(Closed) Did your parents talk to you about Sex?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mom did!

Which created a very safe environment for me and so I told her after I had sex for the first time. I feel like it allowed me to develop a healthy relationship with sex too because it was never portrayed as a negative thing.

My mom explained that she had sex before marriage and that waiting isn’t always realistic; however, waiting for the right person was realistic.

I really appreciate the way my mother approached the subject with me and will do the same with my kids.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My parents never talked to me directly about sex, but I still feel like they created an environment where I knew the most important thing was to respect myself and be safe but that it was ok to have and enjoy responsible premarital sex.  I also told my mom after the first time I had sex – she asked how late my boyfriend had stayed the previous night and when I said 2, she asked what we could be doing that late.  Dude, Mom, you asked for that one!  (we have a habit of trying to intentionally creep each other out in my family)

We lived in an area that had very detailed, contraceptive-centered sex education in 8th and again in 9th grade, though, so maybe that was part of it.  They literally passed around (clean!) diaphragms and condoms for us to look at and learn about.  I don’t think that there’s all that many school districts that do stuff like that, but it could be helpful to find out what your district plans to do, and then build your talk around that.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope, they never did.  They were pretty strict and didnt allow dating until after highschool.  Then in college, they were strongly against dating until after college….. =

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My parents joked a lot about sex but never had “the talk” with me.

My dad said once around the dinner table “Listen, I know you will eventually be doing it, so if you need condoms you can ask us” lol

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yep… my mom went into a detailed discussion with me about it but somehow i felt really comfortable and i always went to her when i had a question or wanted to talk…. i plan on doing the same with my kids. its better to tell them the truth than to act like it doesnt exist imo.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Not in detail, they never explained to me everything. They just said said boys usually only want sex so stay away from them lol

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had a heavily informative sex class in middle school…7th and 8th grade. My Mom asked if I had any questions and I said no. My Mom mostly taught me to respect myself but never really ventured into the sex part until I was like 17. Although I knew that she most definitely didn’t approve of having premarital sex.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

My Mum and I had ‘the talk’ after I lost my viginity.  I lost it really early because all my friends were older than me by a couple of years.  I didn’t want to be ‘left behind’.  Well I HATED sex.  I did it and then was like “Whats the big effing deal? That hurt and it sucked ass”.   So I asked her about that fact and she said that it was because I didn’t have feelings for that person and that it took some practice to be enjoyable.   I didn’t have sex again until I was in my first serious relationship 4 years later. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not really. My mom told me about birth control, but that was about it. My grandmother gave me a book from 1977 complete with diagrams… haha. My mom was pretty open with me though when I wanted to talk with her.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I am in the “too young” boat, as well.  I wish I had waited and I wish my parents had talked to me about it, but they never did. I hung around a much older group and it was inevitable. I went to parties and out on dates. They would have cared had they known but they tried not to know. 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My parents gave me this book to read:

Then my mom talked to me to ensure that I understood everything in the book. My take-away from the talks was that I should respect myself and wait until I was in a serious relationship with someone I loved. And that above all else, I should always make sure I was protected.

I lost my virginity at age 20 to my now husband (BF at the time) and we’ve never had unprotected sex, so I’d say my parent’s “talk” was pretty successful.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Not really my mom told me that guys only wanted one thing.  Although my mom and I had an open relationship and I knew I could talked to her about it.  I had numerous classes in 5th and 6th grade and again in middle schol about sex education.  I plan on talking to me kids about it because I think it’s very important.  In addition to being a future health professional I belive they should know all the facts.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My mom did. She was overly open about it all, but I guess I am thankful for that now that I’m older and realize it was a good thing! I can remember being super embarassed at 11 years old when my mom was trying to explain to me that despite it being rare you can actually get pregnant from dry humping lol!!!

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