Didn't bring a card, ridiculous registry

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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2657 posts
Sugar bee

Worst case scenario is they intentionally didn’t bring you a gift or card.  Best case scenario is the card was lost, not recorded, or they just forgot to bring it.  Regardless, what’s done is done and you should take the high road.  Bring a card to their wedding at the very least.  It’s up to you whether to include a gift.  Personally, if I included a gift, I would write a modest check and ignore the registry.  

Post # 6
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2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would bring a card, and a gift card to one of the places they registered at.  

Post # 7
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@CrazyCatLady88:  I honestly never understand people who get peeved over what people choose to register for. If you don’t want to purchase off the registry et something else or give them cash or a gift card. It’s nothing to get upset about. A registry is a wish list. If they want Vera wang china they can wish for it all they want, doesn’t mean anyoe has to buy it.

Post # 8
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1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Payless:  +1 

How rude that they should show up at your wedding empty handed and then ask for an expensive gift themselves only a few months later! I wouldn’t dream of buying them anything.  Nuh-uh! 

Post # 9
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@CrazyCatLady88:  Is it possible they didn’t bother with a gift because they figured their wedding was coming and you’d be attending so the gifts would just cancel eachother out? Just a thought. 

Post # 10
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@CrazyCatLady88:  I would bring a card with whatever the cash amount I would have spent had they had a more thoughtful registry. 

Post # 11
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Bring a cash amount you are comfortable with + a card.

Post # 12
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1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MrsWBS:  Really, you don’t have to buy stuff off the registry? I learn something new every day. I thought it was either buy from the registry or don’t show up at the wedding (or show up empty handed which is quite rude where I come from). 

In my defence, a wedding registry is still a fairly new concept in my country. While some stores offer it very few people actually use it – I don’t know anyone who has or intends to. Most people ask for money.  

Post # 13
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401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I completely agree that it’s rude to only register for expensive items. There are tons of nice kitchen gadgets everyone needs that are less than $20. I would never expect everyone attending my wedding to spend $100.

Post # 14
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would give them just a card!

Post # 15
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

MrsWBS +1

If there’s nothing on the registry within the price range you want take the money you were going to use to buy the gift and stick it in a card.

Post # 16
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1251 posts
Bumble bee

@MsMeow:  A registry is just a guide so people know what you could use/ what you might want. It is not obligatory. 

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