Post # 1
For those of you who are pregnant/have babies, or are TTC, are you trying to “plan” your pregnancy? I know it’s not an exact science, obviously, but are you hoping to get pregnant at a specific time, and trying to avoid getting pregnant during other times, due to what would be going on when you give birth?
I ask because Darling Husband and I have discussed TTC at the end of this year, and there’s a perfect window of March-April 2012 when it would be perfect to get pregnant–we have two weddings in April/May 2012, and another one in October 2012, and I would rather be pregnant for all of them than be post-partum for the last one. I am also hopefully starting a new job this spring, and would like to be there for at least a year before becoming pregnant. When I told Darling Husband this, he thought it was so silly that I was thinking about planning our potential pregancy around other events (especially other peoples’ weddings). I can see what he means, for sure–there’s always going to be something that comes up, and besides, who knows how long it will take us to get pregnant anyway?
But I was just wondering if anyone else had tried to do this? And how successful you were 🙂
Post # 3
In a perfect world, I’d like to avoid giving birth between October and February. I have a history of anxiety and depression that gets worse seasonally, so I’d like to avoid trying to manage a brand new baby during that time while feeling trapped in the house during the winter. So we will probably start trying during summer or fall to have a spring or summer baby. But, if things don’t happen as quickly as we’d like, I don’t think we will stop trying, ultimately we will be happy to welcome a baby whenever it arrives.
Post # 4
We decided to start TTC right after we bought a house and Darling Husband had been in his new job for about 6 months… we didn’t have goals necessarily like “well, we’d like to have a baby in May” or anything, but if we had, those would have gone out the window when it took us 6 months to conceive the first time. 3 months to conceive the second time.
Post # 5
We’ve been TTC since March 2010 (still not pregnant), but we took a 3-month hiatus so that I would definitely be able to attend my brother’s wedding in April 2011. That’s the only event we’ve planned around and that’s only because it’s my brother and I wouldn’t want to miss his wedding because I was just a few weeks post-partum or 8-9 months pregnant and couldn’t travel.
Post # 6
I plan every other facet of my life, why not this? 🙂 I do think that I’ll at least give it some consideration, although I don’t know I”ll be trying so hard for a 2 month window, considering that I don’t anticipate hardcore “TTC”. I think for probably at least a year we would just stop using BC and do what comes naturally and see what happens… so it would probably take longer than people who are scientific about it. But I guess I might think ahead and maybe go back on bc for 1-2 months if i wanted a “blackout period” for birth lol.
Post # 7
With our next baby, I would prefer to give birth in the fall to winter. My husband works ridiculous hours in the summer, and he wasn’t able to be around much the first few months of Addie’s life, so I’d like to plan a little differently.
Post # 8
The best laid plans were made to be broken in our case. We had an elaborate plan that was shattered by the immediateness of our ability to conceive.
Post # 9
Yes and No. Ideally we want to be married for a year but we aren’t actively not trying to have a child if that makes sense.
Post # 10
I dont want a christmas baby, (i feel like they get cheated)
that’s about the only timing issue I have
Post # 11
@CorgiTales: Haha I’m totally the same way–over planner, type A, etc. I also don’t think we’ll be “hardcore TTC”, like charting and all that–I’m just hoping that we don’t have to get to that point and it just happens when we want it to 🙂 But as @stephbolt: mentioned, bottom line we’ll be happy to have a healthy baby whenever he/she comes.
@superk: Yup that sort of hiatus definitely makes sense. That’s my concern–I feel like attending a wedding at just a few weeks after giving birth would be so uncomfortable.
@Mrs. Spring: That also makes a lot of sense; if Darling Husband had more seasonal hours I would for sure take that into consideration.
Post # 12
I think you might as well give it a shot, right? Knowing that it might not always work out as planned.
We got damn lucky that I got pregnant when I did because I’m due at the beginning of summer when my husband will be out of school (he’s a teacher). I never really thought about it when we were TTC but in the future I’d make an effort to have similar timing with any more children.
Post # 13
@panterapeach: Hah I have similar ones–don’t want a major holiday baby (Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Year’s), and I don’t want a baby born in November (my niece and nephew’s bdays are then–weird I know). We’ll see how picky I am when it comes time to actually TTC!
@Mrs. DG: Yup all my plans assume an immediate pregnancy, which may definitely not be the case, although it’s nice to hear that it happened for you (I guess whether or not you were ready for it 🙂 ).
Post # 14
@camrie: I feel like teachers do that a lot–try to plan for summer babies. My mom was a teacher, though, and both my sister and I were born during the school year (Oct and dec). Oh well 🙂
Post # 15
ideally i would like to avoid november – february births…i don’t want any holiday babies! i would also like to avoid being 8 or 9 months pregnant when it’s 100+ degrees outside (that seems SO uncomfortable), so that takes out july – september.
i don’t know how carefully we’ll plan…i expect it will depend whether we conceive quickly or not.
Post # 16
We didn’t want our baby to be born during the cold winter months and it looks like we’ll get our way. One of our biggest concerns was how to possibly host indoor birthday parties during the winter with our very large families and our not so large house, lol.