Didn't you want a surprise?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
3360 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I agree.  It’s totally personal preference, but I think it’s a wonderful surprise whether you find out during your anatomy scan or in the delivery room.  Congrats on your baby boy!

Post # 4
2256 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Sunshine09:  100% yes! I have never understood that. We plan to find out if our little babe is a boy or a girl as soon as we can, and you bet we’ll be just as surprised as if we waited until the birth. I would also argue that “surprised” doesn’t really accurately depict the situation. I mean, I’m pretty sure it’ll be a boy or a girl, so there’s not really much “surprise” there. Now, if I give birth to a giraffe? That would be a surprise!

Post # 5
2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That was odd.  I could not NOT find out.  I need to prep LOL.  It is still a surprise when the baby is born whether you know if its a girl or boy: no one knows what baby will look like so that is a huge surprise in itself.

Post # 6
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Sunshine09:  I would like to wait to find out, but FI wouldn’t. I think the idea is just drawing out the surprise as long as possible. I think I will be more surprised when I find out after 9 months of waiting and x hours of child birth rather than a few months in.

I don’t know what we will end up doing though as both FI and I are adament.

Post # 7
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Most people I know don’t find out. My sis (who’s pregnant now) doesn’t want to know and if I ever have babies then I would prefer not to know until he/she was born. Maybe it’s a bit of a cultural thing? Or a family thing?

Post # 8
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree – you are surprised either way – the day you find out. I figure by finding out I get two days of fun surprises – the day I find out if it is a boy or girl, and the day I get to meet them and see what they look like. 

Post # 9
7188 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We were definitely surprised when we found out we were having a girl. We videotaped our reaction, and it’s very clear to see how surprised we were!

Post # 10
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

weird that she asked you and then surprised when you answered that you knew.


Post # 11
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

People keep asking me if it’s going to be a surprise, and look confused when I reply “It will be a great surprise, I can’t wait to find out at my 14-week appointment!” (My doctor does blood testing to determine sex, which is awesome)

It’s going to be a surprise now or then, and I’m not buying only yellow and green for my angel or princess!


Post # 12
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’re team green and this even annoys me. People say, “oh, you want to be surprised?” Well, I’m pretty sure we’d be surprised no matter when we find out. It also annoys me when people say, “Are you going to find out the gender?” Yes, we are going to find out, when the baby is born.

Post # 13
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Sunshine09:  there is no way i could wait. i want to be fully prepared (colors, and all) when the child is born! and yes, you’re right, it IS a surprise when you find out! to each his own! 

Post # 14
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree. To each their own – I have a family member who is waiting until birth which is fine and that’s her decision, but it’s annoying when she talks about it because she always trys to sway others who are pregnant into waiting for the “surprise” like she is.

Post # 15
4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Sunshine09:  Totally agree. I want to find out- there is never a time when I would not want to get to know more about my baby:)

Post # 16
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I want to find out as early as possible because the first time I was pregnant I had really bad morning sickness and ended up in the hospital, so I think knowing the gender will help me bond and comfort me when I am having a really bad sick day.  A little more info: my maternal grandmother had bad morning sickness like I do and she ended up being sick throughout all four of her pregnancies right up until labor and delivery.  I made it only 7 weeks and the MS was maddening; to the point I truly felt like I was going crazy.

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