Post # 1
Hi everyone! I really don’t want to sound like I’m whining – BUT – my SO has had my ring for a couple of months now (I helped pick it out) and he told me he was planning on asking for my dads permission over Thanksgiving. We had a GREAT holiday, but he just told me that he didn’t ask my dad because the timing wasn’t right.
He had been planning on asking my dad at Thanksgiving for a month now, and since my family is a few hours drive away, I don’t think he’ll get a chance to ask before Christmas (I really wanted to be engaged by then). I know I sound like an impatient brat but we have been together for over 4 years and are planning to buy a house together in the very near future – I don’t want to wait anymore!! (sorry bees, but figured it was better to vent here than vent to him. I told him I know it’s an important talk with my dad and that if the timing wasn’t right I’m glad he held off). 🙁
Post # 3
My parents were with us about a month before Christmas and I thought Darling Husband would ask my dad then, but he didn’t. My parents live a plane ride away, so I figured it wasn’t happening that year. He ended up asking my dad about an hour before he asked me on Christmas day though, so don’t give up hope!
Post # 4
You’re in the home stretch! Just try to focus on the other awesome parts of the holidays. Your time will come 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks girls!! Trying to be patient – I’m just so IMpatient 😉
Post # 6
Maybe he really did ask and he’s trying to throw you off. 😉
My SO took my dad to lunch the day he proposed. That in itself is not unusual, because they have lunch a few times a week. However, I was mad that he didn’t invite me. I called him to ask if he wanted to get lunch and he told me he’d already eaten with my dad. I was like “dude, thanks for calling me”..lol. Turns out, he was “asking” (more like telling him) and he proposed that night.
Be patient. He’s got the ring, so you know it’s going to happen.
Post # 7
The timing and feeling of a moment is very important to some men, including my Fiance. I know you’re just venting but I would advise you to calm down and let him do this at his own pace. This is one of the few things that is traditionally left up to a man to decide on and do.
Your personal preference of WANTING to be engaged by Christmas may not be as much of a priority to him as asking your fathers permission at a time, place, and in a manner that feels right to him. If this is so, I think you should leave him be. You should be thankful you have much more certainty in your situation than other waiting bees 🙂
Post # 8
@Laur12: Patience, dear..
I had no idea that my Fiance was gonna propose, but apparently everyone else in my family knew and kept it a secret! If I were your bf, I would purposely NOT do it during Thanksgiving to throw you off haha
Post # 9
Yes, you’re right – it is very important to him (even more so because he didn’t always get along with my dad) so I agree that timing, place, etc. are very important. And I am glad that he held off if he didn’t feel like it was the right time. I’m just worried about there ever being a “right” time….picture the movie meet the parents….let’s just say my dad is jack Byrnes and my SO is Greg focker. He had been talking Thanksgiving and I thought it would be perfect too….but I need to keep being patient! I can do it, it’s already been years 🙂
Post # 10
Oh I’m right there with you! My SO has had the ring for about two weeks now. We had thanksgiving over at my house this year. Him and my dad were outside most of the time because dad was deep frying the turkey. I thought he would ask him then but since my SOs cousin was out there with him he said the timing and situation wasn’t right. So no worries you’re not alone
Post # 11
Paitence is a virtue. I know your anxious and as the other ladies on here said timing is important to him. You know it’s going to come just hold on dear.
Post # 12
Mine didn’t either…and he was sitting in front with him for a 5 hour car ride to see my grandmother and my Aunt’s family in DC! but today he told me he has progressed in the ring purchasing proccess….so…thats good…
I told him in August I hoped he would ask my folks for their blessing…I hope he doesnt forget that part.
Post # 13
It’s possible he did ask and said he didn’t to throw you off…..my Darling Husband did that to me over Xmas the year we got engaged.
Post # 14
Sigh, I hear you. I thought my SO was going to propose during our Thanksgiving trip or at least ask my dad then. Neither happened. It’s okay to whine a bit about it 🙂 It sucks because you know it’s going to happen, and you know you’re going to get married so just ask already!! I guess I’m holding my breath for Christmas now. >.<
Post # 15
@Laur12: As long as your timeline is unshakable he’ll have to eventually. If you have no timeline he could use this as a stalling tactic.
Post # 16
Oh honey, I could have written your post. We just have to be patient. At least he bought the ring. My SO still hasn’t and it’s going to take at least a month to be made. So I know he’s not even meeting our end-of-year timeline. There’s still hope for you!