Post # 1
My FI is totally against seeing my dress. He does not even want to know the location of it! He said he wants to have that special moment of seeing me for the first time in that dress walking down the isle.
Today, I saw a bride who I am friends with on FB post pictures of her in her bridal gown, veil, and shoes. I noticed that her FI is also on FB, so he will no doubt be able to see these pictures.
I also have watched “Say Yes to the Dress” where brides actually bring there FI’s into the bridal shop with them to help them pick out a dress.
What did or will you do?
Post # 3
I voted, “yes, and he actually helped pick it out!” but I sould also vote, “no, he does not want to see me in it.” We looked at dresses online and picked out my dress together prior to ordering it. However, when I went to try it on, he left the room because he wants to wait for our wedding day to see me in it.
Post # 4
He will not see my dress until our wedding day.
Not sure if it’ll be at the “first look” or when I walk down the aisle though.
Post # 5
DH was there when I bought it. We had just moved to a new city and didn’t know anyone, we didn’t have time to wait for someone to visit to go with me, and I wanted the honest opinion of somone I trusted, who wasn’t going to make a commission on the sale.
Had that not happened, he still walked into our spare bedroom where I had put the whole getup on to show my mother a week or so before the wedding. Silly man didn’t think to knock.
And had neither of those happened, we still took pictures before the ceremony.
Post # 6
My husband was adamant about not seeing the dress before our wedding day. But we did a first look and pictures before the wedding, so he saw it before the ceremony on the day.
Post # 7
I think its fine and not going to ruin anything if you do see each other dressed up before the ceremony. Its still going to be special and scary as you walk down the isle whether or not he has seen you before then! I love those pre ceremony photos of the bride walking up behind the groom, seeing each other for the first time in a private moment. 🙂
Post # 8
We agree that he won’t see it until I walk down the aisle. It had to be in our apartment for a while, and he was so afraid that he’d glimpse something through the garment bag! Or that he’d pull an Eric Foreman (that 70s show) and ruin it somehow.
Post # 9
@BridalBlondie: I voted NO, we both agreed not to…. I just want the first time he sees me in the dress to be when I am walking down the aisle… I have dreamed of that moment and I can’t wait… But I know others who did the opposite and it was great for them as well… It’s more of a preference and I prefer for him not to see me…
Post # 10
I had a lot of anxiety that he wouldn’t like the dress…. I can’t tell you how many wedding shows we watched – every single one I’d say: what do you think of that dress? And, he’d give me his opinion…
That said – we kept it a surprise and I’m so glad I did. Honestly, by then, I forgot that he hadn’t seen me in the dress and was just excited to see him.
He was totally shocked and at one point, tried to twirl me around to see the back side of the dress – but the pastor thought we were pausing funny and instructed us to walk forward. I think it would have been so cute if he checked me out like that 😉
Post # 11
We both decided not to let him see the dress before the wedding.. BUT he could have seen it if he wanted. I trusted him to not look. It sat in my closet for 6 months just in a hanging bag. Also I told him it was jcrew so he could have looked online to get an idea of their stuff.
Post # 12
FI went with me since I don’t have a Mom or Dad. I tried on over a dozen dresses and he gave me opinions here and there. I did notice he kinda got choked up on one. I went back later and purchased that one. I never let on I saw that expression on his face and I hope he is surprised.
He 100% doesn’t want to know what I picked and wants to wait until I walk down the aisle.
Post # 13
He will not see me in it until the wedding day. But, it will be before the wedding because we have decided to do pictures before the wedding in our attire. And than have the ceremony and reception both at the same hall so all our out of town guests don’t have to worry about chnaging locations in a big unfamiliar city.
Post # 14
He helped me pick it out as none of my friends or family are ever available to do anything like that with me.
However, he doesn’t want to see it again until the ceremony –we haven’t decided if we’re doing pictures before the ceremony or not.
Post # 15
he saw the stock photo online, but dosn’tt want to see me in it. I don’t get the big deal, i asked him to come dress hipping and everyhting.
Post # 16
I showed him pictures of me in dress before I decided on it. I wanted to see if he liked it as much as I did, and he does. I honestly don’t see what the big deal is nor do I think its bad luck in any way for the groom to see the dress. Besides, he’s a man and our wedding is 7 months away. There’s not a chance in hell he’s going to remember what it looks like.
ETA: We’re doing a first look so he would have seen it before the ceremony anyway.