Post # 1
Our wedding is over (FAAAABULOUS BTW!) and I realized we didn’t recieve cards, registry items or gifts from some people. Some of these people i really would assume would give us a gift so I’m wondering if I should follow-up with them or just assume they didn’t send anything??
What’s the rule on this? I’d hate for something to be lost in the mail or the universe if they intended on it getting to us? Of course on the other hand, it woul dbe really awkward to ask them about it if they didn’t send anything.
Post # 3
If they did get you a gift and don’t receive a thank-you, they’ll follow up with you. I would not follow up with them. There were a few people who we didn’t receive anything from who I would have thought we would, but it’s not my place to say anything.
Post # 4
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They have up to a year to send you a gift. You can send a thank you for attending but if you followed up with ‘where is my gift?’ I probably would not speak to you again. Not only that but there is no entrance fee for a wedding…you should never expect a gift in the first place.
(sorry, I have pms, wedding insomnia and very little patience right now)
Post # 6
I wouldn’t follow up. Be happy they shared your day with you…that should be enough!
Post # 7
@WillyNilly: Ewww! If you know you are pmsing, tired, whatever, why bother responding to posts that irritate you? Do you not have better things to do with your time?
(Sorry – guess I’m pmsing too!)
Post # 8
Do not follow up with them. It’ll make you look “gift-grabby” as well as ungrateful.
Also, guests have up to a year to send a gift to the couple.
Now, if you see on your registry someone purchased a gift and it hasn’t gotten to you after an extended period of time, then it might make sense to check in with them and let them know that you see they ordered you a gift but you haven’t yet recieved it.
There’s no rule that people attending your wedding must bring gifts.
Post # 9
@furtureffcaptwife: I totally agree having a wedding is not about what you can get out of people.. Be happy !!! We arent asking for any gifts we just want everyone to come and enjoy themselves…
Post # 10
I wouldn’t say anything. If time goes by and they don’t get a thank you, then they will reach out to you. But it’s not polite to ask people why they didn’t get you a gift; it makes it really awkward for them!
Post # 11
@VegasSukie: I almost didn’t recognize you bc you have no avatar! When are we doing a Marry one, f one, kill one thread again…those were awesomeeee! 🙂 lol
Post # 12
@ VegasSukie: EXACTLY!!!! PMS cant be the excuse for all the time !!!
Post # 13
sorry…forgot to put my comment on the question. I would not follow up with them, I would let them contact you. Contacting them about a gift would definitely rub some people the wrong way.
Post # 14
Send them a thank you for sharing your day and leave it at that. There’s just no gracious way to ask if they sent a gift or not.
Post # 15
AS everyone else said, I would not follow up with them. You will come across as gift grabby and will put the guest in a very akward position.
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
I agree with what the rest of the girls said, and in my opinion its extremely tacky to even think about asking a guest if they got a gift for you…its not an obligation! be happy they spent the day with you and celebrated with you. send them a thank you for attending and leave it at that.