Post # 1
I’ve heard both these terms used and I don’t know if there is a difference. Also, I know that a lot of people I know have had multiple showers. Is this the norm? I just don’t really get the whole bridal shower concept I guess. Does my mom throw it? Does my MoH throw it? Do they collaborate? When is it supposed to be?
If you can’t already tell, I have no idea how this works. I’ve only been to one but wasn’t a BM or family so I wasn’t in on the inner workings of the party.
Post # 3
My guess is that a wedding shower and a bridal shower are the same thing. I don’t know if it’s the norm but I know of brides who have had multiple showers and I will also be having more than one shower. I always invisioned having just one shower but it won’t work because my family and FI’s family live too far apart. One is being thrown by my FMIL and my mom and bridesmaids will host a second one.
As far as when it is supposed to be – I don’t know if there’s a proper answer to this but probably anytime within the 6-month mark of your wedding. You should talk to your mom and MOH/bridesmaids about who will be throwing it….maybe they don’t really know what to do either and are waiting for direction from you. Good luck!
Post # 4
I believe they are the same thing. Many people have multiple showers, and it depends on if people offer to throw you one. (Family I think you can discuss it with). My sisters are throwing one for my family, and my sister IL’s are throwing me one for my FI side. My girlfriends decided with the first person getting married that we would skip showers, and just combine them with the bach party.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I think wedding and bridal showers are the same thing. Why multiple showers? I’m having two: my grandma wanted to throw me one in December (when all of my friends, pretty much, are out of state visiting their families for the holidays–we are grad students and I’m the only one local to my university), and my MOH wanted to throw me one, which she is able to do whenever I want (like in January or February!). So I’m inviting family members (mine and FI’s) and local friends to the first, and all of my girlfriends to the second. I know it’s weird, but when people want to do things for me I don’t want to tell them no. 😉
As far as who throws it, generally it’s considered to be bad form to have a relative host (seems gift-grabby? I guess?), but my parents had never heard this etiquette rule before and I don’t think anyone cares. Good timing is usually soon before or after invitations go out, and you should only invite people who have also been invited to your wedding.
Post # 6
Haha I HOPE they aren’t expecting direction from me! The blind leading the blind…
I’ve heard of like lingerie showers which are generally for a younger crowd (i.e. I don’t want to open a gift with sexy lingerie in it in front of my mom, FMIl and grandma…) Do people do this as like a “shower” thing or is it a bachelorette party thing?
Post # 7
They’re the same thing. Wedding and bridal are synonyms of each other.
Post # 8
I think they’re the same thing. My way of thinking (probably wrong) is that a wedding shower is a more modern term and is more inclusive of the groom.
Post # 9
They are the same thing!
And how many you get depends on how many people are willing to throw you one!
Generally family are NOT supposed to throw you a shower because the idea is to “shower” the bride with gifts and if the family throws it it looks like the family is gift grabbing for you!!
Traditionally the MOH and bridesmaids are supposed to host the shower!
Another note about showers is only people coming to your wedding should come to your shower and this is when I think showers get out of hand because often work places throw showers for employees but often the people attending are NOT invited to the wedding and so it is a little awkward!!!
Post # 10
Oh OK good I’m glad it’s supposed to be the MoH/BMs because I really don’t want my mom to host it. I’m having enough issues with her during the engagement party planning right now and I don’t think I could deal again.
And I pretty much hate everyone I work with so if they did throw me a work thing, which I doubt they would because they are all selfish and cheap, I wouldn’t really feel bad not inviting them…
Post # 11
Technically they are the same thing, though in general a bridal shower is a girls only party and a wedding shower tends to be guys and girls.
As far as throwing it, etiquette is that your immediate family doesnt throw it for you (parents or siblings) because this a a party where guests bring gifts. Your fam can throw you an engagement party with no etiquette issues because its not a “gift” party.