(Closed) Difference in opinion on wedding size, and to invite the extended family or not?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
674 posts
Busy bee

Lay it out for him. Make a list and show him how it adds up faster than one might think. And don’t even mention the idea to him that you would invite only half of a married couple. That’s not appropriate to split married couples. Just accept that they come as a pair.

If he insists on something so small that it will cause drama, then you might just consider eloping.

Post # 5
40 posts
  • Wedding: May 2007

Invite only your parents, grandparents, siblings (if your Fiance has any), nieces/nephews (if your FI has any)…immediate family only.   And, maybe, plan everything for your wedding and only give your parents/grandparents a few weeks notice of the actual wedding date, and have them keep it quiet until you are married.  It may go easier knowing the event is already over and nobody was invited, then to have your extended family or your friends feel as though they were left out on your wedding day.

WWIII isn’t worth it.

Post # 6
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

To me, it’s always best to use the same guidelines when it comes to guest list, so I happen to agree – with the cousins, it’s all or nothing.

Also, not inviting someone’s spouse is quite possibly worse than not inviting them at all to some people, especially if you are close.

Post # 7
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree with the above posters – if you invite one cousin, you should invite them all. Also – why is your boyfriend picking your MOH? Of course he should approve of your choice, but if you have a friend in mind who’s a better choice, why go with the cousin who causes invite problems? 

Post # 9
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry you’re going to need to invite spouses!! I would not be happy if someone asked me to watch their wedding and didn’t respect my marriage enough to invite my Darling Husband.

Invite who you want. I don’t think you have to invite all your cousins if you only talk to one of them. Your parents might be upset though if you didn’t invite their siblings.

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