Post # 1
And now people are adding guests!
I know, I should have listened to the bees! We chose an invite design that didn’t work with the __ of ___(number) invited RSVP card format.
I talk to most of the guests on a regular basis and they know we are having an adult only wedding and reception. We sent out invites last week and have started to receive responses. One of the FI’s friends added their child to the RSVP card. The invite was addressed to Mr and Mrs X, not The X Family. Since it’s the FI’s friend that I have never met, he is going to contact him and explain its an adult only event.
I changed the wording on our wedding website to say “adult only”. I’m not sure if there is anything else I can do at this point.
Post # 3
I’m sorry about your problems! Did you have an inner envelope that said exactly who was invited? I think I would call the people who added their children and tell them that you’re sorry but the kids can’t come.
Post # 4
We didn’t use inner envelopes, just wrote out the names on the front of the envelope. Maybe people don’t pay attention to the addressees on the outside as much.
The FI promised to call his friends. I’m just hoping this doesnt become a problem with a lot of guests.
Post # 5
its got nuthing to do with whats on the envelopes. some folks just assume their kids are invited to everything even if they arent. people dont pay attention to ettiquite anymore!
good luck. and stick to your guns. i am trying to do that – and i HAD the ___ of ___ on my RSVPS! lol
Post # 6
You did good changing your website to say “Adult Reception” that should help get the word out there. On the cases of people adding to their party I would just call them up and let them know that only the people whose name appeared on the invite are invited to the reception, obviously in a nice way:) Good luck!!!!
Post # 7
We didn’t write in # of guests and had no inner envelope, but we nipped this one in the bud by wording the reception card: Adult reception (Adults only sounded a little harsh). A few people asked if they could bring kids, and we politely demurred. Others brought kids to the ceremony only which was fine. It was nice to include kids somewhere. I heard from most adults that they were pleased to have a night off from the kids, so try that angle.