(Closed) Didn't ask dads permission over thanksgiving :( – vent

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My parents were with us about a month before Christmas and I thought Darling Husband would ask my dad then, but he didn’t. My parents live a plane ride away, so I figured it wasn’t happening that year. He ended up asking my dad about an hour before he asked me on Christmas day though, so don’t give up hope! 

Post # 4
3766 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re in the home stretch! Just try to focus on the other awesome parts of the holidays. Your time will come πŸ™‚

Post # 6
6524 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe he really did ask and he’s trying to throw you off. πŸ˜‰

My SO took my dad to lunch the day he proposed. That in itself is not unusual, because they have lunch a few times a week. However, I was mad that he didn’t invite me. I called him to ask if he wanted to get lunch and he told me he’d already eaten with my dad. I was like “dude, thanks for calling me”..lol. Turns out, he was “asking” (more like telling him) and he proposed that night. 

Be patient. He’s got the ring, so you know it’s going to happen.

Post # 7
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

The timing and feeling of a moment is very important to some men, including my Fiance. I know you’re just venting but I would advise you to calm down and let him do this at his own pace. This is one of the few things that is traditionally left up to a man to decide on and do.

Your personal preference of WANTING to be engaged by Christmas may not be as much of a priority to him as asking your fathers permission at a time, place, and in a manner that feels right to him. If this is so, I think you should leave him be. You should be thankful you have much more certainty in your situation than other waiting bees πŸ™‚

Post # 8
1382 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Laur12:  Patience, dear..Wink

I had no idea that my Fiance was gonna propose, but apparently everyone else in my family knew and kept it a secret!  If I were your bf, I would purposely NOT do it during Thanksgiving to throw you off haha

Post # 10
628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh I’m right there with you! My SO has had the ring for about two weeks now. We had thanksgiving over at my house this year. Him and my dad were outside most of the time because dad was deep frying the turkey. I thought he would ask him then but since my SOs cousin was out there with him he said the timing and situation wasn’t right. So no worries you’re not alone

Post # 11
191 posts
Blushing bee

Paitence is a virtue.   I know your anxious and as the other ladies on here said timing is important to him.  You know it’s going to come just hold on dear.

Post # 12
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Mine didn’t either…and he was sitting in front with him for a 5 hour car ride to see my grandmother and my Aunt’s family in DC! but today he told me he has progressed in the ring purchasing proccess….so…thats good…

I told him in August I hoped he would ask my folks for their blessing…I hope he doesnt forget that part.

Post # 13
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s possible he did ask and said he didn’t to throw you off…..my Darling Husband did that to me over Xmas the year we got engaged.

Post # 14
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Sigh, I hear you. I thought my SO was going to propose during our Thanksgiving trip or at least ask my dad then. Neither happened. It’s okay to whine a bit about it πŸ™‚ It sucks because you know it’s going to happen, and you know you’re going to get married so just ask already!! I guess I’m holding my breath for Christmas now. >.<

Post # 15
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Laur12:  As long as your timeline is unshakable he’ll have to eventually. If you have no timeline he could use this as a stalling tactic.

Post # 16
513 posts
Busy bee

Oh honey, I could have written your post. We just have to be patient. At least he bought the ring. My SO still hasn’t and it’s going to take at least a month to be made. So I know he’s not even meeting our end-of-year timeline. There’s still hope for you!

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