Post # 1
On the way to work this morning, the radio hosts were talking to this woman who didn’t like the ring that her FI had given her. They started asking, is that okay? do I tell him? etc. when then they announced: she picked it out herself.
she picked it out herself and now she doesn’t like it.
I don’t know. At first, my thoughts were, girl, if he doesn’t know what you want, you probably weren’t ready to talk about being married. But then when I found out it was what she had chosen, I sort of stopped having sympathy.
I felt like it would be one thing if she told him and he didn’t listen, or got it wrong, or tried to surprise her. But it’s another when she knew exactly what it was going to look like.
Thoughts? Have you had ring regret, when it was your own fault? What did you do?
Post # 3
In my first marriage, I guess I technically picked out the ring. The salesperson and my ex-husband bullied me into trying on diamonds that were bigger than what I wanted and then forced me to pair them with wedding bands that had diamonds when I wanted a plain band. I was looking at one of the combinations on my finger and trying to decide if I liked it when my ex-husband shooed me out of the store and then bought that ring combo.
I never liked either ring too much (the e-ring or the wedding band), but I could tolerate the wedding band on its own, so I wore it that way most of the time. I never really talked about it because I thought I should have spoken up and put my foot down about how I didn’t love the rings.
So I guess technically I had ring regret on a ring that I picked out.
Post # 4
@sailor_girl: yes but that sounds like it technically wasn’t your fault. It wasn’t the one you loved and begged for! I think your situation was justified!
Post # 5
I had a bit of ring regret even though I picked mine out. It wasn’t until I started to try to find a wedding band, though. NOTHING looked good against the engagement ring because of how thick it was. It looked beautiful on its own, but not paired with anything, which really bummed me out and made me love it less. If my fiance and I had stayed together, I probably would have reset my diamond later on down the line.
Post # 6
@MissOtter: True, but I didn’t stand up for myself either! I bet if I’d told my ex that I didn’t like the ring, he would have said, “But you picked it out!!”
That’s probably not the situation they’re describing. It sounds like she’s just being fickle. LOL.