(Closed) Did you/will you you use your maiden name as your middle name?

posted 4 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I am planning on doing this…

 

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?) Everyone loves my last name and has always told me to keep it. I am also a published scientist under my maiden name, people in my field of work have also encouraged me to use my maiden name professionally.

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it? No

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family? NA

4. Did you drop your original middle name? I will keep my middle name and just add on, I don’t want to lose any part of my name which is a part of who I am, I am just adding to it.

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.) Wisconsin (and the UK)

6. In your experience, are more people doing this? I think so, in some way shape or form many women I know are hanging on to their maiden names.

7. Any idea why or why not? I think many women have established themselves under their maiden name and don’t want to give that up.

8. How old are you? 29

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no) Yes

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Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?)  My mom did it.

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it?  see above

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family?  Do not know

4. Did you drop your original middle name?  I did drop my original middle name

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.)  NY

6. In your experience, are more people doing this?  None of my friends did this, but I know one who wishes to change her name again so that her maiden name is her middle name

7. Any idea why or why not?  no

8. How old are you? 36

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no)

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Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I added my husband’s name onto my current name, so I would be the “Jane Marie Doe Green.”

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?) My dad wasn’t thrilled about me losing the family name and neither was I.  We talked about it and so I decided on doing it. My friends are not doing it and, other than my mother, no one else in my family has.

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it? My mother did.

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family? She apparently did for the same reason I did – she had carried that name with her for her entire life up until that point and it didn’t seem right to change that completely.

4. Did you drop your original middle name? Nope

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.) KY

6. In your experience, are more people doing this? I haven’t met anyone else else, no.

7. Any idea why or why not? It does make the name rather long.  A lot of people don’t seem to understand why I did it this way and it took about 15 minutes of back and forth for the social security office to understand what I wanted.

8. How old are you? 24

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no) Sure

…such a fascinating topic! Thanks for weighing in, bees!


Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?) I did what my mother did–kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it? No

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family? n/a

4. Did you drop your original middle name? n/a

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.) TX

6. In your experience, are more people doing this? Yes, certainly in my profession it’s quite common. It eases the transition for women who change to a married name. 

7. Any idea why or why not?

8. How old are you? 27

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no) No

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?) While I didn’t know anyone personally who had done it, I live in the South and it is fairly common here. It seemed to be the best way to retain some of my original identity, which is tied to my degree, publications, etc, while still making the change to my husband’s last name, which I was willing and proud to take.

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it? No

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family? n/a

4. Did you drop your original middle name? Yes

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.) Florida

6. In your experience, are more people doing this? Unsure – many of my friends are getting engaged but are not married yet.

7. Any idea why or why not? Of those I know who are married, they are slighly older published scientists who retained their last-as-middle name for similar reasons as I did.

8. How old are you? 23

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no) Nah

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m not planning on doing this since I’m keeping my name as is, I’ll just duck in to say that the changing one’s last name to one’s middle name is totally not a new idea. Women have been doing it for probably at least 200 years, and many of them were suffragettes and women’s rights activists.  Elizabeth Cady Stanton is one such example, as is Laura Ingalls Wilder. 

 

The tradition did originate in the South, but Stanton was from New York (she lived most of her life there), and Wilder was born in Wisconsin, so by the time they were born (Stanton in 1815, Wilder 50-some years after that) it seemed to have been common everywhere else.  I do think it’s started a sort of revival recently, though.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@Mrs. Penguin:  Yes, I plan to do this.

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in  your family?)

I love my current last name, and have earned multiple degrees with it and built a professional career with it.

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it?

No, they did not.

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family?

I will be the first to do this.

4. Did you drop your original middle name?

I am still deciding this- I don’t know if I will go with double middle names or drop my current middle name. 

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the  South.)

I am from Florida, but currently live in Texas.

6. In your experience, are more people doing this?

I only know of two people who have done this.

7. Any idea why or why not?

They, too, have professional careers they built with their maiden name.

8. How old are you? 31

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? Yes

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?)

My little sister changed hers in this way when she got married earlier this year. My mom strongly wanted me to keep my maiden name because it is how things have always been in our family, but it means a lot to FI if I take his. I think this is a great way to make everyone happy.

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it?

No, my little sister and I are the first to take our husbands’ last names. All the women on my maternal side of the family kept their maiden names.

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family?

Change of times?

