Post # 1
I’m just curious. We got gifts from everyone at our wedding except our siblings (and his parents, but they paid for 2/3 of the wedding!).
If you’re engaged, do you expect them to give you gifts?
What shapes your expectations? I hadn’t thought about this at all until today, when I was like, “Hmm, I wonder whether it’s normal?”
For what it’s worth: My brother is unemployed, my sister is unemployed and a student, his sister and brother/sister-in-law are employed but not wealthy (his sibs did have to fly cross-country to get here, but had a place to stay for free). None of them gave us a card.
Post # 3
My twin brother surprised me with a photo booth at my reception. My younger siblings (20 and 23 at the time) didn’t give me anything for the wedding day. I didn’t really expect anything. They were there for me. That was enough. My sister was my maid of honor, and she gave me a gift at the bridal shower.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@jmarvellous: I didn’t expect a gift from my brother because he was an usher and not doing GREAT financially right now, but he gave us $50, wether that’s generous or not I’ll leave it up to you to decide 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
Both my brothers each gave us money and paid for excursions for our honeymoon and DH’s sister gavmoney’s giftcard.
Once you explained your siblings’ financial situations, I would completely understand not giving a gift but I think I would be upset at not having received a card.
Post # 6
My sister surprised me with $500 earrings to match my wedding necklace on an intern’s salary shortly after her graduation. I was blown away. It was more than generous.
Post # 7
@mchitt329: Oh, generosity is definitely between giver and recipient! I think $50 is quite generous, but others could disagree.
(BTW, I obviously didn’t expect gifts if I’m only just now getting around to noticing we didn’t get any. It’s just made me curious!)
Post # 8
@jmarvellous: My four younger siblings are still in grade school and too young to give presents. My two siblings my age are both in the bridal party and giving a lot of money towards that. My brother’s gf is also a bridesmaid so I know that they will be putting a lot of money towards things like that. So no I don’t expect presents from any of them! My Fi’s brother is still in school and probably wouldn’t think to get us anything either. It doesn’t bother me in the least. I consider all the stuff they are doing for us before the wedding as a present.
Post # 9
That’s kind of bizzare. Even broke students can afford a card from the dollar store….
Just sounds lazy to me.
Post # 10
Both of my siblings were in the wedding party, so their presence and all the crap they had to go through for that were definitely gift enough! My sister also gave a small gift, though my brother didn’t, and I was honestly surprised that my sis gave anything at all — I certainly didn’t expect it!
Post # 11
I don’t have siblings but we did get gifts from one of my DH’s siblings. The other two did not give a gift or a card but then again they are younger (early 20’s).
Post # 12
My sisters/MOHs were totally awesome throughout the whole wedding planning and process and THAT was a gift in itself! They did write us a super cute little poem though that I really love
Post # 13
i only have one sibling and it’s my younger brother by two years. we are the best of friends. although he’s very well off, i don’t expect a gift from him at all. i don’t know. his happiness for me and FI is seriously enough. although i would like a card. i’m big on cards. for my birthday this year i just had him write me a letter and it was the best!!
Post # 14
My brother sent a gift to my bridal shower and gave money at the wedding, my BILs and SILs also all gave gifts to the shower and money at the wedding and none of them are very well off. I wouldnt have minded if they didnt, but in our families its expected you give something if you attend the wedding even if its small.
Post # 15
@christinamarie980: They were there for me. That was enough
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I don’t expect anything from my brother since he just graduated is unemployed and living with my parents.
FI’s siblings are both well employed and will probably do something very nice.
When FSIL got married the whole family (Mom, Dad, Brother, and Brother) all chipped in to pay for her honeymoon.