + help pay for the wedding? Or helping to pay for the wedding=wedding gift?
Post # 3
My parents gift will be the money they’re giving us for the wedding. I definitely see your point as to wanting the money to go to the wedding and not a ring, but I’d have a hard time suggesting that to my parents if that were me. Good luck!
Post # 4
My parents gave us a few really nice shower gifts and then money to go towards the wedding.
I totally understand what you mean about wanting the money instead. Are you sure they are not planning on getting you the ring and giving you money for the wedding?
Post # 5
They gave us money towards the wredding/honeymoon as our gifts.
Post # 6
My parents aren’t financially able to pay for the wedding. What they did do was give us as much as they could spare to go towards either the reception or the wedding our buying our first home (whichever we wanted) and my mum is going to give us one of her dinner china sets and a china coffee set and a big party sized set of good silverware that I would have inherited anyways. So yes, we’re getting wedding gifts from my parents.
Post # 7
@littlebear- i have no idea if they’re thinking ring+money for the wedding! i mean, thinking about it some more, i guess if i were a parent, i’d want my daughter to have something from me that she could ‘keep’. maybe they are thinking that if they just give me/us money, i won’t have anything really keepsake (except photos and dress) from the day… i don’t know. i could be wrong!
i just don’t want to come across as being cheeky and rude to suggest that they use the money for the would-be ring for a larger wedding costs contribution from them… argh…
Post # 8
Nope. I guess they threw the rehearsal, so maybe that was their gift…
Post # 9
My parents are paying for the wedding almost entirely and giving us something in the $500 range. At first they said a bed (my fiance is really frickin’ tall…so we were going to need an upgrade) but we didn’t end up needing one (long story…) so I have no idea what it will be!
Post # 10
hmm…ihad the same question. i’m sure my mother will give me a pot set or something. but they’re paying for our reception food and that’s more than what i expected since they don’t have a lot of $.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I don’t expect them to, but I’m sure they will. In my opinion, the paying for the wedding is a huge gift in and of itself.