- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
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He asked, they didn’t tell me, and I wasn’t worried or anxiously waiting…so I don’t have an option to vote in the poll!
Wasn’t sure how to vote in the poll. He asked my dad’s permission, and I didn’t know until after he proposed. So my parents kept it a secret, but it wasn’t like I was asking them either…
The engagement wasn’t a surprise but I was surprised to find out that my fiance went to visit my parents (over an hour away) to ask permission and was able to keep it a secret. He only went a few days before or I bet my stepmom would have let the cat out of the bag. But his has been his only really suscessful surprise he’s pilled on me!
My father passed away just a few weeks after I met Fiance, but he visited my dad’s sister & her husband (who I am VERY close with) to ask for their blessing, and he even got a double bonus because when he went to see them, my grandmother (my dad’s mom) and my great aunt (her sister) were visiting as well, so he got to show the ring to all 4 of them and ask for their blessing.
I had told him way back before we were even dating that I always expected whomever I married to ask for my family’s blessing, because I couldn’t imagine marrying someone who my family didn’t approve of, so it was really special for me to know that he took me seriously and asked them first.
He drove to my hometown to ask their permission (love him), and then Fiance asked me a few days later. No one told me and I wasn’t expecting it. 🙂
He didn’t ask, but we both already knew my family approved of him and they knew we intended to get married
I didn’t know how to vote either. He asked their permission and then proposed to me. I was in the dark about it all, so I was never wondering or asking my parents whether something had happened.
However, I will say that he proposed just a few hours after asking permission because he was afraid my mom would somehow let the secret out! 😉
Can’t vote, he asked but my proposal wasn’t a surprise, so I already knew he was asking and then we all talked about it afterwards.
He asked my dad, who kept it a secret from both me and my mom (she couldn’t keep a secret if her life depended on it, bless her heart). Haha it took a couple days after the proposal before I finally called home to tell the folks, because we were traveling and exhausted and all that, and poor Dad was DYING waiting for the phone call, because he knew exactly when Darling Husband was going to ask!
He took both my parents out to lunch, showed them the ring and asked them to marry me!! I had no idea that he had met with my parents or had a ring, nobody indicated anything 🙂 It was perfect, he knew how stongly i felt about him asking my parents, i am so glad he did!
My parents (and FI’s parents) live a few thousand miles from Fiance & me; I knew that Fiance wanted to ask for my father’s blessing, so when we went to visit I kind of knew he would ask.
My parents had actually told me at the beginning of the vacation “We expected you to be wearing a ring when you arrived! We thought this trip was to announce your engagement.” And I told them, “No, I think Fiance will talk to you before he asks.” So I guess I prepped my parents for FI’s talk! (Almost immediately my mother started telling my whole family that I was getting married. Which I thought was silly and a little annoying.)
We got engaged about 2 weeks after returning from that vacation. (Turns out Fiance was still waiting on my ring!)
Fiance didn’t ask my parents and they had no idea he was even planning on asking. As a girl, I thought whoever would be my husband would ask my Dad for permission…and I really hated the thought of it. I think my Dad used to want whoever my guy was to ask permission, but then reality sunk in and I think he realized I was not that type of girl and that while I like tradition, I don’t like that one. My parents were not bothered that Fiance didn’t ask first. I think it’s not their place to give permission.
Interestingly enough, I’m the only one in my circle to have a Fiance who didn’t ask permission. My friends were actually mortified! I, and Fiance, seem to always be going against the norm.
Fiance told his Dad, brother, SIL, and a mutual friend of ours that he was asking. The mutual friend so she could help him with take pictures of my ring, and he told his family out of nothing more than courtesy.
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