(Closed) Differences of opinions…

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would just go through the budget with him. If he can find a way to afford a sit down dinner, I’d let him have it. But if he sees all the budget, money, and things you need to get laid out in front of him, that might change his mind.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

@Gerber:If that’s his only request then you should find a way to make it work.

Post # 5
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

That is difficult. We actually had the local legion ladies make our sit down dinner and it was amazing (roast beef or chicken, potatoes, 2 different kinds of vegetables, 3 different kinds of buns, a couple salads and beautiful desserts) – it was only 13 dollars a plate and they served it!

I think you just have to look around for an option that works for both of you! Good luck!

Post # 6
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5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Whenever my FI feels strongly about something I try to make it work. So little about the wedding day seems to be focused on the groom. Can you shop around for a cheaper catering option?

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Gerber: Sit down dinners are more elegant, but I think buffet is the way to go.  Besides, it doesn’t matter much anyway.  Tell him he loses this one!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Gerber: Don’t stress!  This planning stuff is fun.  It isn’t meant to be stressful!  If you want to cut costs with alchohol, pay for beer and wine only.  Have cash bar for liquor drinks.  I would reccommend having open bar/beer and wine only during the cocktail hour when you are taking your pictures.  This is the time to offer drinks to your guests….along with small plates of food/appetizers.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

If its really important to him, try to make it happen.  Either way, sit down with him and go over the budget together so he understands what is driving your decision.

Most of the places we looked at were about the same price for a sit down dinner and a buffet.  Actually a sit down dinner is cheaper in many cases (less food goes to waste).

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If  it is really important to him I would find a way to make it happen. Can you cut costs from somewhere else?

Post # 12
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

$35 per head for a meal isn’t bad. can you cut your guest list some?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Im strictly a sit down dinner kind of girl but I do understand how much more expensive it can be. If its the only thing he wants, id sit him down explain it & see what compromises you can make to make it work. You have a lot of guest, I would maybe cut them down a little bit & take on a lot of diy projects. (get FI involved)

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

When there was something that my FI felt strongly about (rare) I would make it work HOWEVER in this case, I would probably show him the budget.  Honestly, I’m not sure how you can make sit down dinner, with that guest list count and budget, work.  You have 4k left over which would cover dress, video, and photog with no money for decor and other misc items.  Unless you want to sacrifice the quality of those items.

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