4. Did you drop your original middle name?

I don’t have a middle name, currently.

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.)

Maryland.

6. In your experience, are more people doing this?

I have no idea.

7. Any idea why or why not?

I think it’s a good compromise. You can keep your own maiden name in some way and also take your husband’s last name as well.

8. How old are you? I’m 24.

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? No

 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

1. What gave you the idea? I like my last name, but I definitely want to take my husband’s name.  Plus, a lot of women in history who I admire have done the same, and my last name is a better fit for my personality than my middle name.

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it?  No, the women in my family all change their last names.

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family?

4. Did you drop your original middle name?  I haven’t done it yet, but I probably will.  

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.)  California

6. In your experience, are more people doing this?  Possibly.  I think this only became an option in my state in 2009.  On the other hand, I only know one other person who has done this.

7. Any idea why or why not?  The average age of first marriage is going up, and the marriage rate in general is dropping.  If you’ve spent three decades with the same name, and never assumed you were getting married, it feels weird to just drop it. 

8. How old are you? 30

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? Yes

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

First Bee post… wedding date is incorrect, though, as it doesn’t go as far back as I’ve been married! We just celebrated 25 years!!

 

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?)  My father was an only son who had two daughters… I felt sad that it will die out on our side of the famiy. I also liked the “rhythm” of how my three names sounded together.

 

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it?  No

 

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family?  My paternal aunt did it as she was a published author.

 

4. Did you drop your original middle name? Yes, legally my maiden name is my middle name.

 

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.) Colorado but raised in Kansas.

 

6. In your experience, are more people doing this?  I don’t know about “younger” brides, but I really can’t think of any of my friends who did this.

 

7. Any idea why or why not? I think it’s just “traditional” to use FIRST NAME MIDDLE NAME MARRIED NAME or to keep the maiden name.

 

8. How old are you? 48

 

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no) Sure… why not!

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?) Don’t know where I learned of it, had to somewhere… but it just seemed to make sense to me.  Never used my middle and liked my last name (unique) and its ties to my dad (who is awesome).

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it? No idea, I never asked/looked/knew or heard of it occuring with any current or distant relatives.

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family? n/a

4. Did you drop your original middle name? yes I did, never used it anyway

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.) WI and Atlanta, live in MO.  I don’t know anyone who did/has done this, much less in Atlanta where I lived the most.

6. In your experience, are more people doing this? I do not know anyone personally who has (or that let me know if the did), so no.

7. Any idea why or why not?  My *guess* for why would be for continuity and less hassle especially at work.  A B becomes A B X and it’s easy to see they got married.

8. How old are you?  37

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no)  contacted yes, further than that… depends on who, why and what they want lol.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?)

I heard of some acquaintances who did it, and I always thought it was a good option for people who want to take their husband’s name without giving up their maiden name fully.

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it?

No

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family?

N/A

4. Did you drop your original middle name?

Yes

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.)

NC

6. In your experience, are more people doing this?

I’m not sure, since I’ve only started paying attention recently and most people don’t go by all three names in everyday life.

7. Any idea why or why not?

N/A

8. How old are you?

25

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no)

Sure

Post # 15
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

1. What gave you the idea? (Were your friends doing it? Was it a custom in your family?) I read online somewhere that some people do this as an option. I am quite attached to my maiden name and find it flows very nicely with my first name and I didn’t really want to lose that. 

2. Did your mother, grandmother or great grandmother do it? No.

3. If so, do you know how or why this practice began in your family? N/A

4. Did you drop your original middle name? I plan to… unlike my maiden name, I have NO attachment to my middle name – I actually dislike it and I am happy for a reason to get rid of it.

5. What state are you from? (Many people say this practice began in the South.) Canada.

6. In your experience, are more people doing this? I have no idea.

7. Any idea why or why not? If people ARE doing it more, I would say it is because it allows a woman to maintain an important part of her identity.

8. How old are you? 23.

9. Are you willing to be contacted by a reporter to discuss further? (Yes or no) Yes.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I also wanted to chime in with how I don’t plan on doing this because I don’t want to have 4 names, but I love my middle name and don’t want to give it up for my last name.  I’m also a traditionalist when it comes to certain things and I’m honored to take my husband’s last name.  I am from the North, although currently living in the South.  None of my friends kept their maiden names as their middle names, but now that I live in the South I see that it’s a common thing with my new friends and coworkers here. 

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