Post # 1
There are all these RULES about invitations, and I’m not a rule follower. I’m a fly by the seat of your pants major procrastinator. And what’s with all the rules on addressing things? I have so many family members and friends who chose to not take their Darling Husband last names. I’m not going to take his either. I addressed one envelope, thinking I could do it myself, but it looks horrible(not pretty handwriting), and its so long! MR, and Mrs, and family… it takes up the whole length of the envelope!!!
I just wonder, how many people really care what the invitations look like? I mean, will they notice I didn’t use coordinating papers? Will they notice any of this? I think all they want to know is where to go, when and how to respond right? I mean, I took a lot of time regarding what was written on the invite. I’m freaking out. The template didn’t work right for my invites, and I spent HOURS trying to figure it out, brought in other people to figure it out, and it still wouldn’t print right. I think we have it taken care of, but it’s just so frustrating! I still don’t have anything printed, and I need to get these out by the 20th(my own deadline)
Ok, so i’m going to go and buy some cream paper, go get clear labels, and screw ettiqute on this.
Sorry about the rambling vent, I’m just frustrated, and there are times I just want to cry. I wish we had the money to have someone else do this for us, but I don’t… 🙁
Post # 3
I just received an invite in the mail for my nephew’s wedding in May. I don’t have a clue if my name and address were hand written on the front of the envelope. I do know that they included “and Guest” instead of my fiance’s name (which they know) and the inside envelope had “Kim” hand written on it, when they know I go by Kimberly. I don’t care about how the outside envelope is written (typed, hand, etc), as long as names are right I think you’re good to go.
My plan for invitations is: I know my family, they are not formal. We are not inviting any person who would find it appaling that the envelopes were not hand addressed. Because of this, I feel no pressure to hand write the invitations. However, I probably will because it’s only about 40 invitations, I love addressing envelopes, and the only semi-artistic talent I have is handwriting.
Post # 4
@kimberlyr22: I wish I only had 40! I think I have about 75, and I keep forgetting people, our total is 135 guests, including children. My wedding will be very kid friendly, and THAT is the part I’m looking forward to. If my Fiance wasn’t so cute about me walking down the aisle in a wedding dress, I’d just go to JCPENNY or something and get a nice sun dress. 🙂 A lot of this wedding stuff I’m doing because HE really wants a more tradtional wedding. And once you do something semi traditional all the rest needs to match… that much I agree with.
Thank you for the support, it’s hard when you start reading all these things about what to do and what not to do regarding addressing people. Part of my freak out was that I’m starting a new job and I thought I was starting tomorrow, but it turns out, not all the background check stuff has come back, so i have a little more time to deal with all these problems. WHEW!
I think I just need to stick to what is acceptable to me, and remember that it is my wedding.
Post # 5
@simplicity76: We just finished ours last night, all 100 of them! And it was about 25 hours of cutting, sticking and stuffing lol. And a lot of frustrations. But they look great, we are happy, and they are in the mail today!
As far as labels, we had dark brown envelopes…clear labels did NOT work, infact they looked like complete rubbish. We ended up just pringting them on plain kraft cardstock 8.5 x 11 sheets, bought some funky edged scissors, cut and pasted them. They look fantastic! WIll be posting pics shortly, so check it out, it was really easy!
Good luck, they are a lot of work, but really rewarding too!
Post # 6
Using clear labels… I REFUSE to do all that writing, even if I have good handwriting.
Post # 7
When I was planning my wedding stuff, I always tried to remember that I was the most critical of all of my plans and that my guests wouldn’t be looking at the little things the same way I was.
I broke some etiquette “rules” in my invitations and elsewhere in my wedding. And you know what? All of my family still loves me and all of my friends are still my friends. I’m not sure anyone noticed or cared.
We definitely had frustrations trying to get our invitations all set to go, as well. But we got through it and got them out and it was a great feeling to start getting RSVPs back. Hang in there!
Post # 8
I only notice the small details on invites because I’ve been through hell with making my own invites. I don’t think before I was engaged I even knew the proper wording or that clear address labels were taboo. *gasp* the horror!
The bottom line is: the invites will make it to the destination, all the information is on there. No one else, but you and another ex-bride or bride to be will know the proper ettiquete of all this junk. The envelope goes in the trash within a minute of them opening it and the invitation will soon be in the trash as well. So don’t let yourself get stressed out over this. Trust me, it’s not worth it.
Post # 9
I broke several rules when it came to my invitation. Just do what would be acceptable in your circle.
P.S. – I used wrap around labels on my PURPLE envelopes.
Post # 10
I notice the small things as well. Can you just print on your envelopes instead of using labels?
Post # 11
I used clear labels on my invites. Then I got an invite with clear labels. meh. I didn’t like it so I decided to handwrite my families addresses. I was drinking wine so they all came out askew. I am very anal and type A and stuff like that really bothers me so I totally get why people hire calligraphers. I am not gonna beat myself up about it though. Oh well! My advice? Don’t stress about it TOO much. While I feel that an invite should match the wedding ( formal, casual etc.) I also don’t think its worth severe stress over ( doesn’t sound like you have severe stress though)
Post # 12
We tried clear labels on dark brown envelopes…BAD, so incredibly bad. We ended up printing on paper, then cutting with funky edged scissors, and glue taping them on. Turned out awesome!
I tried wrap labels. Didn’t work for me, couldn’t get the hang of it at all,
Post # 13
Well, I went and bought some clear labels, and some ivory paper, so the various inserts “match” I had so much problem with the templates that I don’t want to mess with the envelopes, as being an admin assistant, I know what a hassle it can be! I have SO much work to do that its a little overwhelming. I have no friends here, so it’s just me and my Fiance, all the guests are from out of town… MY Fiance works about 70 to 80 hours a week, so he’s not a lot of help….it’s either sleep, or help… since he only gets like 4 hours of sleep… I can’t expect him to help me! But i have all the printing, all the stuffing and i have one or two more inserts to design, to say I’m freaking out a bit would be a major understatement!!
Post # 14
I sent out close to 200 invitations, but I addressed all of them in an evening. I have nice handwriting, so it was easy for me to do, but a lot of work.
Post # 15
Am I going to etiquette hell if I put “and Guest” on the envelopes for single guests and/or guests where I don’t know if they have a SO? I only have about 25 out of 120 that are like that, and most are FI’s friends that are single/divorced. Or should I leave off the “and Guest” since I put it on the Save the Date already, do you think they will know to bring a date or get confused?
I looked it up before I addressed the Save the Dates (guess I used the wrong etiquette site), and now suddenly I found out I’m not supposed to do that and not supposed to print the addresses on the envelopes? ugh. Fiance says screw the rule, leave the and Guest and print the envelopes, it looks nice.
Sorry to threadjack but the whole thing is confusing and annoying!
Post # 16
@sehrler: We can go to ettiqutte hell together! I’m putting and guest… or if I know who the person’s SO is, then i’m putting that. I think they will definitely get confused if you put one and not the other. I would think you changed your mind about inviting a guest! (that might save you money!! haha)
Ok, back to my hell….