Post # 1
Did your and your fiance’s parents meet prior to the wedding? I have a feeling it’s going to be very awkward.
My FFIL and his girlfriend are coming into town this weekend to meet my parents and he made plans to have brunch with them and without myself or my fiance present. I really don’t know why or what they’ll talk about.
Post # 3
Most adults know how to make conversation with new people they are meeting. The fact that they have the two of you in common gives them some starting points.
As for your question, yes, our parents have met. We actually arranged a dinner (our treat) for them to meet pretty early on in our relationship. We just knew that it was going to be a longterm thing and figured we should get it out of the way. We’ve all done holidays together, and his folks came over for dinner the other night when my mom was visiting. They wouldn’t be best buddies without the connection to us, but they carry on interesting enough conversations without the two of us butting in.
Post # 4
Our parents have kind of met previously. My mom worked with his dad a long time ago and his stepmom went to high school with my dad. His mother met my parents a year ago so when the wedding comes it will kind of be like a reunion for them… somewhat. Its way too early to tell if they all will be present at the rehearsal dinner so Im saying reunion at the wedding!
Post # 5
Our parents have met all together once and our mothers met up once to look at wedding venues for us (we’re 2400 miles away from where we’re getting married). So we were there for the first meeting but weren’t when our moms got together. They are kind of similar, so they got along just fine. I’m sure with the upcoming wedding, your parents will have plenty to talk about!
Post # 6
DH’s parents are divorced and his father is remarried.
DH’s Mom and my parents, had met on multiple occassions. We have lots of family holidays and both sides come. So the had gotten along well prior to getting married.
DH’s father and step-Mom however, didn’t meet until a month or two before the wedding. We were very nervous. My parents are very different than them. Liberal, outspoken, supportive parents. DH’s are not the same the are Jehovah Witness’ and are quite conservative. I was so worried there would be a battle, since DH”s father tends to say lots of politically incorrect things. However, the first night they made it through with flying colors and no issues.
That eventually changed and my father now wants to kill him, but prior to the wedding it was fine lol
Post # 7
His parents have met my dad but not my mom. They are always asking us about it, but to be frank, I don’t really see why they need to meet. They can meet at the wedding. We currently live 7-8 hours from either of them, but they are only 90 minutes apart. I told my mom that she can just call his mom anytime and get together if they like, but I really have no good way of arranging it from a different state.
Post # 8
I’m interested in hearing stories about couples whose parents have never met or never plan to meet, or will only see each other at the wedding and then likely never again because they did not get along. My Fi’s parents are divorced and both are remarried so meeting the parents have to happen separately. My parents haven’t met either side. They were going to meet his mom and step-dad a few months back, but my mom was holding a lot of hostility towards his mom at the time and I wanted to be there to diffuse the situation and wasn’t able to be there so I had them cancel it.
My parents, after a sequence of events, now have stated that if they ever meet his mom, they may have a hard time even being civil for longer than dinner but they will try, and that is going to be the only time they plan to ever see her. They have no problem meeting his dad and actually think he might be fun to hang out with from the things they’ve heard about him, but his dad isn’t really active in my FI’s life and probably could care less if he ever met my family.
Post # 9
I’d hope so, they’ve been neighbors for 25+ years!
Post # 10
They have met but I don’t think they really spoke and I don’t think I want them to. FI’s parents are the type that have a favourite child and FI is not it My family have all noticed this and mentioned it to me privately
eg his whole family forgot his 21st birthday my family all got him gifts, his family all went on to forget our daughter’s birthday my family obviously noticed there abscence at the party so the dislike increased.
Post # 11
My Mom just “friended” my FMIL on Facebook. I hope my parents will meet my FMIL (FFIL passed away from cancer 5 years ago). I don’t expect them to be best friends, there’s a bit of a generational gap, but I feel that they’ll like her; and she’ll like my parents.
Post # 12
Our families met when my parents invited themselves along on a trip I planned to visit FI (then boyfriend) at his parent’s house.
Everyone got along well, and his parents ended up staying at my parent’s house as a pit stop on a road trip.
Post # 13
Yeah, our families have never met 🙂 My family is from NJ, his family is from Ohio, and now we live in SC. Because of the distance between our families, we are eloping in SC. Also because of family drama we aren’t having anyone there with us, so I have no idea if our families will ever meet. My Mom mentioned she thought it was weird that she hasn’t met them, but it’s not like we’ve really had the chance to get them together.
Post # 14
Our parents met each other about 2 years ago (well my mom and step dad, they didn’t meet my actual dad until a year or so later). They were in town so we arranged a meeting at a restaurant. It went great, wasn’t really awkward at all.
Although, the next time my mom and step dad were in town, my stepdad started smoking a joint infront of my ILs, who are really conservative. THAT was awkward.
Post # 15
Since we have dated for over 5 years they have met and get along great. His parents and my dad have only been around each other once (I’m not close with my father since the divorce) but my mom and them grab dinner and hang out.
Post # 16
Our parents met a while ago, we all went to dinner together. But, we havenknown his dad for a long time, FFIL works directly across the street from where my parents live, he’s a doctor and my grandpa has been going to him for years and years before we met. Actually, our parents really hit it off, our moms talk so much that our dads complain that they never get to talk to their wives because they’re always talking to each other. Our parents actually just went on vacation together without us, and had such a great time, theyre planning their next trip together.