- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
A friend of my fiance’s is getting married about three weeks before us. Their save the date came in the mail to my fiance’s house over the weekend and it was addressed just to him. I completely understand that “plus ones” add to the cost of their wedding and they know my fiancé a lot better than me (although we have all hung out several times before), but it seems like generally you include the dates of people who are in a serious relationship. Since our wedding is 3 weeks after theirs, it seems like that would qualify.
Now, I hate when people are rude and assume they are invited, so I’m obviously not going make a fuss about not being invited to their wedding, but it makes me feel weird about inviting them to our wedding – which we are planning to do. We’re sending out our save the dates soon and I’m still planning to send one addressed to both of them. I just feel weird that since we happened to set our date a few weeks after theirs, they don’t feel “obligated” to invite me, but there is no way we could not invite both of them since they will be married by then (and we would have invited them both anyway). Sorry for the gripe – I hope this doesn’t come across as petty. Just wondering if this has happened to anyone else.