(Closed) Didn't think I'd be posting one of these….

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Let him know in exactly these terms. :-/ Sorry he’s being so flakey

Post # 4
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847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sorry, Dear. I don’t have much advice for you. Just wanted to say I’m sorry he is acting this way. It is strange considering how enthusiatic he was about being a bridesmaid. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@LadyElva:  I wonder if there is a new love in his life that is distracting him. Sorry about what has happened hun. I am sure there will be a good reason.I hope you get it all sorted…x

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@LadyElva First off we are date twins 🙂

I am also going through a similar situation as you with my “bestie” guy friend who hasnt responded if hes coming to the wedding and when i asked about it the 5th time he responded “send me the invitaiton and ill give you my answer” <— wack right? we’re suppose to be best friends.

So on your situation.. it could be a couple of things: first he was into you and doesnt know how to deal with the fact that you’re getting married which could be the reason he doesnt respond (my situation). Or it could be that he is going through some things in his personal life and doesnt respond because he doesnt want to bring you down from this happy time in your life. Maybe ask if you could talk to him or hang out (non wedding related) and see if he opens up to you.

Post # 8
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry you’re going through this.  It is so hard dealing with a one-sided friendship, especially with an event as important as your wedding coming up!  

My advice would be to lay it all out there for him.  Let him know that with the wedding being so close, measurements are needed right now if he still wants to be in the wedding.  Give him a deadline.  Since you are fairly sure he is seeing your messages and just not responding, giving him a deadline puts the ball in his court.

I would also include that it would not hurt your feelings if he would rather not be in the wedding after all.  Let him know that it is extremely important to you that he is present, however.  Tell him you don’t want to lose contact with him and have been trying hard to keep this friendship going.

I think the most important part is to let him know how important he is to you.  There’s no need to get into the gritty details of “who did what” especially this close to the wedding.  Also, he needs to know that this is it:  either he is in the wedding or not, as of your specified deadline, but that either way you just need him there!

 

Hope this helps, let us know what ends up happening Smile

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